i straight up don't like having friends. i always feel like i have to perform, like i can't just be myself. it's exhausting. i don't like constantly having to take others into account either. i just want to go my own way and do things on my terms.i actually enjoy being alone, going to restaurants or movies by myself. and when i do spend time with someone, it's with my brother. i don't get the appeal of having a shit ton of friends.anyone else feel this way?
>>84298061People are kind of annoying cucks anyway.
I haven't had any real friends for like 20 years and while I enjoy being by myself the downside is you're completely cut off from everything and it's basically impossible to meet women since being a loner is a massive red flag to them. It's much worst now with social media as they can just look you up and see you're a complete loser with no photos of yourself with other people.
You need to just find your people. You shouldn't need to be fake or perform because when you're friends with the right people because you will all see the world a similar way and hold the same opinions anyway.In the meantime don't bother hanging out with people you genuinely don't like or don't feel like you can be yourself around. I am by myself a lot of the time too, but I make an effort to hang out with the two people I've found that respect the way I live my life and see the world a similar way to me. Find friends you actually like and respect.
emo looking ahh niggaYeah, it's tiring for someone who have never socialized much and has to constantly consciously analyze the situation. These instincts should've been learned as a young child.
>>84299538>You need to just find your people.himself>don't bother hanging out with people you genuinely don't like or don't feel like you can be yourself aroundI'm not the OP, but the problem is that these people might not exist.>but I make an effort to hang out with the two peopleDidn't you tell a sentence earlier that you shouldn't be fake nor perform? What's that "effort"?
>>84298061>anyone else feel this way?YES BABY
>>84299574There are always going to be people in the world who share your views and opinions or at least a significant amount of them for you to be good friends. You are not a special snowflake, there are millions of people with the same views as you.>effortFor me effort is getting invited to something, maybe you don't really care about it that much but you want to see your friends so you take a shower, get dressed and get your ass over there. You don't have to pretend that you are super excited to be there you're just there to hang out and see what happens. Being fake on the other hand is pretending to be excited about things you don't actually care about, agreeing with people on things you don't actually agree with, making up people-pleasy excuses to avoid going to things instead of just showing up or telling someone straight up youre not interested.
>>84299635>There are always going to be people in the world who share your views and opinionsprobably? but is there a need to seek them out?>You don't have to pretendhehe, if I was a nitpicking autist, I'd say that taking a shower is pretending I'm not a lazy slobanyway both I and seemingly OP consider seeing our acquaintances by itself to be tiring, so having to make even more effort makes it even more of a waste of time>You are not a special snowflakefinally someone used "special" as "unique" rather than "delicate", like that expression came to be
>>84299671You don't have to seek friendships out if you don't want to, but you can start by not turning away the opportunities that get given to you.Start saying yes to every invite you get instead of giving people excuses for example.Start at least being open to the possibility of becoming friends with people that you meet.You can only get things that you want. If you enter every social interaction with the mindset that you will never be friends with this person then that is exactly what you will manifest.
>>84299710>You don't have to seek friendships out if you don't want towell, the thread is about not wanting to(I think) OP was not complaining about being lonely, but just wondering if someone also does not feel lonely while being alone>the opportunitieshuh?>invitehuh?>people you meethuh?
>>84299740Do you not have a job that you go to?
>>84299835currently no, thankfully I got myself a disability checkused to wagie at a warehouse and half of the co-oworkers were foreigners and another half were not socializing with me, neither I was talking with them
