Love and dating is a way of escaping from how society treats you. A romantic bond is the one social relationship where the whole point is that you're supposed to be understood and appreciated on your own merits, as opposed to hiding your unique qualities away in order to be a more efficient worker, a better student, a sociable person, not a disappointment to your family, etc.
being loved for you is a meme. You should sit down with a piece of paper and try putting into words what you actually mean with that meme, guarantee you won't reach the philosophical depths beyond the normies grasp you think you will. It will be mostly actions.
