your weekend assignment is to research attachment theory
>>84335672except secure, literally me. I just call it "being fucked up"
>>84335672I am the fearful-dismissive style. I have trained for many years and can attach to even the most adult of adults.
>>84335672>research attachment theoryno!
Sorry anon, no it isn't. Self-help and ego psychology isn't welcome.
> severely emotionally neglected in childhood. family scapegoat. given crumbs of conditional lovewhat am I?beyond over. The only way I can survive is isolate myself. Being around people is legitimately bad for me. I associate humans with threat. and the absence of them, with safety.
>>84335672I fucking hate everyone and everything. What category is that?
Psychology is a bunch of hooey and should not be taken seriously. It's a cute hobby like magic crystals, but bad if people start believing this bullshit.
>>84335980This. Same thing as literature and computer science, fucking kek
>>84335672I'm fearful-avoidant. Or well I used to be. These days I'm just dead inside.
>>84335672This seems like astrology with a very thin candy-coated shell of science over it. I think I'm some type of mix of blue and yellow, but that's just SzPD.
>>84336238>This seems like astrology with a very thin candy-coated shell of science over it.Actually attachment theory is one of the most if not the most scientific method based branch of psychology.This is genuinely not pseudo-science like MBTI.
>Literally a mix of all the worst parts of the 3 "broken" typesI have never had a gf at 26 (but have had sex twice because my appearance isn't the issue) and this thread made me decide to relapse on hard drugs, let's fucking gooo
>>84335672i am a fearful avoidant chad ama
>I AM LE HECKIN ALL OF THEM I'M SO BROKEN PLEASE PITY MEgod shut up you fucking narcissiststake the quizhttps://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/
YAY THE GIRL IM TALKING TO IS FEARFUL-AVOIDANT AND TRAUMATIZED AND HAS AUTISM PLEASE DEAR GOD PLEASE KILL ME
>>84336857Im a man and like this. Need a woman to be feeling like you but with me instead
>>84336862TEACH ME. i'm legitimately close to caregiver burnout. caring and loving people like you is one of the hardest things i have ever done, and i'm the most emotionally stable person i know.
>>84335672What more is there to say? I have a disorganized style leaning towards the clingy side there's no cure for this longterm as far as I understand besides finding someone you can form a secure connection with. I still try, but it's hard seems like everyone is just a husk nowadays.
>>84335672>mfw fearful-avoidantI crave the touch of a woman so bad, and sometimes they really do give in and let me but holy shit the moment they give themselves to me I get sick to my stomach
>>84336892That's what happens when trauma wires intimacy as danger. Your physical response is very severe, means you've been carrying this untreated for a long while. Unlikely to meaningfully change without therapy.
>>84336918Therapy is pretty useless can you stop shilling for it I spent hundreds and thousands on it, it's just for losers who can't find friends
r9k being majority avoidant definitely fucking tracks
>>84336921Disagree, therapy is very useful if you actually want to change something. Dropping thousands of vbucks and hoping to magically get cured isn't realistic.
>>84335672my friend in the computer says that i'm closest to dismissive-avoidant, with schizoid style detachment and boundary sensitivity on top but that this framework doesn't really capture what's going on because it treats everything as approach vs avoidance when for some people it isnt about closeness but about boundary integrity. if i feel overridden or co-opted to any degree, behavior may look avoidant without actually being about fear of intimacy. this can subtle stuff like people just looking at me too intently. or kind of subtly pressuring me to be like them with their eye contact
so my situation may look identical to someone avoidant and even agoraphobic on the surface but to me its just the path of least resistance. think non-engagement rather than pushing people away or being actively passive
>>84335672this is absolute faggotry feminism tier bullshitany relationship where the woman has any level of independence will ALWAYS crash and burn through opportunities to cheat, greed, or losing attachment. women HAVE to be dependent on you for it to function. how do you know? the focus on 'securely attached' that happens to result in the absurd amount of divorces.
>>84335672women have to always be worried about being replaced otherwise they dont consider you something worth holding on to.
>>84335672This is a BPD dogwhistle
