how am i supposed to grow a backbone and not take everyone's insults personally? everytime someone insults or criticizes me, i always feel the need to defend myself. i can hardly detach myself to realize the standpoint from which the argument is coming from, instead, i always feel the need to defend myself. i really envy people who are able to brush off insults and criticism and just be themselves.>take more insults so that you can grow a backbone doesn't work for me, usually just makes me feel worse and makes me want to recluse for a while
It's a mindset thing. A lot of times people insult you out of their own insecurity. Maybe they insult you because they perceive you need to toughen up. It doesn't actually matter the reason. If I call you a faggot, are you suddenly lusting for cocks? No, my words are meaningless, they only have the meaning you give them. Your passionate denial is due to your own lacking certainty of yourself, you hope by denying me, you convince yourself.Man up faggot. I'm just a parrot who doesn't understand the words he's saying, why would you listen to me. CAW
>>84384072honestly just do anything that you perceive as having value>lift, learn to make art, play music, technical skills, etcliterally anything then when some fuck says "hey u stinky!" you can say to yourself "no im not stinky i do xyz faggot"
