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Why are you even on a dating app if this is how you're going to act?
I don't get it!
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>yes
>no
>haha
>ok
>wdym
>*ghost*
are all their dialogue options
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>>84393425
you forgot
>hey
>wyd
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>>84393414
you are bad at sending messages
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>>84393414
she's talking to 15 other dudes at the same time dude have some understanding.
women are just as capable of conversation and expressing their thoughts and feelings if they want to.
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>>84393447
He really is not.
>>84393450
Where is the understanding, she can still type something else other than three letters.
"Yes, It's actually blank blank" Idk shit about quartz
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>>84393447
what would be a good first message?
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>>84393492
she's busy typing to someone else and gave you an answer to your question.
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>>84393414
Kind of crazy how a good percentage of the population hasn't mentally developed past the level of my 12 year old cousins who text in exactly the same way as that pic. I think Vampire: Bloodlines the old RPG got women right, it's all input->output.
"Hey sexy"
>teehee
"you're so hot omg"
>teehee
"Wanna fuck?"
>teehee yeah

I'm convinced that would be way more effective than trying to actually talk to most of these bitches.
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>>84393501
She can still respond to something else.
She just isn't attracted, that is it
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they always say men cannot carry a conversation but the truth is its the eternal foid that is incapable of a conversation
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>>84393414
you're supposed to say
>finna replace that necklace with cum
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>>84393414
lmao roasties shitting on average looking men once again
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>>84393414
because it's clear he's not interested on her fucking necklace
>also asks a yes or no question
>gets a yes or no answer
>seethes
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>>84393691
you don't have to just answer yes or no, you're not a robot
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The man who posed the question doesn't care whether the necklace is quartz. He's not a geologist. He didn't live in Mt Timbuktu working in the quartz mines for 3 years after university. Instead the question comes from the school of thought that says "pick something about her appearance that she chose and had control over and compliment that".

Instead of coming across as genuine and sincere, there is a palpable air of contrivance to the question. It's not the true workings of this man's mind, it's a controlled and curated question that has been shaped very carefully to appear one way and not another. He can't come out and say "wow you are absolutely stunning" because the online hiveminds have warned him not to. Instead he ends up picking an item he doesn't care the least bit about and makes that the centre of his opening salvo.

It's all a falsehood. It's manufactured. He's not authentically being himself. And even if the reasons behind it are well-intentioned, it's not what women want to hear. They don't want to feel like they're talking to a man who has had to research what to say and what not to, which buttons to press and in which order. And even if all this isn't immediately obvious, it's still registering in her brain, deep down.
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>>84393425
>lol
>lmao
>funny
>nice
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>>84393746
it doesn't matter what women want to hear.
if you're attractive, she will flirt. if you're unattractive, she won't.
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>>84393414
Both answers are bad.
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>>84393414
>>84393425
women on dating apps will send you a three word reply and just expect you to work with it and be the most interesting man in the world
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>>84393746
what would you ask her to start a conversation?
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>>84393414
humiliation ritual.
i would unironically rather talk to foids here
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>>84393746
You yap a lot without saying anything.
>wow you are absolutely stunning
>thx <33
And the conversation ends all the same. If she's not interested, it means someone else is more interesting to her and not responding, so she's cutting through the boredom/waiting time by contacting some random guys she isn't going to be with in the first place. The moment that other guy responds, she'll not bother with the rest.
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>>84393761
I'm not denying more attractive men have it easier than uglier men. That doesn't mean however that ugly men don't further hurt their own prospects by being insincere, as in the case of the OP image quartz question.

>b-but attractive men are allowed to be insincere!

Once again, I don't deny that. But we're not talking about attractive men. We're dealing in the realm of ugly men like myself and yourself and presumably the ugly man who matched in the OP image. If you live in the set of ugly men, you are playing by the rules ugly men are subjected to. But if your long term goal is meeting a woman who you like, who likes you back, to be in a happy relationship, then you're hurting your chances by starting things off on a foundation of insincerity. It would be easier in the long run to just be yourself, as much as a cliche as that is, and see what sticks.
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>>84393787
Offer up a piece of yourself. Something you're actually interested in talking about, that you're into, that you hope she might be into, that you'd be happy and excited to talk with her about. Because you're a real flesh and blood person who has interests and feelings about things. Even though you run the risk of whichever little piece you offer up sinking like a lead balloon, of her not caring in the slightest, of her not finding what you find interesting or funny interesting or funny.

And then if you don't click, it's because the authentic YOU didn't click with her. And that's fine. It's not a moral failing. At the end of the day you're you and you won't be everyone's cup of tea and vice versa. But you'll find it easier to just... be yourself than feel like you're having to play a character all the time, saying all the right things, trying to appeal to the widest set of women.
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>>84393414
Couldn't you follow up on why you ask that question?

>>84393691
asking yes or no questions are awful ways of learning about anyone. You need to use eliciting statements if you want them to just talk about stuff.

>>84393705
Bro asking yes or no question is being about as functional as a fucking robot.
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>>84393787
>Taking a foid's comment seriously
NGMI.
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>>84393414
You're adding some thot showcasing her body like an item. Did you really expect some thoughtful and warm response from someone like that? You don't go fishing in the mud if you don't want to get dirty
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>>84393598
Right
Anything is better than whatever the fuck he is doing
You like hard rocks because I'm rock hard
I'll show you my chakra if you show me yours
Sweet looks like my jack off crystal but smaller wanna charge them together
I once fucked a guy that sent me a retarded angel from heaven joke because it segued into conversation and he was actually just nice
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>>84393414
First that is a scammer, second if you're not talking about how good she looks or sending her a subtle suggestive comment you aren't doing it right. It's a dating app or fucking app and if you aren't alluding to either you aren't doing it right
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>>84393885
there's nothing wrong with curating your questions and answers for someone. This idea that you have to be genuine all the time is just your preference being projected onto people.
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>>84393999
>Bro asking yes or no question is being about as functional as a fucking robot.
you're not locked into answering just yes or no. you can add more information like people do in real life when they talk to eachother.
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>>84393414
If hoes text me one word responses i just say "you're boring." And un match.
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>>84394356
you're not locked into asking yes or no questions are you? Are you telling me you can only ask yes or no questions and you need the other person to expand from there?

>you can add more information like people do in real life
- >It's not real life< -
No shit they talk more in the real world, they are stuck there to fill the space they have to give you. The fucking internet is not real life. Like are you just sitting there, waiting for me to post? No, you go do other shit and come back here, you might even get distracted by that other shit and not reply back here at all. When you send a text to someone it's very likely they are multitasking, so if you ask a "yes" or "no" question they are going to reply with a "yes" or "no" answer because they already have their attention split. The art to online conversation is making statements that provoke replies, ie eliciting statements, because it makes them stop and think so in turn they will have more to add in the reply.
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>>84394724
just making excuses for a girl who's boring as fuck
other women don't do this because it's not hard to give a better answer than "Yes"
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>>84394756
No excuses, that's just how things work. You know this, you are not just sitting here on 4chan waiting for replies. You are doing things around it, living your life. Dating apps are the same but on the next level because other guys are talking to her. OP claims he didn't understand why. Hopefully he understands now.
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>>84393691
tpbp
If she talked about her necklace he would be annoyed bc he a MAN and doesn't care
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>>84393746
But saying "you're absolutely stunning" would be just as insincere as asking about her necklace. What really comes to mind is how much I'd want to fuck her, and the ways I'd do it in. If I start a conversation with "what a great ass, I wanna eat it" I'm going to get reported and lose my account. As a guy, I certainly don't want to be spoken to like that, that shit needs to be eased in to.
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>>84393414
Chasing is tiring. I am fat. I am bored of it.
I became a wizard lately. Fuck dating apps. They might like you. They might not. But you'll never know. Unless you try. But for some of us. Trying was never a realistic. Option.
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>>84393414
you need to psy-op yourself that you're in love with the girl you are messaging and freeflow hit her with 8 messages in a row about how she has the most beatiful eyes/smile you've ever seen and that she's the first girl on this app that you know you could instantly fall in love with. Bring the conversation to an emotional level instead of asking these dumbass questions
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>>84393414
moids try too hard and project their own behaviors and intentions onto others, assuming that the other person is acting with the same level of effort or calculation, rather than simply living naturally
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just once i would like to get the chad experience
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>>84393746
YWNBSC (You will never be screencapped)
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Never ever lower yourself to the humiliation ritual that is dating apps. Foids do not deserve anything.
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>>84393414
she quite literally has 100 other dudes in her dms who would bend over backwards for her.
why would she put in effort for just (you)?
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>>84393414
>hey is that a quartz?
>yea
>nice!

replying yes means she's open to your follow up question but your question basically left her in a position to open the conversation.
i think you're still in a position to text whatever follow up you want
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>>84393414
What were you expecting? you asked a yes/no question, she answered
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>>84393414
means they're not into you. its the least confrontational way to go about it so thats why they do it. also gives them plausible deniability in their head



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