Is anyone else no longer able to enjoy romance media? I used to love romance VNs and reading yaoi but now it just makes me feel immensely jealous and depressed. Ive always been a lonely faggot, but i had no problem using romance media as a replacement for real life love. idk what suddenly changed and made me become so sad and envious when reading it. I cant even enjoy storyless smut yaoi without feeling jealous that i cant experience sex, or wishing i could be as cute and feminine as the twinks in them.
Always hated any romance because of the jealousy. Recently started to resent porn for that reason too.
I realized as I got older that all of that stuff sucks and has no value
>>84396265This exactly how i feel currently, but its weird how I didnt feel this way before. I used to be able to immerse myself in it, but now I just cant manage to delude myself anymore. Maybe reality just caught up with me>>84396293Technically no fictional works have any value
>>84396190>>84396293romance media cannot work or be useful, because its based on the goal of making you feel love, it doesn't work if you have even a smidge of self awareness, and its useless because just making someone feel love is useless for the one you're making feel love, love is not special its just a biological bias with some potent feel good chemicals sprinkled on top, it can't inspire or help with anything.
>>84396319actually fictional works could inspire you to do great things, or help you avoid rare unwanted situations, but of course that depends on the work and your open-mindedness.
>>84396190>>84396293How old are you? Genuinely asking.
>>84396190>I used to love romance VNs and reading yaoiWhy would you ever do that, you a fag or something?
>>84396442Yes, I literally directly state in the thread im a lonely faggot. But thats besides the point.>>84396434Im 19. I made the OP thread but i didnt make that second reply you mentioned.
>>84396458Your life has barely even started. Focus on developing your socialization and then put yourself out there. If you take proper showers, shave, and occasionally work out you will be ahead of the curve.
>>84396546I already missed my chance at developing my socialization by wasting my high school years. People wont be tolerant of my poor attempts at socializing now that im an adult, and plus nobody wants a weird autistic stranger randomly approaching and talking to them for no reason.>>84396397You could say the exact same thing about every other genre. Every emotion is just a biological bias with potent chemicals. Theres many valid reasons to hate the romance genre, but hating it because of some rick and morty notion about brain chemicals is just a flat-out dumb reason.
>>84396458Woops, I'm retarded sometimes, sorry.
>>84396190if youre a gay man and also an incel genuinely how the fuck do you reach this point
>>84396604And this is why you're miserable.Too much noises in that head of yours, too much carbs, not enough sleep.Touch grass, simple as, you're a dude, do things, stop thinking bout them. Also save the dramatic act if you're still in that position in two decades, right now you don't know shit zoomzoom-kun. I don't know what kind of bullshit you're on to be a fag and an ''incel''.
>>84396710Its not easy to get into an actual romantic relationship as a gay male. Only like 1 percent of the entire male population is attracted to men, and on top of that, most gay men arent interested in a relationship and only want to do std-ridden hookups. Its basically impossible for someone as unremarkable as me to get a boyfriend.>>84396729I go outside for a walk most days, if thats enough to count as touching grass. I cant really turn my brain off though, as much as i wish I could.
>>84396849Nah it's not enough, you have to learn to still your heart and mind, sit your ass in a forest, do nothing, minimum for an hour.Connect to the tangible, cease treating yourself like a defective woman.
>>84396190I'm the opposite. I don't believe in real love anymore. So the only way I can experience it is in fiction.
>>84396966Real love exists, you're just too old now.
>>84396190I'm the exact opposite of you anon. I just finished reading Sense and Sensibility and it just made me feel very nice and warm inside. Reading that sort of stuff is like the ultimate wish fulfillment for me. I know I'll never have it, but it's nice to imagine. I think I'm at the point in my life where I am comfortable with the fact that I'll be alone, and I don't want sad stories anymore. I would rather have something happy that I can't really relate to than a literally me character with a sad ending.
>>84396990This is exactly how i felt before, i had no problem consuming romance to fill the void left by my lack real life romantic experiences. Something just suddenly changed and now it all just causes me jealousy and misery. I wish I could go back to enjoying it so badly.>>84396956Id love to sit in a forest, that sounds nice. Unfortunately theres none where i live, just boring grey buildings and roads. Although i do often sit around doing nothing for over an hour, however thats where my negative thoughts become most present. Pretty much all of my hobbies are just ways for me to avoid being left with my own thoughts. I appreciate the advice though, anon
>>84397030Here you go, too much concrete, no bueno.
>>84397030>I wish I could go back to enjoying it so badlyMaybe it's just a matter of finding the right thing? There's gotta be something out there that brings the feelings back for you
>>84397141Maybe so, do you have any recommendations?
>>84396604Respectfully, you're being retarded. Your life is not over at 19. Most people don't figure themselves out until their 30s. You have ample time to learn how to socialize. There's no secret to it, you just have to do it, a lot. Easiest ways for you would be family, school, and work. Just get out there and you will get used to it over time. The worst thing you can do is sit around and do nothing.
>>84397521>family, school, workIm currently in a gap year, so I have no job or college to practice socialization at. I already socialize with my family but it isnt the same as socializing with strangers.
>>84397577Do you have any siblings or cousins? Go out with them more. Meet their friends.
>>84397593I have two brothers but theyre both friendless like i am
>>84396849>Only like 1 percent of the entire male population is attracted to menit's still like a 50/50 shot a gay guy will be into you tho. Better odds than if you were straightIf I was gay I'd just try online dating probably. Shooting your shot with other men in general is definitely a more pleasant experience than with women
>>84397773There is no online dating for gay men, only online hookups. There is not a single guy on any of those gay dating apps who is actually interested in a relationship, they all are just there to spread their STDs. Also its def not a 50/50 shot with gays irl, atleast not for me, since im an unlikable socially inept autist
