I got a "girlfriend" for the first time a few months ago but she has cancelled every plan we've made together at the last moment and she's not particularly attractive or intelligent or affectionate. I don't really know how to confront her about it (or even that there's any point in doing so), so I think I should just dump her and save my virginity for someone else, but I'd like an outside perspective first.
>>84414157Short women are subhumans
isn't Taylor Swift only 5'10? that's quite funnyanyway, dump her and move on to the next one
Did she say she's your gf? How many plans has she canceled?
>>84414218>Did she say she's your gf? Yes>How many plans has she canceled?Depends how you count them. I'd say 6.
>>84414240she probs thinks you are way less than her like every woman thus she acts like a bitch to get an ego boost from rejecting you, dont confront her, communication is bullshit made up by women to get reactions and get what they want, just ghost her for a few days and act cold to her
>>84414157She's not into you lil Timmy.
>>84414240Is there something going on in her life that she has communicated to you as the reason? Does this mean you aren't spending any time together? Do you value the time you do spend together outside of "plans?" If she isn't communicating and you aren't spending time together, then idk how she's a gf. You can safely communicate your grievance or just ghost her.If you are spending time together, maybe she values this and not "plans" and if you're dissatisfied with that you can try communicating this to your partner and see if there's room for adjustment or if you're incompatible.There are many variables at play that I am not aware of.
Like maybe she's just a lazy person and doesn't like going out and OP has scheduled six sushi dates. Maybe her dad has cancer or something.The amount of hours and amount of meals you eat a week with your gf should be pretty high imo or maybe she's not your gf
>>84414277>Is there something going on in her life that she has communicated to you as the reason? She always has a reason, yes. But it's so consistent and predictable that I think she's lying for whatever reason.>Does this mean you aren't spending any time together? Pretty much. We've only been at the same place at the same time twice, and not really as dates. We would call on discord until we fell asleep for a couple of weeks, but even that's dried up.>Do you value the time you do spend together outside of "plans?" I value the connection I guess. I don't like the idea of having to go back to searching for a potential lover when it took so long the first time.
>>84414329She goes to concerts/festivals with her friends pretty often, so I don't think it's laziness. My plans are usually on the level of going to see a film together or even just hanging out.
>>84414343>>84414240>>84414157if youve been dating for only a few months and you're already having major problems, end that shit now. its not going to get better. end it now before you get too attatched
>>84414352oh hell no. dump her today.
>>84414343>>84414352Ask her if she likes you and if she wants to spend time together.You really should be spending a significant amount of hours a week together and eating multiple if not every dinner a week together if you're adults that like each other. If she's already bored and would rather go out without you and cancel all your plans, without real reasons, then she isn't your gf.
>>84414157>confrontingHonestly, no point. I need to start taking my own advice. If a broad's coming at you pissed, matching their anger won't fix anything. If you have a bunch of grievances you want to air, it won't result in you two fucking. All it will do is raise cortisol for both parties or get them to laugh at you. Yes, dump her. Hell don't even announce it, just let it die and see other people.
>>84414403>Ask her if she likes you and if she wants to spend time together.I am fairly confident she will say yes to both because I've asked a similar question before.>>84414415It's not so easy to find someone else.
>>84414415She has said she is his gf so she has entered into a verbal contract and he should verify and rectify or end things instead of ghosting.
>>84414403>>84414441dogshit advice. she clearly doesnt care about OP but OP has to "man up" and "rectify" things with a girl hes only been dating for weeks? nah ghost her or break up. or just wait around until she does one of those to you in a month or two.
>>84414438I know. I'm sorry, dude. It's not easier for me either and I'm old and getting older. Won't make your shitty thing where you are not prioritized any better. Whining to her won't raise your priority level with her. DROP her.>>84414441Sure okay, maybe he should tell her. However, I don't think it should come with any bargaining or second-chancing. Just simply "this isn't working for me", odds are she'll simply say "okay" and not follow up because clearly he is not prioritizing her anyway. Find someone who makes you feel wanted, man.
>>84414438If you have already had to seek verification, and this behaviour has persisted, then she is either uncaring or autistic.Sit her down, go to her in person do not text, explicitly ask if she likes you and tell her you are asking because you feel she doesn't and the relationship isn't working and requires adjustment because you like her or there is no future and you should see other people. Approach her as if you are two engineers working on a project.>>84414448Grow up, nigger.
>>84414464*she is not prioritizing him
>>84414466what do you mean by grow up? why does he owe anything to a girl hes been dating for weeks that clearly doesnt even like him? OP is clearly a pussy thats going to take it. im sure youll find a way to blame him when she inevitably ghosts him in a month
"Ghosting" is only valid if she hasn't claimed gf status. It is childish and cowardly to "ghost" your gf to break up. You can end it to her face, she is a little woman, she isn't going to beat you to death.>>84414483I've given clear instructions which will either fix or end the relationship. You are afraid of women and have a feminine spirit.
A huge mistake you see many millennials and zoomers making in their romantic endeavors is communicating over text or discord or the phone and failing to properly communicate face-to-face.
>>84414157Yeah, dump her ass. If she's constantly cancelling on you, isn't affectionate, and is a dumbass rock, there is no point in continuing. That sounds like shit a dead marriage should be like, not a fresh relationship. You might try to convince yourself otherwise out of attachment for a first relationship, but this is clearly not working out or even vaguely fulfilling. Don't accept shitty behavior from loser bitches and tell her it's over and why. Block her immediately after, don't bargain, don't listen to her fem faggotry. Don't have to be aggressive or mean about it, just be direct, and don't accept compromises or listen to her shit (that is investing in a dead relationship).>B-but I can't fi--Shut the fuck up, you deserve better, stop being a fag and stand up for yourself. I believe in you bro.
>>84414157She's fucking/trying to fuck another guy, the relationship is already over, any attempt to reconcile will be posthoc humiliation on your part.
Make better plans. If she has better things to do than hanging out with you you need to improve your plans
>>84414157>she has cancelled every plan we've made together at the last momentYou don't have a girlfriend
>>84414343>I value the connection I guess. I don't like the idea of having to go back to searching for a potential lover when it took so long the first time.Sunk cost fallacy. She's not your girlfriend. The sooner you move on, the faster you'll find what you are looking for.Girls who like you, will want to spend time with you
>>84414157Break up with her you piece of shit beta subhuman and tell her she is a piece of shit ugly whore who should have been grateful for even getting any attention. Short women, short simps, exploit them and make them miserable and then fuck off to the third or second world and fuck young cute women with the money.
i hope you broke up with her by now and didnt listen to that retard avatar fagging with the anime girl
