>>84520344
>raise someone to be people pleasing overly nice and have no boundaries
>don't give them protection or teach them how the world works
>they get hurt and used
>"Oh my god why are you such a stupid meek weak person?!?!"
Can this be called being a terrible parent/teacher? Its not even funny its just stupid.

>>84520344
>And I am critized by the same people who raised me as such to be better than that
And they don't realize they critique your meekness. They live in double think "be a nice guy" and "why don't you stand up for yourself" is opposite things. Parents never agreed to "no" from me. So how I am supposed to know how to say "no" to outside people?

>>84520438
Double funny if theyre Christian and believe in being meek

>>84520438
I should add I picked up very bad traits considering standing my ground.
Vile passive aggressiveness.
I was physically frail but smart boy and parents put me into chess club. I absolutely hated it. Boys running around in the sun and I sitting on week end in suffocating room. I performed very well and was first player in my local club for a time, pulling out club score in official matches. So trainer praised me, parents happy and absolutely now way to escape this chess hobby I hated, parents absolutely didn't want hear me dropping out.
So I started intentionally play bad, and losing matches, my results tanked and over time everyone enthusiasm dwindled and parents one day offered living chess themselves.
That's absolutely not rightway to do things.

>>84520344
Checked. Nice art. I was similar and I had to practice speaking up. Whether it was to end a conversation that was running on, telling parents they were being unfair or incorrect about something, being willing to explain how something made me feel without giving people an ultimatum. It took a lot of thinking, wondering if my phrasing was sensible and respectful, but also accepting results would not always be instant. Just like it took time to change my thinking and overcome my nerves to speak, sometimes in the moment or after the fact, it would take time and repeated reminders for others to accept I was setting boundaries, but in a calm way.
It's like when you pick up a new game or hobby and have to accept you won't be competent right away. You have to keep trying and put in the time to see results. Sometimes you even develop the skill during practice, but hesitate when it comes to the real deal. Overcoming that hesitation can take repeated attempts. It really felt like it was difficult at times but it was worth doing. I've been learning to be better and others are learning to respond better to it and keep it in mind too.