Thread for discussions about selfharm and mutual supportheio :3>How are you doing today?>Any plans for today?>When was the last time you hurt yourself?>Why did you hurt yourself?>Is there anything bothering you right now?
links :DD> long list of self harm alternatives (thank you muddy):https://imgur.io/a/7Q2zgw7>a first aid post cuting:https://www.lifesigns.org.uk/first-aid-for-self-injury-and-self-harm/>a wound care guide:https://docs.google.com/document/d/1CsvJs8qNCVkHWHKekMSmCn6qn0GBEcgnq9fIqlA6Uv0/mobilebasic>a bpd workbook:https://d-pdf.com/book/1781/read>a bpd Information Book (anon said it's exceptionally good)https://annas-archive.org/md5/1a4f329474320214a120a4d553c6b60c>a bdbt (dialectical behavioral therapy)workbook is intended for BPD but can work for anyone:https://cursosdepsicologia.com.ar/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/THEDIA1.pdfPlease don't post any drastic images and if you have to, spoiler them
Imagine self-harming out of desperation to get attention or to feel something other than your crippling depression. How pathetic.Grow up and learn to deal with your problems without self-destructing, loser.
hello everyonein both a philosophical sense and also in the friendly helpful waydo you believe it would be the "correct" thing to do if you learn someone cuts to also tell them (if youre comfortable w/ it) that you do it too?it got me thinking a bit because this exact thing has happened to me, twice, i told both people that i cut (or used to, rather) too, which was a big surprise to both of themi didnt think at the time that it could potentially make them feel bad or anything, like telling someone whatever pains you and they go like "oh yeah thats happened to me too" which can easily make you feel unseen, depending. i told them because i wanted to tell them in the most practical and real way possible, it gets better, im proof right here, in a supportive wayanyway yeah i was just htinking about this a bit and wandered what my fellows /cut/ters would have to sayhows everyone anyway?>pic rel is a ww1 era french fort before it got shelled to hell, literally in the battle of verdun>>84552475ello cathow do you do the tripcode thing again? two ##?>>84546598>it's been nothing but good timessure sounds like cosplaying lol>if you could pull off him could pull off plenty probablyprobably but would they be charachters im interested in is the bigger questionalso told my friendgroup that plans on going to a cosplay event this weekend about pulling in a lee hoon and the reactions were priceless lol, my girlfriend wanted me to do it because it would and i quote "highlight your slutty waist" and another friend said "if you dress like that w/ cat ears i am NOT gonna be able to restrain myself" to which LMAO >>84546794HELLO GATORHIIIIIII WHATS UPwhatdya wanna say?
>>84552475>>How are you doing today?I called the suicide hotline today. Hung up, they called back three times, and I insisted that this isn't a good time and I'll be fine.>>Any plans for today?I got a few more job interveiws to reach out.I still gotta get some insurance problems taken care of.>>84553440hi sis>like telling someone whatever pains you and they go like "oh yeah thats happened to me too" which can easily make you feel unseen, dependingI think you're over thinking it. even if they do take it that way, it has more to do with their specific issue.
Hello everyone, I hope you're all doing well today.I managed to get over my writer's block today after finding a speech written ~200 years ago so I'm feeling pretty good. I only have to write 2000 more words to write before Friday night, so I should be alright.I also have to proctor an exam tomorrow so that'll get me in the office once it's over. I'll try to confine myself there until I've written 1000 words.>>84545308>same here hard to believe it's been over two years of postingThank you for your service. You've probably done a lot more for people than you realise.>>84545802>I've been posting on this thread for over 3 years... really crazy stuff, but glad to have you and everyone else hereTime sneaks up on everyone but it's a nice little community that I'm glad exists.>i'm having a great time in an unhealthy drug addict kind of wayAt least you're enjoying it. I'm not sure how much I actually enjoyed RuneScape outside of the quests. Not that much, I think...>I'm going to look so cool dressed like that and walking around with an waifu plushieSounds like you'll have a fun time.I'll probably melt in the sun but I think getting asked for one photo would make it worth it.>i personally like it a lotMaybe I'll check it out then. I don't think I've ever watched an isekai. Closest thing was probably Chaika like 12 years ago. Jesus has it been that long?>>84545804>Yeah, it sucks bc they reached out to me first, so i blow this one.If it's any consolation I've blown multiple interviews at very prestigious places by coming across as a complete autist.
>>84553440>do you believe it would be the "correct" thing to do if you learn someone cuts to also tell them (if youre comfortable w/ it) that you do it too?I suppose it's like admitting anything that's embarrassing or taboo. Low inhibition notwithstanding, you'd have to trust someone a lot and I think that can be a positive thing if it isn't said too soon. Plus you generally come across as sincere doing stuff like that. If they admit something like that first it's probably low-risk to say you do it too. Lower than if you brought it up first, at least.>>84553747Sorry to hear you're not doing so hot, cynic. I hope things pick up for you and you can get a nice, fulfilling job.
>>84553440hello :D>that you do it too?hm I'm not sure if it'd help them in some way maybe I would, but overall I don't think it's be a good idea, I can't really think of many if any good things it could bring Maybe if I were on a situation where I caught someone cutting or they accidentally showed their scars any got worried I'd tell people about their secret maybe then I'd tell them to sorta prove that I can be trusted and I won't judge them>it gets better, im proof right hereglad to hear that ^^ >hows everyone anyway?pretty good working on a map :3>ww1 eraman war is fucking hell and I know it's a joke phrase at this point but I mean it>tripcode thing again? two ##?yepname##trip I reccomeneded you read the 4chan faqthere's lots of interesting things there
>>84553747hey fren ^^>called the suicide hotlinewhy? were you planning something? are you feeling better now? was it just in the heat of the moment?> job interveiws to reach outbest of of luck!btw to asked me about mad god lately it's a very cool stop motion movie and I can't really tell you what's going on there, there's lots of things the movie shows and no dialogues>>84553976hey :3that's good news >proctor an exam tomorrow? like make one or pass it?>Thank you for your service^^ thanks though I feel you should direct the rhanks to suianon and other people who aren't here who started it like 2022
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>>84553440heyyyyyy Sisyphus!!!>someone cuts to also tell them (if youre comfortable w/ it) that you do it too?for me if i was in that position, i probably wouldn't immediately say it, I'd try to console and everything first then if it seems like a fine thing to say i probably would tell them so they know i understand what there going through but idk>HIIIIIII WHATS UPjust getting through school really, life's been happening. Archery season is over. what's up with you? :D>whatdya wanna say?just a lot of stuff i guess. just lot's of thoughts I don't even know how to express really. idk, i want to love and genuinely feel special to someone. my mind is really weird rn. like I'm just doing everything in life for no reason. i don't know tho i just want to feel special to someone ig :p
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bunp >>84555168hey white gator its nice to see you
going to the beach today >>84553747hey cynic>and I'll be fine....are you going to be fine, friend?>I think youre over thinking iti asked mostly because i was curious to hear what others would have to say and maybe generate some discussion reallyiirc both of them took it fine in my case, im just thinking about itactually overthinking is probably the right word lol>>84553976>I only have to write 2000 more words to writeDAMNi could never manour essays used to be capped at 400 words but were split to 150 and 250 word essays instead of a singular 400 word one>>84554004>if it isnt said too soonhmmmm i hadnt really though about it in terms of timing but i guess youre right about it>>84554128>cant really think of many if any good thingsi guess support? theyll know youve been through something similar and are there to help them if they need it(which they do, but its on their side to decide if they will ask for support or not)>war is fucking hell senseless meatgrinder, especially the great war, it was senseless bloodshed in the most literal meaning of the words>name##trip ah thank u i had forgotten how it was done and wasnt much sure>>84555168heya gator>just getting through schoolhows school 4 u? havent heard anything in a long while, i hope its going well for youi still remember how excited you were about ifnally going to a regular school>Archery season is over......you do archery? archery is cool asf, ive done it once before in primary school but it was niceim just being ig, exams are coming up and im rather anxious about them but ill survive (i think)>I don't even know how to express reallythats okay, if you want to you can say them whatever way you like even if its nonsensical to others>like I'm just doing everything in life for no reason i just want to feel special to someone ah youre like a friend of minewhile having that special someone and being someones special someone is indeed nice i dont think it should be your everything
>>84554179>like make one or pass it?Stand around for two hours and make sure nobody cheats. It's very boring. I could be watching Jurassic Park instead...>I feel you should direct the rhanks to suianon and other people who aren't here who started it like 2022I'll extend a thanks to them as well, but I don't think you should understate your efforts. Knowing that this thread would be here (because you made it 95% if the time) and I'd be able to chat with anons for a bit was a big source of comfort.>>84556637>our essays used to be capped at 400 words but were split to 150 and 250 word essays instead of a singular 400 word oneI guess it depends on the subject. Most of mine were about 1000 and my master's thesis was about 10000, I think. But I'm a PhD student who should have written this months ago...
going to the be3ach in a few minutes with friends, bump before i go
good morning everyone!>>84555168hey ali!! :3wassup?>>84556637heyahope you have a nice time and the weather is good here it's raining constantly >guess support?yeah I guessit'd depend on the situation >bloodshed in the most literal meaning of the words yepdo you think they're will be ww3?>thank uno probs >>84556748>Stand around for two hours and make sure nobody cheats.I see did you catch anybody?>could be watching Jurassic Park instead...;w;>understate your effortshm I guess
>thread survived the nighta surprise to be sure, but a welcome one>>84552475>>84557341have a good day cat. Crazy day yesterday, but got a feeling today will be less busy>>84553440>do you believe it would be the "correct" thing to doI think it's certainly situational since they could take it either way as you said and depends what you emphasize. In some ways, it could make them feel less guilty or strange about which is good, but also lead to an over acceptance of it or worse, an idea that doing it is how they can relate to other people, which is bad. I'd say it depends on how you talk to them after that and if you stick around or drop it and go.>sure sounds like cosplayingweirdest thing ever when you never expect it, and people keep stopping you for pictures>but would they be charachters im interested in is the bigger questionfair point since it's a lot harder to do someone you don't like than do. > NOT gonna be able to restrain myselfdeebly goncerned>>84553747hey cynic. Missed your posts because i was too distracted only seeing posts that were (You)'s but sorry to hear things are going so rough.Hope one of those interviews plays out well.
>>84553976>I managed to get over my writer's block todaygood job. And hope the proctoring goes okay> not sure how much I actually enjoyed RuneScape outside of the questshow a lot of those games are. You endure everything else for the actual content unfortunately>I think getting asked for one photo would make it worth it.i dunno i'm get asked for photos dress up for my waifu collecting coomer gacha game cosplay, but i've gotten asked for pictures a lot the past few months at these things so i dunno and always great when it does happen.>don't think I've ever watched an isekaihonestly, for the most part, it's a pretty shitty class of anime that is serviceable, but not usually anything to brag about. Re:Zero is one of the only ones I'd actually suggest someone watch since it has a lot of interesting things going for it, it makes decent use of the isekai elements, and Subaru is an actual great protagonist who feels like a normal dude with flaws and growth along the way. Still has some of the most heart wrenching moments in all of anime for me and tone can be quite dark and depressing at times.>>84555168and hey gator! good to see you
>>84556437heyy it's nice to be here :)>>84556637>hows school 4 u? it's alright, way too stressed about grades lol but it's been good have a few friends >havent heard anything in a long while, i hope its going well for youyea it's really been a while, but what have you been up too?>excited you were about ifnally going to a regular schoolit was very exciting lol still glad I'm going to a regular one>you do archery? yeah at my school, it's been fun, i got decently good at it ^^>ive done it once before in primary school but it was niceit is super satisfying to pull back and shoot, super calming to me>rather anxious about them but ill survive (i think)oof exams are the worst part of school. you'll do great !!!>way you like even if its nonsensical to othersmaybe I will later when i have, currently on the bus writing this>youre like a friend of mineI'm very happy to be>dont think it should be your everythingi know, just my weird thoughts I've been having recently ig>>84556870have fun!!>>84557341heyy cat :D>wassup?just at school rn. what about you? :)>>84557773heyy office good to see you :)
>>84557751>be sure, but a welcome oneit goes through phases I noticed for a few months threads keep on staying for days then that stops and returns again after a while and usually new people show up ar that time>>84557751>Crazy day yesterday,what hap?> but got a feeling today will be less busyhopefully :<>>84557863ello :DD>just at school rn. how's that going? any classes you're looking forward to or the opposite?>what about you? :)I'm working on a map :3if you wanna I can send you some picsLater today I might take a bus to the mall to just walk around but idk if I'll do that because it's rainy today
backjust a bump ill reply laterfor w/e reason my hair with dried sea salt on it is like, fabulous, but really hurts if you even dare to touch itannoying
lunch time >>84558138>how's that going? any classes you're looking forward to or the opposite?it's going well, and yeah there is a few I'm not at all excited for but just cause there boring >you wanna I can send you some picsI'd love too see, your maps always look super cool>might take a bus to the mall to just walk aroundbest things malls are for lol, I've walked around just looking at stuff in malls so many times, but never bought anything, there just fun places to be>>84559019maybe it has something to do with the sea salt i know they make like sea salt spray for hair, but good you look fabulous
I had a snooze earlier but I feel a bit off after that.>>84555168Missed this while phoneposting earlier. Good to see you again!>>84557773>And hope the proctoring goes okayIt did. For some reason they had me do all the announcements as well but that seemed to go fine.Unfortunately I got very distracted in the office and then went home because I was hungry. Hopefully I can have a good writing session tonight.>You endure everything else for the actual content unfortunatelyAnd then the actual content runs out and you keep going... I don't know how the people who play on restricted accounts for youtube series do it. I'd lose my mind.>i've gotten asked for pictures a lot the past few months at these things so i dunno and always great when it does happenWhat's the etiquette for it?>it's a pretty shitty class of anime that is serviceableWhy is it done so often, rather than straight-up fantasy?
>>84559019hello hope you had fun>but really hurtsyeah sea salt ia probably bad for the scalp>>84559060>lunch timewhatcha had to eat?>not at all excited for but just cause there boringhopefully you didn't have a lot of them leftI always doodled during classes when bored, sometimes I'd even look forward to a boring class so I could doodle>love too see, your maps always look super coothank you! I really appreciate it>best things malls are foryep ^^I decided to not get eventually though I wanna say in today >>84559131>but I feel a bit off after thatnaps always do that to me too
>>84554179>were you planning something?not really, I just don't feel good.>it's a very cool stop motion movie and I can't really tell you what's going on there, there's lots of things the movie shows and no dialoguesinteresting, i might give it a watch.>>84554004>I hope things pick up for you and you can get a nice, fulfilling job.I'm hoping too.>>84556637hi sis>are you going to be fine, friend?idk anymore>>84557751hi officeanon>Missed your postsit's fine>Hope one of those interviews plays out well.I'm holding out for something that pays this time.
home>>84559131heyy !>Good to see you again!thank you ! it's great being here, and great your here>>84559665>whatcha had to eat?i skip lunch but in 2nd period had some yummy chips>always doodled during classes when bored,that's a good way to spend the time, just anything to pass the time. i do like having boring classes when my other classes become overwhelming tbf lol>wanna say in todaythat's a great way to spend any day :)
>>84552869these dudes are mental, anondont waste your time
>>84552475Doing good bro, I've long since graduated from wanting to cut myself to wanting to cut other people
>>84557863glad school is going well for you>>84558138>goes through phases I noticedyeah, i feel certain posters particularly helped keeping it bumped depending on time zone. r9k might also be busier since it's nearing end of the school year>what hap?work stress>hopefully :<sadly not>>84559131>. Hopefully I can have a good writing session tonight.best of luck. Honestly at this point, i work better home than anywhere else either way. Just need to get out enough to not be stir crazy>And then the actual content runs out and you keep goingcan't even imagine what you spend all day doing at that point>What's the etiquette for it?I've heard ask permission of course, be polite, be mindful, and show what picture you take.that said if i go off of everyone who's asked me, I don't know there is one. Some just asked me to take a pic, some wanted a pose, and one wanted the pic with me and proceeded to stand way too close>Why is it done so often, rather than straight-up fantasy?it's appeal of seeing the loser NEET become a hero and have a harem even though they were like them in the real world. Re:Zero does that exactly, but I think it's well and he never seems op like the others in comparison.
>>84560052>I'm holding out for something that pays this time.hoping for you too. Just try to keep your head up about in the meantime.
>>84560052>just don't feel goodcan't blame you >might give it a watchhope you have fun ^^ though it's gross a lot of time time so if you don't wanna se gross stuff you shouldn't watch itdo you have a place to watch it or would you like a link?>>84560394>skip lunch but in 2nd period had some yummy chipswhat's a second period? idk how schools work over there >boring classes when my other classes become overwhelming tbf lolunderstandable you had any overwhelming ones today? are u home now btw?>great way to spend any day :)agreed B3 I just worked more on the map>>84560420sounds more frustrating >>84560715>depending on time zone.yep >since it's nearing end of the school yearhmm maybe >work stressD;and I thought the new job would be a little better >sadly notDD; we should abolish jobs
>>84560834>hmm maybeseasonal r9k traffic always changes how long stuff stays on. I remember when stuff would stay up after 5 hours no bumps>and I thought the new job would be a little betteri mean it is if for no other reason it's hard, but i'm not getting threatened to be fired nonstop like the old one so that's a huge mental improvement>we should abolish jobsdon't think that's gonna work too well
>>84560715>glad school is going well for youthanks hope you've been well too>>84560834>what's a second period?oh it's just like the second class i have, i have 7 classes total >overwhelming ones today?kinda yea hehe have a presentation to work on >are u home now btw?yup>just worked more on the mapit's a great looking map :D
I probby go sleep >>84561214>remember when stuff would stay up after 5 hours no bumpsI think it always happens during a certain time when most people on earth are asleep >getting threatened to be fired nonstopyeyman those people deserve bad things to say it lightly >don't think that's gonna work too wellI don't know ;3>>84561414>have 7 classes totalthat sounds like a lot :0>presentation to workD; best of luck wanna say what it is about?>yupyay>great looking map :Dthank u!I'm gonna copy what I said to yuanon today how I feel about itI'm having a lot of fun making itlike I go through phases where I have a lot of ideas>I make something>I have to make something new>I don't have any ideas>I feel a bit lost but then repeatwhen I was staring out I didn't really have a vision and I had to sorta force myself but then it started getting easier and betterI noticed I often have that sort of thing with maps when I have to force myself to start and I'm not really feeling it at firstBut now it's all good and kinda weirdly so because I feel if I saw someone else post something like that I'd think to myself "cool, I could never come up with something like that " but somehow I amand I still don't really have a clear vision I'm just sorta winging it and trying things out without a reason really and it just sorta works out somehow
im really tired, so bumping replying and eeping quickly>>845573410>do you think they're will be ww3?yeah one day eventually, war is proffitable after all>>84557751>and people keep stopping you for picturesah yeahi forgor about thati dont much like people taking my picture who i dont know so id have to do something with a mask (covering my face) and long sleeves (covering really characteristic scars)>>845578630>way too stressed about gradesyepyou truly are a regular student lolim worried about the same thing>what have you been up too?uhhhh i got in a relationship and went to the UK again i odnt think i did anything else that was noteworthy much>i got decently good at it good job! archery is really interesting i wish i could do it more>super calming to mei c, maybe youll like scuba diving, its really calming to me as you also hear basically nothing except ambiance>i know they make like sea salt spray for hairsounds half terrible, my hair was just basivcally frozen i cant imagine doing that on purpose>>84559665im not very sure about that, i know its good for you in general>>84560052>idk anymorei hope youll be fine even if you arent sure about it
goodnight everyone. may just ramble here before bed, i feel a almost constant emptiness to my life, i do nothing ever and really can't my friends go to parties and do cool stuff but not me. and when something bad happens to my friends i just dont know what to do, i want to help but i just cant i feel, i try but always fail. another thing is i do really just want to feel important to someone, and like unique, but i feel I'm not unique. i just want there to be a reason I'm someone's friend, something about me that makes them want to be friends. i just feel such a strong sense of uselessness. and just that there will always be someone better than me to someone. I'm just rambling sorry goodnight >>84561749>wanna say what it is about?it's like I have to make up a person then say each stage of life until death it sucks>gonna copy what I said to yuanon today how I feel about itit's good you can force yourself to do it and that it always works out so well, it's so easy to procrastinate forever. great thing about making maps is there's basically infinite references and stuff, you can make a map about pretty much anything real or fiction >>84562100>im worried about the same thingit really sucks grades>got in a relationship and went to the UK again that's very cool, and I'm super happy for you, seems like things really are going well. hope the uk was nice ^^>archery is really interesting i wish i could do it moreyea that's with a lot of sports sadly, I'm scared when i graduate it'll be just impossible to continue archery as a sport>its really calming to me as you also hear basically nothing except ambianceI've always wanted to try it, for some reason when i think of scuba diving i just think of those big like metal suits they used to have lol which that wouldn't be calming >my hair was just basivcally frozen i cant imagine doing that on purposeoh jeez that really is awful then.
>>84560834>sounds more frustratingNo it's actually healthier to focus your angst on who/what makes you feel that way, they found this to be more effective with children traumatized by war, for example. There's also more variety involved with wanting to hurt other people vs the same old slicey dicey routine with yourself.
It's not cutting but.... I've started stress biting. And I do it subconsciously. I bite the side of my wrist, and coincidentally, it happens to be where my birth mark is. I don't have the money for good therapy.
A quick bump before I roll out of bed
She still haunts my dreams and I don't like that one bit. Either way I need to be very productive today.>>84559665>naps always do that to me tooSometimes they reenergise me. I didn't set an alarm since I fell asleep by accident, which might have been why.>>84560715>i work better home than anywhere else either wayI tend to get horribly distracted a lot of the time, unless there's a deadline soon. I lack discipline...>can't even imagine what you spend all day doing at that pointDoing the same thing over and over again to make the number go up.>and show what picture you takeI've never done that but I should probably start...I meant more on the being asked for one side.>it's appeal of seeing the loser NEET become a hero and have a haremI guess that makes sense. Personally I don't find most fictional characters relatable but I think that's mostly on me being weird. The closest is probably Shinji now that I think about it.>>84562267>i do really just want to feel important to someone, and like unique, but i feel I'm not unique.I'm not sure if there's a trick to feeling important, but there's a very good chance you're unique in some way. There's almost certainly something you can do or have an interest in way more than the average person, even if it's something very niche.
>>84563892>good chance you're unique in some waymaybe, i always think of myself as pretty basic in most aspects at least, at least in the ways that are important >interest in way more than the average personi do stuff like that, but most things like that for me aren't really important to most people. i really like archery but ain't the most special thing lol
>>84562267>seems like things really are going wellhope that it continues that way too>hope the uk was niceit was alr, expensive unfortunately>it'll be just impossible to continue archery as a sportyou could join an archery club in your area probably>which that wouldn't be calming i mean they look scary but youre walking on the ocean floor, if its not rocky and jagged it should be fineignoring the airpipe keeping you alive and how scary it might be>>84562657>stress bitingsounds irritating
>>84561749>man those people deserve bad things to say it lightlyentire system rewards actual psychopaths is the problem>I don't know problem is even if there's no work to be done, some people will have more than others and want things in exchange, just most people will no longer have anything to exchange. And then what. No good outcome to it all>>84562100>have to do something with a maskmore likely to get sopped for pictures at that point depending how good it is. I kinda like it, but it's such an odd feeling because i completely didn't expect it>>84562267> i do nothing everi know you're not doing it now, but archery is something and something pretty cool at that. That's not something you did a few years back even >and like unique, but i feel I'm not unique.most people aren't very unique. I don't mean that in a bad way, but listening to topics people small talk about, you realize most are boring and relationships are built for the most part upon proximity. It's cliche, but the best way to be important is to talk to people in such a way you make them feel more important, which is mostly engaging with what they say.>>84563892> still haunts my dreamsgotta just ignore it. You're in a better place now>get horribly distracted a lot of the timei can too, but i can also be very focused. Office settings i waste so much time though>make the number go up.never understood the appeal of this type of gaming>I meant more on the being asked for one side.i don't think there was one as much since the ball is in your court at that point. Just do what you are comfortable with, but if you aren't just be polite but think most people are excited to be in pictures if they bothered dressing up.>spoilerfor me it's unfortunately Denji from CSM. Minus the part about turning into a human chainsaw
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hii, nice to see you all after some time! :3not a cutter myself but I came here at new year or christmas eve to talk about my ex gf who used to cut herself, almost tried to kill myself on new years eve but didn't happen, it's amazing how you keep the threads on and on while taking care of each other, I love that, especially in a place like 4chan
