Today at work a coustomer started a conversation with me, but the past months my conversational skills have gone to the gutter. This convo was in no way romantic, but it was just to pass time as I had to make him wait. He asked me what i do to which i fucking struggled to answer. Whenever I get nervous I feel like my mouth starts to fill with saliva and it gets hard to speak clearly. I sounded like an actual autists, and I started rambling about how I feel as though getting to know a person through talking is inferior to getting to know someone by actions and doung something. I said something like people can pretend to be interesting by words but they cant pretend with their actions. It sounded like stupid pseudo intellectual jargon. Then I fucking outed myself by saying that I dont have many friends and that I only ever got friends through school, to which he said " yeah, that makes sense. You got a problem here" and I tried to defend my stance but it was futile and we ended up talking about photography instead. And I was sounded so fucking stupid, I was so embarrassed. I started saying he was a veteran photographer to which he got a little offended because it implies he is old but i didnt mean it thay way i meant as in he is a pro. I genuinely think 4chan and my lack of human interaction the past year has ruined my conversational skills and I sounded like an actual autist. I spoke like fucking clavicular. I need to fix this immediately my personality is probably repulsive.Either I hope I never see him again or that I see him again and I redeem myself. I really hope i get to redeem myself, i want him to think im not a retard but that im actually cool. He definitely thinks the younger generations are retards. Im becoming a chud and I dont like it.
I forgot to mention that the moment I didnt have to hold him back he left. And it was so akward I said sorry for being akward. Femchud chronicles.
female autist introvert>its okay bby you tried your bestVs male equivalent >lol what a fucking loser kys faggot lol
>>84575384Noticed how i mentioned i need to fix it? Because its fixable. We may be autistic introverts now, but that doesn't mean we will stay stagnat as retards who cant hold a conversation. We ban adapt, compensate for our autism and make talking to others a fun thing instead of nervewreching. Noticed how i said i wanted to redeem myself? Because i think i might have a better convo the next time. And if not that time, then the next tile after that. And after that. Again and again and again. Until I get it right.We can fix this anon. And life will be more fun for us. Life is more fun for those who go after what they want, compared to people who do nothing about it.
raahh vragman burmur this is war huh wow
well its ok to struggle at first, maybe you need to practice your social skills online before if irl situations make you feel too anxious
>>84575356delectable authentic barely comprehensible female stream of thoughttrannies could never
>>84575627I think its better to just throw myself out there man. Online discussions are in a safe and sanitized environment, you can mute, you can choose to not show your face, bodylanguage is completely irrelevant. Its not a real conversational experience. Whereas when you throw yoursef out there you will trip and fall and embarrass yourself like I did today. But the more you do it the more you learn. And before you know it, youre a good conversationalist! And then it will be easier to talk and get to know people you want to approach. Life doesn't come at you it comes from you
>>84575692this is a very narrow minded way of looking at things, but there you go.
>>84575356You can think of topics to speak of in advance, both how to speak about your interests just to see if someone shares it, as well as topics that most people could comprehend or even relate to.Interacting in servers centered around your specific interests (rather than just being for general chatting and sharing memes) can also help with that but in a sense you do need to envision or even audibly practice saying it aloud.I'm alright with long-term silence in-person when it's not a friend, but I sometimes noticed others were trying to think of things to say, so I ended up going down this path. Things got better, including learning how to end conversations so people knew I wasn't expecting to hear more from them, even if they were still free to bring up another topic.
>>84575822Explain this take.I think your take is gay and avoidant.
>>84575692Maybe its different being a guy, but I've always had an easier time faking normal in isolated situations like yours. I can last about 15min or so shooting the shit with someone, giving canned responses before my social battery runs out. I'm sure when we part ways they think "that guy wasnt very genuine" or something, but I make it through.Online, I have a tendency to get too deep too quick, trauma dump or over share. Probably because of the anonymity. And so I end up holding myself back and fumbling those convos too.
>>84575926i don't really care about your opinion
>>84575932Literally me desu. Woah anon youre like me. But its all practice. If we dont practice our skills we will never be able to feel satisfied with out output. The thing is that convos are also for our enjoyment, not just the other person. And when we enjoy it, they usually enjoy it too.>>84575922>You can think of topics to speak of in advanceI feel like thats kind of inorganic. Its better to learn improvisation you know. But otherwise youre developement was awesome. I hope I can ascend from being a femchud to being a normie. Being a normie isnt even a bad thing, its a good thing really.
>>84576181>its all practicetrue. I've been throwing myself out there more, both irl and online, after cutting myself off from people for so long. Repetition is key.Like today I had my longest convo with a total stranger in a while. I hope I wasn't too fake, but I think I kept my spaghetti from spilling (unlike SOME people. lol)
>>84576181Inorganic is what the first steps to many skills is. It's more about getting the method (in this case of thinking about topics and how to expand on them) down and then speed will come. The way many skills are taught in a controlled environment and then once the process is down you start practicing speed in the uncontrolled one. Culinary schools, military outfits, flight training, etc.Some would say "normie" is the bad version of "normal" but really you don't need titles and terms once you know there are some habits to avoid picking up and others that would be beneficial to develop. Even when I'm not around I sometimes hear from people that others said to ask me for advice, that I can be trusted, or that I'm even the level-headed one. It's always a surprise because I don't think much of the way I go about things and can't remember the last time I thought someone wasn't level-headed. But it seems people take note of someone who doesn't just let their behavior be ruled by what's "fun" in the moment, or maybe it's more that those people are drawn to one another and that's why it stands out to them. Anyway, happy trails~
have two quick drinks before your shift
>>84576370Ayyyy you did it! youre better than me man, I spilled my spaghetti and ate it off the ground. Where did you meet this lucky stranger?>>84576384I didnt really think of it like that. Inorganic is just the beginning of a habit forming. Thanks for this very well put reply, im sure youre a wise guy. Those people are telling you what's up. firewatch?! I have been meaning to play it. Seems like an awesome game
>>84576458Tipsy at work? Yeah that would be an absolute disastermight try tho
>>84575356its okay fembot, what if u practice speaking to autist moids on discord
>>84576835Thanks anonette. That experience was half the reason I clicked your thread (the other was Varg)>Where did you meet this lucky stranger?He was a chill bro that worked in the produce section. the kinda guy us dudes give a casual headbob to and keep walking.I was grabbing some apples. just talked about mundane shit. Hopefully he didn't think I was a sperg and took pity on me. I think I can fake normie well enough.
