How do you even make friends?I want serious answers, not bitter incel noise. I'm jaded, sure but I'd like to understand rather than blame someone or something else.Awful people have friends and relationships, good people have friends and relationships, dumb people have friends and relationships, smart people have friends and relationships. No matter the adjective, every kind of person has friends and relationships, but not me. What is wrong with me? Actual women have told me I'm attractive, I'm dependable, I'm always up to help anyone I know with whatever they need, I'm active, I know how to cook, I can maintain eye contact, I don't know about IQ but I'm not dumb, I can be friendly, so what's the issue? Is it my aura? In my 30 years of life, no one has approached me once, male or female. Everyone I know would rather ask someone else for help or anything than me. I just had something happened that made me think:>eating empanadas while waiting for bus>some guy approached me, not sure if homeless but in a poor financial situation >when I turn to look at him, he looks startled and mumbles something I can't make out>says he's unemployed and wanted to ask me for work before I told him that I'm not from the province we're in>asks me for food if I have any (he couldn't see I was eating from where he was standing)>wants to take one empanada I tell him to take two>takes them, thanks me and immediately leavesDo I look that unapproachable? My tone wasn't hostile, if it was anyone else I'd have thought it was because of my clothes (all black, boots, cargo pants), but that wouldn't make any sense given his condition. Also, while I was writing this post, another guy came up to me and a woman and her dad that were sitting next to me to ask for money for a bus ticket. He didn't even look at me in the eye once, he just kept looking at the other two the whole time. I still gave him some money.I realize I'm the problem but don't get what I'm doing wrong.
Thanks for reading my post btw.
Its all about looks and voice
I made my friends in high school sports.
>>84577449>>84577560yeah, I feel like it's actually impossible to make and maintain friends while being socially inept in your 30s, no one has the patience to deal with your awkwardness it's ower
Go be proactive, absolutely nobody had friends falling on their laps. They had to do stuff apart from pretending they were good people for giving some food and money to a couple of bums
>>84577727Productive like what? and you completely missed the point of my post, and I never said I was a good person nor were the anecdotes meant to convey that
>>84577412post your asl and discord tag then if you want friends
>>84577412I've been told I can look scary or that if a person registers me as notably more mature they can feel worried about being told off. Initial impressions I was told after getting to know people for a while. Thinking back a lot of people added me online and we chatted there first before talking in class.These days it's been being DM'd or sent a friend request by people after speaking a few times a week in a server. Not a memes/chatting server, but one about a specific hobby/interest/franchise. Provides common ground. Checking out song/film reccs and giving some of my own. If people were being doomers or looking for advice in general chat I'd reason with them or give them a starting point to think about acting on. Game nights too. And I'd get to like them too so when DMs and FRs would surprise me many months later, I'd accept.Similar stuff IRL whether it's a place people gather for a certain activity (sport, hobby shop) or something like a local brewery. Naturally people can be a bit more reserved in-person. Either way, even without being there to make friends initially, the repeated (but not daily) interaction lead to things. It can just take time to find receptive or engaging people even if you're putting yourself out there somehow a few times a week.
