anyone else seem like they're unlikeable? not that you're an asshole, but just come off as annoying and stupid? or maybe society a whole has become more of an asshole? i can't tell. regardless, i cannot get along with anyone. i end up saying the wrong thing or do something that pisses people off. oh, a big one too.. whenever im in a good mood sometimes that in itself pisses people off.
>>84589108>anyone else seem like they're unlikeable? not that you're an asshole, but just come off as annoying and stupid? What are you hoping to get as an answer?>Yes I'm a nice person but utterly annoying?Negative affirmation?
>>84589122i just wanna see if anyone can relate
>>84589207Of course we can relate you think being annoying means you are a bad person There's been plenty of nice people who's voice annoys you for no reason
>>84589217>Of course we can relate you think being annoying means you are a bad personi didnt' say that
>>84589221>anyone else seem like they're unlikeable? not that you're an asshole, but just come off as annoying and stupid? Not that youre an asshole but you just come off as annoying Do you have short term memory loss
>>84589248>Do you have short term memory lossPROVING MY POINT
>>84589254Proving what point an already known statement???
It's just you overrating yourself greatly. No different at all than diva behavior.You're not that important, move on.
>>84589108Yeah lots of people hate me online and even my alleged close friends have attacked me and witch hunted me online. But I don't blame myself for it. I deserve better than supposed friends who attack me over nothing and demonize me unfairly. Incels on here claim women are treated like goddesses by men but I got attacked online by bi men and one gay man.WE deserve better you and I and anyone else hated by people unfairly
I have begun to think that past a certain point a person's likability is essentially their fate. It can change over time, though - but likely it depends on essential factors and how they're managing those factors mostly. I'll put it this way, imagine you're cast as a character in a sort of improvisational play, we'll say you're cast as the antagonist for argument's sake. No matter what you do, you are going to be the bad guy, even with your best intentions. But depending on HOW you play that role and embody it, you can maybe win the sympathies of the audience and even some of the other characters who aren't fated or "pre-written" to be your enemy. That said, I don't advocate going "well if I'm going to be cast as a villain, I should just suck" - that doesn't make for a compelling performance. You should go about your way as if you're not aware of your role, while still being just aware enough of it to not let it get to you too much. I think this is roughly what amor fati refers to.I realize most anons will think this is ridiculous, but I genuinely do believe life works this way. If you get very close to other "strong characters" you'll notice this over time, and others will likely notice it with you too. Some pick up on it, some don't. A lot of people have an almost paranormal predisposition to reacting certain ways about some people - loving them immediately despite them doing nothing or having no particularly admirable traits, hating them by default even though at their core, they're a sensitive, well meaning person, etc etc. When you see it happen to another person it's extremely surreal, as you can see a bit more clearly the railroading happening in their life.
>>84589281society is filled with assholes. it's always constantly walking on eggshells. everyone trying to exploit someones insecurities to feel superior because they themselves are insecure. it's the same pattern i've seen.>>Of course we can relate you think being annoying means you are a bad person>anyone else seem like they're unlikeable? not that you're an asshole, but just come off as annoying and stupid?these aren't the same thing. you're misunderstanding.>>84589286>You're not that important, move on.i have been aware of this.. for years
>>84589309>society is filled with assholes. it's always constantly walking on eggshells. everyone trying to exploit someones insecurities to feel superior because they themselves are insecure. it's the same pattern i've seen.This. So much this.
>>84589307>I'll put it this way, imagine you're cast as a character in a sort of improvisational play, we'll say you're cast as the antagonist for argument's sake. No matter what you do, you are going to be the bad guy, even with your best intentions. But depending on HOW you play that role and embody it, you can maybe win the sympathies of the audience and even some of the other characters who aren't fated or "pre-written" to be your enemy. That said, I don't advocate going "well if I'm going to be cast as a villain, I should just suck" - that doesn't make for a compelling performance. You should go about your way as if you're not aware of your role, while still being just aware enough of it to not let it get to you too much. I think this is roughly what amor fati refers to.THIS!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!
>>84589309you can say this, but yet there are some who are widely praised for no reason. anons on this board love complaining about such men and women. is society an "asshole" to them, or exploiting their insecurities?
>>84589309Can you start a ten million strong movement to crash society with a boycott
>>84589373>re widely praised for no reason. anons on this board love complaining about such men and women. is society an "asshole" to them, or exploiting their insecurities?it's about 1v1 conversations like this, not talking about groups of people
>>84589307>>84589307i fucking cried man.. i really appreciate it. you just made my day better. no, really. i really do appreciate this post. much love.
>>84589424no problem anon, may God smile upon your performance.
>>84589108that was a problem i struggled with for a very long time. something in my mannerisms, my choice of words was making others think i was up to no good. i wonder if your problem stems from your appearance, your talking itself or if you think it is something else. if you haven't been able to get along with anyone, not a single person, then id argue there is something wrong in your personality, or you have been incredibly unlucky. by wrong, i don't mean bad, but something that isn't properly reflecting what is inside your heart
>>84589388you would think that people who have a sort of "automatic" likability would experience significantly less of what you're referring to in 1 to 1 conversation as well though, no?
