If you want kids like many of you here have said you do, how would you not manage to become a helicopter parent?I'm on vacation with my brother and his kids and even though I'm not responsible for taking care of them I feel anxious whenever they just walk around and are like more than 5 meters from us. Or when they are near some flight of stairs or some place where they could possibly fall. I cannot imagine being a parent and all the shit you have to worry about with your kids if your eyes aren't on them 24/7 like I've read stories about how just string or plastic bags have managed to strangle children because their parents weren't around for a few minutes.
>>84589549Could have had a 2 and a 1 year old by now had you wanted to meet after I dropped out.
>>84589549i had a helicopter parent, so i think i know what things annoyed and damaged me in my childhood. i wouldn't make the same mistakes, but i don't think i am having kids anyway. even if my kids didnt struggle with helicopter parents, they would have my personality and would get relentlessly bullied through their childhood
>>84589563I don't understand what you're saying. Are you laying onto me?
>>84589641He's bitching about some egirl who left his ass
>>84589549>If you want kids like many of you here have said you do, how would you not manage to become a helicopter parent?while having such parents i'm pretty sure i'd make the same mistakes my sperg parents did
I would just think of how I was raised and assuming they are like mini-me's I know what I liked and disliked and can adjust accordingly. I valued privacy and independence and liked figuring stuff out, so it seems reasonable that a distant approach best allows them to develop. It's OK for kids to get hurt or fail, this is the opposite of how helicopters think. I can't hands crying, consolation, or that kind of thing but that what mommas are for anyway. If they're trying to do something and ask I'll point to an idea or tool. That's how my grandfather was. Nothing made me lose interest faster than trying to do something and asking for help only to get pushed out of playmode and it becomes "I will have all the fun and do everything but you can't leave because you wanted this or it's teaching or something". That's just bullying and stealing from a kid. It's one thing if you want to play but it should be parallel, if the provided solution is appealing it will be copied, but I didn't want anyone to touch the specific thing I was manipulating because then it becomes tainted in a way like how a mommy bird rejects its baby if you pick it up.Teach the kids phonics but other than that they will readily teach themselves by reading every book they can reach. At least that's how I was. Hippy philosophy lead to the education model called unschooling which is basically homeschooling with no expectations. You just read and do whatever you want. English is picked up passively from reading, so is everything else. The compulsory education system is immoral. It kills curiosity by only trickle feeding information at a painfully slow rate well below a kid's reading ability and it's 99% useless bullshit they won't care about. Math is the only thing that could be argued to need some structure and testing done, but only up to pre-algebra. If interested or need it for something they'll self teach the rest of the way.
