you have known a guy for a while. you think he is cute but he is already taken. he remembers your birthday and things you have told him about, makes you feel cared for and roots for you, but he is already taken. you know he is depressed and that his relationship is not doing that well, you keep asking about it but get non answers. you are not entirely sure if he is being mistreated, if he got cheated on, but you have this feeling that he would be much happier with you. you also know their partner and you can tell she is nice and his type.would you give it a shot? try to close the distance a bit? ask him for pictures and try to steal him? he is not being treated well after all and you could treat him better even if you are less experienced.
>>84833170I have done this and not worth it
>>84833176>I have done this and not worth itcan you tell us more? maybe with a greentext?why wasnt it worth it?
>>84833170I basically stole my current boyfriend honestly. He was a mentalcel before and women he knew in person wanted him but he was a mentalcel.
>>84833170Definitely would if he was my type
>>84833231>I basically stole my current boyfriend honestlyif he was single it wasn't stealing you just went there and took what you wanted which i respect>>84833239>Definitely would if he was my typewhat is your type then?
I would not. I know he would never actually love me, i am just going to be a rebound. Even if he was the sweetest and most handsome boy, he would still remember the other slut that made him cry
>>84833713No no, when you steal him, he makes her cry, not the other way around.Personally I'm at peace because I'm unstealably attached to my wife and also nobody's interested.
>>84833170i fantasize about someone stealing me more often that i care to admiteither that or a 180 in my gfs life so all the pain and suffering ends up being worth it in the end
>>84833831>he makes her cry, not the other way around.that doesnt mean anything does it? i am the sidepiece, im getting the sloppy seconds, i am not who he wanted in the first place
>>84833834I think I just got loremogged
>>84833843>i am not who he wanted in the first placeIf you hadn't met him before he was with her, how is that either of your faults?>side piece'Stealing' implies he stops loving her and starts loving you. That's not being a side piece.
>>84833863>If you hadn't met him before he was with her, how is that either of your faults?he shouldnt give up on her, that means he would give up on him. also he is used now, imagine giving him his first while he has wont give you any of his firsts. >he stops loving her and starts loving youit just implies im his new gf not that he will stop loving her or that i will be his favorite
>>84833846how lmao, i just feel like a piece of shit for being like this
>>84833923It's about the depth and complexity of the implied lore, not the outcome
>>84833953i guess that makes sense. and yes i doubt i could explain everything that happened between us in 2000 characters. im not a saint but at the same time i understand why i have these fantasies.wbu anon?
>>84833917>it just implies im his new gf not that he will stop loving her or that i will be his favoriteSkill issue. Beckies are out there right now scooping up all the servicable Brads. There's a lot of competition for the good men, and not every woman is above giving away some of those firsts to secure one. The only thing left untouched after a feeding frenzy are the scraps.
>>84833960>wbu anon?I find it hot but I love my wife too much to hurt her. I'm too lazy for unicorn hunting anyway.
>>84833971so you are basically saying I should degrade myself for a tainted moid. i should go rn into his dms and say how much better of a partner i would be for him than the bpdemon he is dating
>>84833170I've been in this exact same position, and it's not worth it, you will never know deep down what or why that guy is still with his gf, you are hurting someone else and potentially yourself by giving away this power and self sacrifice bc you are always going to be the bad one in this situation it doesn't matter how inocent he looks or how bad u see that relationship it's always good to talk this stuff out with him first and see what he does while having the options or talk abt his relationship, if he is ok or not ur maybe even taking advantage of his situation, but in this scenario someone (either you or him) is fing someone up
>>84833995it sounds like it didnt work out for you. or did it work out but there was problems in paradise?of course someone always is going to get hurt in a love triangle. do you think you did things wrong?
>>84834021We ended up hurting eachother and I left my bf atm the time 4 him and he just was just trying to be nonchalant abt it and the he turned out to have a very small dick so i was mad he was like too on and off abt his fellings and didn't get a big portion of the cake that he promised me lol so i confronted him and he went back to his ex but normal guys will just yse y as a side chick bc u dont know them to their fully extent
>>84834045>didn't get a big portion of the cake that he promised mewait so you were expecting to get money out of him?you both cheated on your SO>>84833986ah its just a sexual fantasy for you I get it. For me it isnt is more like escapism, I have other fantasies
>>84834064Nah i didn't cheat he kinda did but I left my bf of that time bc he was throwing tantrums bc I enterd uni and he didn't but the part of the cake I wanted was his time rlly wanted a relationship like smtn true and official but he wasn't ready i felt he left his gf to make it more oficial but it didn't matter 2 him
>>84834094so you left your old bf and rebounded or did you actually like the new bf more? are you upset he didnt try to make it work?why did he left his other gf anyways? did they fight a lot?
>>84834113It was a very weird situation but i left my bf of that time very early on into my friendship with the guy, I still dont understand why he left the other girl (could be our weird relationship or his substance problems) but we made out b4 he officially left her but it didn't work, it was never clear what he wanted and we both were saying weird shit that made us weirded out and went over our heads quickly and made us recent each but he still thirst over me as a joke and touches me as a very funny joke but i stll miss him he is the most fun guy ever
>>84834182ah yes i see, it seems messy. yeah it sucks to be used for sex. definitely not what i tried to convey in the OP, im more romantic than that
>>84833170I stole someone's husband
>>84834224>I stole someone's husbandthats way worse. did you save him or did you just steal him for yourself? tell us more
>>84834206Nah it was romantic i held him while he was high and he took out me after all our classses, it stopped when we fucked and told him he can't keep fucking around like that with a dick like that i want a relationship or im gone and two weeks later he came back with his ex lol
>>84833170sausage comes cheap so needing to steal it just shows how poor and immoral i amtldr; no
>>84834245that really doesnt sound romantic at all but you do you anonette>>84834250good men dont come cheap no. im not saying you should go and steal a random girls bf. im saying, would you steal someone that is husband material?
I would and I have. All three relationships of mine involved me stealing a guy from his girlfriend and I felt zero regret in all three cases. I prefer for the affair period to be kind of lengthy, at least a few months, to give the ex-girlfriend something to be haunted and tortured by.
>>84833170Can someone tldr this? My eyes won't focus for some reason so tired
>>84834274no because there's nothing more shameful than fighting for a manalso i have a bf who is husband material
>>84833992>saying I shouldNo, I'm happy to see you die alone. It just entertains me to play Kassandra.
>>84834280do you dump the men after a few months or what? it doesnt sound lovely at all>>84834287>also i have a bf who is husband materialok so if your bf was with someone else you wouldnt steal it, got it
>>84834304no because he belonged to somebody else but i scored so now he's minei'd kill him if he cheated tho. gutted and skinned and boiled
>>84834304Yeah I dumped bf 2 and bf 2 for bf 33 will eventually make way for 4I just like engaging in and facilitating betrayal I hate everyone and everything and want to spread as much misery as I can
>>84834314>i'd kill him if he cheated tho. gutted and skinned and boiledwould you cheat on him tho if you could get away with it?
>>84834357absolutely notloyalty is the cornerstone is any good relationship!!!!
>>84834321>I just like engaging in and facilitating betrayal I hate everyone and everything and want to spread as much misery as I canwow, thats not the kind of girl that should be stealing bfs. fucking fat bpdemon
>>84834388idk what you mean anon lol
>>84834250Bad sausage comes cheap, great sausage is expensive and still flies off the shelf.
>>84834407insert nuance hereok but THE majority don't belong in that category c'mon now
>>84833170Well i can't technically have a boyfriend due to being super mentally ill, so all of my opinions on this are just "i imagine if", and not actual experience, but in my imagination of this scenario, i think this would be a bit of a red flag.What i imagine is, the guy is in a relationship right? But you start to dig into him, and it works, and it probably takes a while for him to end it with his current girlfriend and "swap" to you, because the process of stealing him the way you describe takes a while. But like, in his head he knows or at least feels that he is being "stolen" away, and still he stays with his girlfriend for a while before giving in and choosing you over her. My point is, if that can happen once, can't it happen again? What if another girl more interesting than you, or prettier than you, or just one who is very good at seducing comes along and wants to "steal" him again. He already did let himself get stolen once, so why wouldn't he do it again and drop you to switch to her?See what i mean? Maybe i'm wrong, i'm a giga social alien, so i don't know at all how relationships work, only real relationship thing i witnessed in real life was my Mom leaving my Dad because she wanted to enjoy what was left of her youth, which at the time i didn't really clock in, but now i realize it probably just meant she wants to fuck around or whatever, so again, i might be wrong, but it just feels very "cheaty". Feels like building trust would be very hard with that basis being the "how we got together".I might be talking out of my ass of course. My unmedicated brain is not a good opinion factory. Not the time to take them yet tho.
>>84834226He was a good Christian boy and some atheist Stacey snatched him up. She didn't even want kids. So I went about my own way of getting pregnant by him, they ended up divorcing and we now have a happy and observing family together.
>>84834641>My point is, if that can happen once, can't it happen again?Yes that's what I also think. I feel like the girl that steals the boyfriend would probably be really paranoid about the bf leaving her for another one. Then again, this case is special. This girl knows the guy can be loyal, but she also knows the current gf he has is not good for him, and she would be much better. Therefor its more like she is saving her more than anything else. That's why she shouldn't worry about that happening to her unless she also starts treating him badly.>my Mom leaving my Dad because she wanted to enjoy what was left of her youthOuch. Yes typical whore behavior (no offence).I think you are pretty reasonable tho, even if you have no experience. Having no real life experience doesnt mean you are braindead yk.
>>84834724How are you sure he is not cheating on your back? What would you do if he was?
>>84834874I know that he wouldn't do that, so no issue there
>>84834883i thought the same before, just saying
>>84834866>Having no real life experience doesnt mean you are braindead yk.Thanks, me being actually braindead is what means i'm braindead lol.>relationshipYeah maybe, as i said, i have no clue how relationships work. You gotta realize, except for my Dad, i have never once in my entire 21 years of existance had a 1 sentence long conversation with another human being. I have no idea how dating and boyfriends and all that works. My Dad is literally my only human contact, and i already got some unhealthy feelings there, so i'm the last person to give anyone advice on dating.
>>84835106ok that sounds like you want to fuck your dad. im sorry you have those feelings that must be tough. anyways you didnt say something retarded before so dont worry
>>84835125Yeah but it has mental issues as it's basis. Basically i wrote it out here >>84834819 don't feel like writing the entire thing again.I'm a huge fuck up so don't really try to look for reasonable things when it comes to me.
>>84834429Exactly, which is why if you want one you either need to get absurdly lucky or steal him from someone else who got absurdly lucky.
>>84833170If he cheats with you, he will cheat on you. I don't want a cheater, even if he's cheating with me. Into the garbage he goes.
>>84834641>My point is, if that can happen once, can't it happen again?Bold to assume there are any men for whom it can't happen once. Stacy will steal away the good man without a second thought even after you take his virginity.
>>84836360Stealing doesn't require cheating. You can steal his heart and get him to break up with her before doing anything with you, it's just not the most common route.
>>84833170I don't take used goods
>>84836377>what is emotional cheatingYeah, no. That's just honoring a few specific rules while breaking a lot of others. You're still putting effort into destroying a relationship, you're still making the other party more unfaithful than they would be otherwise, and you are absolutely still a homewrecker. Just a homewrecker that follows a Code of Honor to distract from the fact that you're doing something slimy.
>>84836510>You're still putting effort into destroying a relationshipWhy is that a bad thing if you deserve him and she doesn't? Not all relationships are worth preserving.
>>84836573That's better. At least you're being honest now. That's better than making gaslight-y "no, I am a noble cheater because there's one or two lines I don't cross" claims, because you don't get bonus points for behaving in fundamentally dishonest ways in the closest-to-honest way possible.
>>84833170Yes I stole my now husband from the guy he was talking too and I love thinking about it. Sorry twink, the woman with no friends gets the bisexual hottie.
>>84833170If he's a high value man and I can get him, 100% I'm gonna shoot my shot. Men would do the same.
