Haven't seen one of these in a while - let's restart it.All things related to Tinder, Hinge, and other dating apps - post your current conversations, dates, search for advice, or talk about what's currently going on.
I’m tired of only matching pigs
>>34260942I'll kick things off. I'm actively talking to two girls I matched with on Hinge and going on dates with both.I'm pretty sure I can end up fucking both of them, though I've never used Hinge before to fuck someone - only Tinder. Should you approach things differently considering Hinge attracts more serious people, or are the approaches the same as Tinder?
>>34260942i'll bite.what apps do people recommend for those looking for long term?>INB4 they all suckyes, but at this point still may aswell try.
>>34261117They do indeed all suck, but the one marketed towards long-term and "meaningful" relationships is Hinge. That's the reputation it carries and what most normies will gravitate towards.
>>34261142Hinge is the one I've had the worst experiences with as a woman. The fact that everyone has to answer prompts on their profile makes it seem like people are far more invested than they are. It was at least glaringly obvious when someone was putting in zero effort on Tinder/Bumble, so I prefer those by a large amount.
>>34261171What's your age and country? I've seen people consistently use low-quality profiles on Hinge. I'm 26 and my filters are set for 20-30 in the UK.
>>34261142interesting. any less normie ones though (of any worth)? ive tried Duo but it simply doesnt have a big enough base of women it seems, on top of attracting those even more likely to be shut ins that second guess engaging even compared to normal.as if guys dont already have to contact more women than in reverse to get a response.>>34261171those but feel too normie but still interesting and noted. also, Tinder i think from what i can remember just in general with everyone had a bad reputation i think? not sure ive heard anyone talk about bumble.
>>34260942I don't know how any of you are getting any likes or matches on these apps. I've had them for years and not once did I ever get a like or match, and I'm not fat or ugly I'm literally just a normal young guy
>>34261195I haven't dabbled in any apps outside of Tinder, Hinge, or Bumble, so I couldn't give you an answer. There are a few that focus on a niche, though I couldn't tell you how successful they are. There's Boo which is aimed at introverts and gamers, chyrpe which is aimed at femdom, the league which is aimed at high net worth or status individuals, and various BDSM or kink ones. There's also Thursday which is very gimmicky and only allows you to match with others on Thursday. These competitor apps tend to have low usercounts, and will have either uggos or weird people as all the normies use the three I mentioned or a regional variant where Hinge or Bumble don't exist. >>34261198>I'm literally just a normal young guyYou, amongst millions of other guys globally. Chances are there are areas you could improve your profile, but ultimately, Tinder is rigged against guys. They make up approximately 80% of the global userbase and are the most likely to buy Tinder subscriptions. Pre-COVID, Tinder used to be better and it had its renaissance in the mid 2010s, but it's become garbage since then.The best you can do is keep trying without expectations, try other apps, or get off them for your own sanity. I sympathise with you because I'm somewhat in the same boat, and the easiest time I've had meeting girls and ultimately fucking them is through work.
>>34261183I'm 28 and from Canada.>>34261195Tinder has a reputation for being for hookups because it was basically the first dating app that really took off, and it was pretty much based around looks. Others tried to distinguish themselves from Tinder by changing up one aspect (Bumble's was that women had to message first, but they've removed that somewhat recently because it turns out that women still won't message first even when they have to). Bumble was the one that I had the best success on by far, but it definitely isn't as popular as it used to be.
>>34260942Tinders fucking broken now. I'm a legit 8/10 dude w a great profile, confident and w my life together but the app just doesn't show you to people. I get consistent matches but it's a consistent trickle of one a week maybe.The app also either creates or allows bot farms to create filler profiles. It's always the same setup of 3-4 pictures of 9/10 women with slightly grainy photos (probably scraped online) and no original text in the profile. NEVER swipe on these. The algorithm weighs your swipe rate and how often you're on the app to milk you (I don't pay for anything).This also doesn't even address hoeflation and the epidemic of obesity (USA here). I will never date an obese woman and I'd say 60% are seriously overweight or obese. Also the picture angle game is something to always be aware of. NEVER swipe on women with no full body picture.I know this all sounds mysoginistic but I'm just relaying my experiences.
>>34261222Part of my problem with duo is, unsurprisingly, it being a /here/ app most are some form of gamer/ shut in.Im far from a normie but gaming lost its luster to me years ago. I also simply dont watch nearly any shows, anime or otherwise, which is often the only non gamer thing people mention they do on duo.Hard to strike up a conversation when their only personality is what games or shows they watch...
>>34261329Devil's advocate:>I'm a legit 8/10 dudePerhaps, but beauty is subjective. Your ideas of you being a 8/10 is a 6-7/10 in someone else's eyes, like the women you're trying to sleep with>w a great profileAlso very subjective - most guys tend to have shitty profiles without knowing it. I'm by no means a guru and I have a decent profile at best, but much better than what I've seen on others' profiles>confident and w my life togetherThis is good, though there's no way to demonstrate this until after you match with someone and start talking to them, so it's pointless for getting matches.>I get consistent matches but it's a consistent trickle of one a week maybe.I'm in the same ballpark. Some days I get 2 matches, some weeks I don't even get 1 - it really varies, and it's mostly the algorithm fucking with us.>This also doesn't even address hoeflation and the epidemic of obesity (USA here).I'm in Europe so I can't relate to this, thankfully - we don't have the same problem with obesity as you guys do. It's not misogynistic - angle frauding is a known thing at this point and sadly common.>>34261342How have you done on the normal apps, if you've tried them? You might have better luck going for a wider pool of people that isn't niche, rather than going for a niche pool with very little people. I've encountered a fair amount of geeky or niche interest people on Tinder and Hinge, so you might have an easier time there.With that said, you can try both the niche and generic apps.
>>34261272What are the common themes in Canada? You're the first person I've spoken to that uses apps there, so I'm interested to know. The meta in the UK is that Tinder is unspokenly used for sex, with keywords like "always up for a laugh". Tinder and Hinge also have people talking about drinking a lot, and women very much expecting men to make the first move or to pay for everything. Where profiles used to be serious, women have also quite regularly go for intentionally goofy or bad photos. >Tinder has a reputation for being for hookups because it was basically the first dating app that really took offThis sentiment seems to be worldwide, and I think that was its original intent by the founders - for people to hook up. >but they've removed that somewhat recentlyThis is tragic. I haven't used it in years so I didn't know this, but it doesn't seem promising if they removed the one feature that sets them apart. It's now yet another shitty dating app with nothing to set them apart that already had a smaller user base.>because it turns out that women still won't message first even when they have tolmao>Bumble was the one that I had the best success on by far, but it definitely isn't as popular as it used to be.I had okay-ish results. Back when women did have to message first, I got extremely boring opening messages all the time, like "hi" or "hi how are you" etc.
>>34261357oh, none.which is why im interested and asking about peoples experiences on other apps lol.funnily enough while still suuuper slim, and all ending in failure, ive still gotten more responses from discord posts /here/ than duo lol. not by much though.
>>34261408Everyone's experience will be vastly different on account of their gender, age, location, and what they're looking for. With that said, the universal consensus is that apps are utter garbage for everyone involved, and it's never been in a worse place than now. The golden area for Tinder was 10 years ago.The best analogy I've heard for everyone using the apps is like this:Dating apps suck for both men and women and they're hard, but for different reasons.For men, dating apps a like a desert where matches are so scarce and rare to come by.For women, dating apps a like a swamp. There are plenty of potential matches, but there are so many people to sift through and hard to find good men that meet their criteria.Both sides have challenges, but for entirely different reasons. Your best bet is to try apps you think meet your criteria, give it a meaningful amount of time to try them, e.g. one month, and make an informed decision.
>>34261357I understand the self assessment is subjective but I'm trying to be as objective as possible. >>34261447I have a conspiracy theory that these apps are being manipulated for cultural/demographic control. This is gonna sound /pol/ but they're all owned by the same match group conglomerate
>>34261363Tinder is definitely seen as the hookup app, but I think people view dating apps in general as not particularly serious, so while it definitely ranks at the top for casual, it's not like the others are seen as far behind.Hinge is more popular than Bumble here, but I think the two apps are seen somewhat similarly. The average guy's profile is also very boring, and drinking culture is huge here, so that is a big part of it. Almost everyone will have a picture of them drinking on a patio, in a suit at a wedding, with their dog, and one at the gym. They mention wanting a "partner in crime" and I see the line "will always like my dog more than you" a lot which I'm not sure why that's supposed to be charming, haha.90% of the openers I would get would also just be "hey, how's it going?" type messages. My rule with dating apps is to not respond to any generic message that could be sent to anyone, so those would get sent to the trash, hah.
>>34261474Yes always tailor opening messages to the profile, casualness and flirty humor go a long way. That said it's important to attempt to secure an in person meet within the first few days else the match will fizzle out and die.
>>34261363>What are the common themes in Canada?We have some of the coldest, pickiest women on the planet. A country's worth of 6/10s who think they're 9s.
I’m in SoCal and 90% of women are obese Hispanics. Then you have tons of ghetto blacks or super fake Asians. Then, if you find a white girl, it’s a Jew and a super liberal type who are all fat and gross looking too. Dating in SoCal sucks so much.
>>34260949at least you're matching with pigs
>>34260942I've always gotten a lot of attention and dates/sex from apps, even now. The only One I currently use is Bumble and get probably 5-8 matches a week and realistically I only swipe right on less than 5% of the profiles I see. I end up ignoring about 50% of my matches and let the others fizzle out pretty quick. About 1/3rd of the conversations I do have are initiated by the girl. ExampleI'm pushing 40. I'm handsome in a rugged and deranged way. I also carry myself very confidently. It's been a while since I've actually met up with anyone because I am broke and very not normal and live very not normally. But I get the opportunity a lot on apps and irl encounters.
apparently my tastes are horrifically anti-normie even moreso than i thought. all these girls on hinge so far just look like fake plastic dolls that i am 100% uninterested in.i went in with a fear of rejection and its taken less then 10 minutes for me to instead be worried there wont be anyone worth it for ME to reach out to.
>>34262292I downloaded hinge and noticed that too. Apparently it's designed to make you see the cream of the crop for a few days until you start seeing actual people. Very discouraging
Hi, can anyone help me choose my best 6 dating pictures, and what order to put them in?https://imgur.com/a/eU3NvhH
having used Hinge and Bumble now, i can confidently say my opinion of order from best to worst so far is:>Duo>Hinge>BumbleThat said i'd say theres the biggest gap between the good and bad on Duo depending on what you're looking for, but honestly Duo has been the best imo for how you browse profiles, how detailed profiles are, filters for finding people similar to you, and for how matches are done via the questionnaire system.I thought, having done Duo first, that the questionnaire system was kinda dumb, and i still stand by the fact a ton of the questions on there are retarded. but compared to the bare bones on Hinge and Bumble its waaay better. same with the profiles. Duo puts alot more emphasis on self Written bios and clubs, which really makes it feel like you are actually learning something about the person beforehand (or more obvious its a bot or just low effort).that said, it is the only one that does not require you to show an actual picture at all, which i can absolutely see how that is an instant killer for some in terms of usage. shame its userbase really is way too small.
>>34264276What's Duo? I've never heard of it before. A quick google search doesn't come up with anything related to dating.
>>34264339i think theres a non dating duo, so need to maybe put in 'duo dating'. should be purple with two pixel hearts.its literally a /here/ dating app. like, the creator literally is in and checks and talking in the duo thread here on /soc/. a solid bit of its userbase (though couldnt say if its the majority) will open put boards in their clubs (which are like tags of what you like or such, but more malleable... maybe too malleable even).instead of the swipe left or right, it simply lists all profiles that score a match with you of at least 50% under the 'everyone' tag, and i think up to 30% match if you look under the shared clubs tabs.you simply browse the profiles, and send a message to those you like... that said, really easy for people to ghost you there, but, that happens everywhere to be fair regardless.even if the basic premise of it is off-putting to you, i'd still give it a go just to see how its built and functions, i really do think its got some good ideas other apps are lacking so far imo.
>>34264161I don't have the energy to order them at the moment. But whatever you do, don't use 1, 2 or 6. Especially the first couple are not good. I didn't expect it'd get so much better scrolling down, but it did. Most of the other pics with your current haircut are alright, especially the waterfall ones. 12 is the best picture really. It's charming. Honestly, longer hair suits your face a lot better than short. Looks 100x better. The volume of the longer curls brings balance to your head shape. Although I guess opinions on that could potentially vary.
>>342641612 - kinda alright, very casual very chill, just a default picture of you tho i think arms crossed is bad?4 - can show off that you can find beauty in the world since its a nice background picture7 - you are well put, have a watch showing off like you have money + restaurant setting good9 - just happy guy with happy bird, me thinks is good12 - double bird funny, silly, prob best cook, tho doesnt match well with others since different style of hairt. autistic 26 khhv werido whos never dated irl
What sort of pictures stand out to you about a woman when you look at her profile?
>>34265767The more skin you show the more matches you'll get
>>34260949Reality of dating sites, anon. The average man is socially retarded, the average woman looks like a caricature of Ms. Piggy.
>>34265767If they aren't the same cookie cutter pictures that literally thousands of other profiles I've seen already have, you're off to a good start.That means no:>Bathroom mirror selfies>Pictures in a dress (holding a drink optional) in a nightclub or wedding>Swimwear photos>Monument pictures>Ski/surf/hiking pictures>Pictures about to kiss your dog>Boat pictures>Coffee outing picturesMind-numbingly overdone, with zero originality to them.To finish the long preface and actually answer your question: what is it she has or does that actually sets her apart from the hordes of women using the app? Is she into some actually obscure fandom? Does she fish? Does she do any art herself other than consuming it? Have her own garden, even an indoor one? She must show something actually unique to stand out. Slutty and 'tee-hee' happy are known quantities.Swap these for gender appropriate ones and you got a valid list for males btw.
either spain sucks or i suck
>>34268789Both can be true, but what does my country have to do with a Tinder/dating app thread?
i havent had a meaningful match on any dating app in YEARS. like even the oops swipe on fatties and trannies barely results in a match anymorewhat the fuck happened to dating apps collectively the least few years? its a barren wasteland
>>34269238There are two things at play here. One is that it's an intentional move by the app owners, and the other is society adapting to apps. Dating apps nowadays exploit loneliness and get you to stay on the app for as a long as possible. They do it by throttling your visibility and ultimately matches, but you still get the occsional like or match drip-fed to you to keep you interested - and it's all in the name of money. There are still good people on Tinder, but they're intentionally out of reach.The other is that people are now very used to dating apps, and both the good and bad that comes with them. People now know that there are catfishes, creepy messages, flakes, ghosting, and all the other things, so people get their guard up. People were aware years ago, but not as much.Basically, dating apps now exploit people's loneliness for money and people as a whole are getting sick of apps themselves.
The apps suck, I keep getting ghosted by matches.I've gone on dates with 2 people, started a relationship with one and she cheated on me within 2 weeks.
>>342700513 people*
>>34270051How long did you know her before you got into a relationship
Canadian here recently back into the dating apps game after a long term relationship. It' was strange coming back, but I've actually had a fair bit of luck, no home run 9's and up but I've found some cute girls and even managed to score some wins (nvdes) Be willing to chat privately, share some stories or otherwise. 053927a39883db97a295431d783021ea802c6caf8deb62338011aeb3a9fcc94a53 On s3ss@gladypus on telegr
The Duo glazing on here is wild. Don't waste your time, it's a ghost town over there.
>>34270151huh?so your complaint is the thing i mentioned more than once was a major problem with it? lol
i have 0 friends to tell this to so i guess u guys r gonna hear it.i met up with someone from tinder (who i think is out of my league) for the first time ever last night and it was so.... strange??? probs never doing that again loli have only been with 1 guy (my ex bf of 4 years who i lost my virginity to, he cheated on me). don't know why, but i thought id try tinder because ngl i really have been missing physical contact. i must portray myself on my profile as some alt girl thats REALLY experienced/kinky but i absolutely am not despite the whole emo girl aesthetic. grew up in a strict baptist family, pastor as a grandpa. not really relevant but i have down in my bio that i am diagnosed with autism so people knew what they were getting into.the guy i was """hanging out""" with brought alcohol for us to drink, and i was fine with that/i wanted to drink to help calm nerves. this fucking dude brings out a bag of coke LOL. he obviously was like you don't have to do any if you don't want to, so i don't. at this point im drunk and sort of sperging out because this is the point where i KNOW i should leave bc i cant handle any of this. but he wanted to see my "meme collection" bc i had some retarded memes on my profile so i showed himdon't know how it started bc i definitely looked nervous, but we started making out and all of that shit. my stupid retarded little foid brain didnt realize making out with a guy who has done 4-5 lines already + has been rubbing it on his gums would make me high????? i really am fucking stupid lmfao.i think after his 10th line and 45 minutes of making out and other things, i got verrryyyy nauseous omfg. ALSO HE HAD EXTREME COKE DICK. everything sexual he was doing to me felt very foreign and unpleasant and i felt extremely out of place. i was stimming the whole time loli know i should have left way before i did leave but the nausea made me think clearly as in "i need to text my friend and get the fuck out of here" so i left
>>34275074is this how tinder hookups usually go or was this situation just fucked LMFAOno more casual sex for me ever i guess holy fuck
>>34275084adding onto this; what happened is Nothing like what i expected the night to go but i'm not really mad???? like i definitely would NOT could NOT do that again but yayyy coke dick that cant work, groping that made me feel nothing, free alcohol, and character building!!!! very weird experience but i think this is a funny story probably for the both of us. he texted me after i got home apologizing and saying he got way more fucked up than he thought he'd be. lmfaooo he probably thought he was gonna get pussy from a freaky fat alt bitch that knew what she was doing but got a fat retarded alt bitch instead. oopsie
the last time i tried downloading tinder it was filled with bots and prostitutes. then it was mostly obese women left. but i'm in the houston area so.. so maybe that's normal
Still looking to show off my tinder matches
053927a39883db97a295431d783021ea802c6caf8deb62338011aeb3a9fcc94a53 On s3ss
I don't understand as a guy on tinder if I'm supposed to be waiting for matches or just messaging every woman like some kind of indian
>>34275116no he's just a retarded cokehead
Got maybe 2-3 likes off bumble but no convos, I’ve sent complements and super swipes and nothing happened. wtf am I missing?
anyone else got tinder or dating apps and just wank to girls' pics on there?wanna share matches or girls on there and jerk together since I get no matches?kik is goonergooner10
https://discord.com/invite/95Han7QN4m California discord server. We would love it if more locals joined!
Does tinder inform users if I take screenshots? I took one to ask my friend for an opinion and I am now scared that she got a notification for it lmao
What's the best way to actually induce a meet up? I'm not talking sex, just actually meet in person. I find that being crude and jumping to sex in the convo can actually work better because its exciting, even if it doesn't work on a lot of women, the ones it does actually want to meet. Being chivalrous does nothing even though I really just want to have a quick 15-30 minute date to see what their personality is like. Also, pro tip guys, don't swipe on women with these professions:>bartender>hair stylist>>34294002No it doesn't.
M here are women fucking retarded? I've been on dating apps for years and all women want to talk about are music, drinking, and God forbid their fucking plant collections. Models sluts pigs single moms doesn't matter. Even if they claim to share some of your interests, say you bring one up, and you ask what they like, and it is the most vague dodgy nonanswer you can think of. And the cherry on top is actually getting to engage and share your interests when they ask 'hbu?' (can't be bothered to type it all out), all you get in return is 'cool lol'I have unironically had more success meeting up through reddit r4r subs than I have just keeping up a conversation on these shitty dating apps filled with women who have lost the light behind their eyes.Downloading grindr because men know how to converse, should I top or bottom?
>>34260942I've never actually sent a message on a dating app but I seem to get a lot of likes
>>34305463You didn't get any actual likes. Those are all bots and deactivated accounts.They do that to try to get you to sign up.Once they have your money, you find out it's all bullshit.
>>34305660Well good thing I never replied then
I got like 20 matches on tinder in the past few months since my gf dumped me, a few dates, one sex but I always fuck it up. I fucking suck at flirting. I never know whether to say something flirty right away or just start asking them shit about their profile. I can't tell if these women just want to get fucked or if they want an actual relationship. Kissed a few girls and they ghosted me afterward. It fucking sucks. I would like if someone could tell me my actual problem so I assembled a bunch of my convos, not all but a decent number, that went to shit.
