Hello /tg/ my friend group well more the gaming group ended and now Don't know what to do, but i'm sure that after the fall and got my shit together I'll make another group and play again. So how is going with your group /TG/?For me it's just sad that after 6 years we grew apart, we done so many games both TTRPGs and Board Games, we started with DnD 5 but we always changed system, we played Cyberpunk2020, Gurps(3rd edition), Pathfinder 1st ed, Lex Arcana and many more, the last game we had was "Lex Arcana" the DM was a Roman history nut and it felt a lot like a roman Myth the campaign, feels bad we can't continue.We didn't fight or anything is just one of the players without telling anything just left (he's my best friend and there's a lot of shit going on with his life) then another friend who went to University got the degree and the job and now has less time, I don't complain I mean good for them that they go forward with life, is just sad that we finished without saying a word, I tried to keep the group together but in the end I just gave up because too much hassle just to organize every week and hear "Sorry can't make it".(we're all adults who work different jobs)Well just sad, but nothing that can't be fixed or to end my life over.
>>96865356My group lives on, but I had to leave for life reasons. It's heartbreaking shit. Same as you it was over like 6 years. I was there when it began.Mainly I try to focus on being grateful to have been able to build something wonderful and play / run so many great games.Things end, and that's okay.
>>96865484>Things end, and that's okay.I learned years ago, but It's just the feeling that you know it happened recently and now I just need to procces the thing. After that I'm sure like you I'll just remember with fondness all those game nights, those TTRPG conventions and comicbook conventions.
>>96865356>6 years we grewA man has to know his limitations. They couldn't kill the final boss and gave up on it all...
>don't know what to do nowWell you've already accepted what's happened so that's a great start. It's okay to spend some time to reflect and cherish the memories you made as others have said. With more time freed up you can as you say get your shit together, and once that's done look into more systems, catch up on old systems, play some new games. You could always begin looking into warhorn, meetup, or one of the many other rpg group websites local to your area if VTT isn't your thing. Now is also a great time to begin building a new group, or you can always link up with the remnants of your old group still interested in playing something, take a break, and come back with fresh blood to continue forth. I think you have a good head on your shoulders so just keep your chin up, I'm sure you'll find something that suits you soon.
>>96865624For sure I'll already planned that I want to take rest this fall and after Christmas and new years eve I'll research a new group and play. But yeah for now just get my shit together which is just for serius stuff, study for some Update courses for my job and wanted to recuperate some RPGs that I wanted to read like Mages and WoD in general always wanted to learn the system, the lore I know it from videos of TTRPGs and videogames.
>>96865356>6 yearsAmateur numbers. I've been gaming with my group for about 20 years at this point, give or take. We've had people come and go, but it's been the same core for the majority of it.
I feel with my own gaming group. Only my brother and I are the core members. We keep seeing people come and go over the years, including two people who were there on Day 1.It is what it is.
I've found that online play during weeknights has kept my college group going once we got different jobs, Wednesday Night is the best time, nobody plans shit on a Wednesday
>Group 1 In Person - Playing a DCC campaign currently.We lost two members over the past 6 months. One players schedule has changed so we will likely lose him too. >Group 2 In Person - Playing a World of Darkness campaignGoing strong, we added a new player last month.>Group 3 Online - Various GamesWe play various RPGs. Theyre all Autism/ADHD and get bored of a system after a month and want to move onto the next. I hate running for them, need to find a new online group.
We only just started. Most of these guys have been my friends for ten years by now, but about a month ago I started running games for them. I've always wanted to. Right now we play every week and reliably have a blast. If the group fails, I have a large backlog of nerds, friends of friends and the like. Gaming is great for me - I work nights and weekends so getting all the lads together to hang out on weekdays is a life-saver, socially. And since we're all good friends the happiness is infectous. Thanks for listening. Much love.
>>96865356Sometimes people just grow incompatible. Happened to my group of 10 years. Or maybe it was me that grew incompatible with them. I'm not sure at this point to be honest.
>>96865356I kinda relate anon. Our group is essentially on hiatus right now. I dont know if it is officially dead but no one seems to want to have the long talk we need to have about everyone's behavior. It seems like everyone can work well in smaller pairings but when everyone is together its like we become our worst selves.
My group fractured over politics during the scamdemic after over a decade together. I stayed and just hid my beliefs because I had invested too much creatively to leave. I wonder, if you leave a group, if it ends up ruining your memories of that campaign?I broke up with my ex-gf almost a year ago, and I notice that no one wants to mention her around me anymore, but honestly I had a nice time with her when she was in my D&D group, and nice memories in general. Maybe I wasn't really in love and that's why it doesn't bother me. Maybe I am just "mature" now, or just more dead inside. I know that that's a weird comparison and I sound autistic. I wonder if I should have left the group back then but honestly I would have missed out on a lot of fun gaming. Including, storywise, a couple of the best campaigns I have ever run, that remain unfinished. But if I do finish them, and quietly leave that group with some excuses of being too busy, leaving behind long long time friends, will I regret it in the end? Years down the road? Or will I regret not speaking up?
People put too much emotion into politics. We all die. We’re all struggling. No government has ever given people anything other than inflation and increased taxes. But ya people are touchy as fuck about it. I quit some minor gaming friend groups (just board games and one shots) because a few people had their entire personality was wrapped up in pissing and moaning about the government. No regrets. I think the older you get the easier it gets to find people. I play magic at the local game store and there’s no lack of guys there 30s and 40s down to hangout and roll dice.
OP here.Came to read after work.Well seems i'm not the only one, after yesterday I had to sleep on it and yeah it's not the end of the world and not I just have a night free and it's strange after a lot of time, well I'll use it for reading as I said "WoD" specifically Mage.>>96870174Sorry to hear that, but I always think for gaming you need to speak up and find a group where you shouldn't feel ashamed or scared to talk even about gaming since you're there for that and even the other players and it feel like cheating. Sorry to hear about the Gf too. Well you do you.
>>96865356Yeah, you can't hold on to gaming groups when people's situation changes. I play with only two people from my original uni group, because everyone moved or got married and such.Try to find some people in your current circles - coworkers, people who live close to you and are in similar situation. Everyone being able to see each other without too much hassle is super important for group coherence
>>96865356Mine fell apart the day you made this post in an extremely explosive manner. The entire thing was an absolute shitfest and now people are banned from speaking to me or my sister who was also in the group. I'll admit a bit of it was my fault (autistically fixated on my character, he was my first, was a big part of what I discussed, accidentally derailed the campaign by getting too into roleplay, privately informed the DM of things that I felt were important but I suppose crossed his boundaries) but I told the entire thing to other DMs and they were mortified at how it was handled. Should the DM want to talk again, I will, but I doubt it because he was allergic to communicating boundaries and instead liked to make snide comments behind backs or make general statements publicly about things players said/did in private. If he just told me to knock off whatever was irritating him instead of suddenly blocking all communication after saying he would not do that to me, I think we could have worked out a solution. This is not the first time he's done this to someone and it will not be the last. It'd probably work best as a story but I haven't found a way to format it and post it here yet.
>>96871442I have a new gf now. I'll probably not bring her to that group. I'll probably not bring her to gaming at all. She used to play but I think she had a bad experience and bringing her near more autists won't help. Maybe my second smaller group.
I miss playing with my friends, some still don't have a stable schedule but little responsibilities. Others have kids or other similar responsibilities. I found a group of randos online. Honestly two of them are straight up retarded. One also just has the worse sense of humor I have ever seen.I don't know how I stuck through last session. I am going to give it another but I think I won't enjoy it again.
>>96865356Theres a short story I keep meaning to write called "Let's all Meet Up in the Year 2000". There's a new years eve party, obviously the turn of the millennium, and a bunch of 20 year olds are at a bar or a nightclub or something, a whole extended group of friendsAnd something weird happens, some cosmic anomaly where the planets intersect just right aimed right at the bar, and every one of these people sort of bleeds out into the rest of their life. They get muddled into the 4th dimension, gain access to their 40, 50, 60 year old selves, and their older selves gain access to that night. They have so many future memories now, but also in the future, when theyre in their beds, almost asleep, they link up to this moment, and go back there. They're equally in the bar and in their beds decades from nowAnd they dont freak out or act like something crazy is happening, because to them this has happened before, even when it happens the first time. They remember it happening as its happening. They are young and know their future, and they are older, lying in their beds, going back there, experiencing it as a vivid present. Everyone understands what's happening, none of them even remark on it. They all know the rest of them know whats going on. All they do is talk. About where they end up. How they drifted apart/how they're going to drift apart. What the old days were/are like. Things theyve forgiven and will/now find funny. A mature appreciation of missed oppurtunities and unfortunate falling outs, but leavened with the knowledge that that stuff happening is just part of being a person. Some talk about how said it is that ones going to die of cancer in his 40s, and most of them can't make the funeral, and he's there with them oddly chill about it. They just talk, inhabiting this moment that didn't seem like a big deal at the time, but that even in their normal life they all think back to fondly with ever greater fondness, and which they go back to now and then.
>>96865356I had a gaming group through middle school until a few years after graduation. We used to get together and play games, just go out and have a good time, that sort of thing. Our personalities didn't really mesh though and a lot of group was kept together because there was nowhere else for us to go--no one could find other people to play with, until college and beyond.One guy found a different group in college and wound up ditching ours for it after a while. Another guy moved off to another city and stopped keeping in contact. The last guy became a social hermit and threw himself into his job as a teacher, so his high school students are the only ones he interacts with.I eventually found another group, but it took a couple of years and they're far more simplistic than the previous one. Whereas my original group used to try all sorts of games and do silly roleplay (Which didn't always mesh well with me since I was more serious), the new group doesn't do hardly any RP and instead we're mostly doing beer and pretzels dungeon crawls with an occasional bit of story exposition. It's definitely not the same, but I like the people for what they are and enjoy spending my weekends with them. Sometimes you have to accept the fact that even if you find something, it's not going to be one to one with your previous crew.
>>96872957Why don't you just pair-game together? You can even be degenerates and ERP without disrupting the game for others.
