>Been running a ttrpg group for 4+ years>Have a lot of good memories, have done multiple full campaigns across various systems>Group has flourished into a friendship. I've gone on holidays with these people and consider them all buddies of mine>One of them, while nice, is always relating stories about her boyfriends, and how she can never seem to find the right one and ends up breaking up with them.>whatever.jpg>Yesterday, I found out that one of the guys in the group has starting dating her.This group is gonna implode whenever they break up. And, knowing her history, they WILL break up. Was my mistake involving women to begin with? Is it joever? What would /tg/ do?
Get the plot ready for the breakup so whenever or wherever it happens you can adjust accordingly to lose the player.Prepare another campaign for anyone who leaves the table over their bullshit.Be ready to watch them have a happy and fulfilling relationship
>>98038644>This group is gonna implode whenever they break up. Been there, done that. Saw break up a 5 year engagement because she cheated on him with multiple people from the group. Admittedly, if they hadn't gotten married in 5 years, then it was never going to happen, but we lost both of the engaged players, and both of the guys who fucked the cheating whore.
>>98038644Playing with a woman was your first mistake, but that's okay Anon. Now you know for next time. If you're gonna play with a woman, make sure she was at least born a man.Also, share your concerns with the rest of the group. The man who started dating her is part of the problem too, because he ought to know he's putting a gun in his mouth by dating her.
>>98038690It sounds like there were multiple shitty people in your group, obviously the woman but also the guys who fucked the fiancee of a buddy of theirs when given the chance. It's probably a net positive that you got rid of them - net positive purely in terms of the composition of your group, that is, obviously not from the perspective of the guy who was cheated on.
>>980386444+ years is enough time for people to change a bit and settle down. Maybe. Are you all at least into your 30s yet? you might be fucked either way tho
>>98038644Hell I had a group Implode because it had two married couples and guy 1 was fucking wife 2. Good luck dude
>>98038644Read any story about what happens when a single-woman is a part of any group in a hobby. You know exactly what happens next and you're a fool if you expect this to go any different.Prepare for an IC reason why either of both of them leave IF your group survives the inevitable breakup.
>>98038644On the other hand, when they breakup is a wonderful opportunity to fuck her on the rebound yourself. Stay in contact, be sympathetic but slightly distant. You need to maintain confidant status without falling into the friendzone orbit.
>>98038713>It's probably a net positive that you got rid of themIt was. I cut contact with the two guys and even though I've crossed paths with the cheating fiance a few times, we're not even acquaintances at this point. I'd have remained friends with the dude who was cheated on, but he ended up moving pretty far away not too long after that whole shitshow happened.Losing all of those people eventually led to some far better games and ended up with me discovering how much I loved GMing games for my friends. So, yeah, net positive in the grand scheme.
>>98038838ANON SWEEP THE LEG WHEN THEY BREAK UPSWEEP THE LEG!
>>98038644>Was my mistake involving women to begin with?Yes. Bringing women to a man's hobby always ends the same way, sooner or later. Specially if said hobby involves them living out their fantasies in pretend fantasy world while surrounded by men irl.There is nothing you can do to save it now, every outcome possible will lead to the group imploding in some way or another. All you can do is pray that the other guys feel the same way you do and are willing to stick around until you find a couple new players for a new game, hopefully without any women (or "women") this time.
I've been GMing for my group for many, many years. I was that guy. A long time ago, I started dating a girl in the group. Things went very well, but she developed stage fright as things got more serious for us, and she pushed me away. I kept running the games and she went on a hiatus. It was only moderately disruptive to that campaign honestly, hard as it was for myself at the time. Still, the story has a good ending. After a short time, she came back and we've been happily married for 10+ years, with kids, and I still play with most of my original group; though, some of them moved too far away to keep it up.
>>98038644In group romances sometimes work out. I married the DM of the last group I joined and now we've spent the last almost 7 years making poor financial choices together.
Of my group got married and withina year both stopped coming. The way she goes.
>>98038690>fucking their bros fianceWhat complete shitheads you're better off without them
>>98038644Anon, don't ne an assjole, be happy for your friends. Cross the what if bridge when you get there. If they stay together, hooray, it'll make the group stronger, and if they don't, well, it's not the first friend group rocked over a bad breakup. I had a girl in my group, she dated then married one of the players, the guy was absent for a short while when the kids were small, but he's back. The girl is not a regular anymore, but she's dropping by occasionally, and she's the biggest cheerleader of all of our geek stuff.
>>98038644On one hand, good for them.On the other, sucks that there's a real chance the group might implode if that goes south.But then again, there are several reasons why a group might explode, that's just another possibility to the pile.
>>98039140>things get serious>she pushes you away>comes back a while later>gets marriedShe wanted to fuck a ton of dudes first fyi.
>>98040094One of them was the group's token retard who thought he was rescuing her from a bad relationship, the other was flirted with by the girl, but he was still enough of a scumbag to go along with it because he fancied himself some kind of charming ladies man. I don't really miss either of them.
>>98040244BasedYou'd do the same if you were attractive enough to do it
Within a few months of being with the same girl every one of my players left and would come back after breakups. Women demand all of their men's attention these days. This is why I meet anonymous trannies to have sex with and dont get involved with anyone seriously.
>>98040523>This is why I meet anonymous trannies to have sex Based.
>>98040420Having been propositioned by quite a few dudes, I know that's false.
>>98039140Do you DM from the corner of the room too?
>>98040668She probably wanted to see if she could get a better guy before settling down.
>>98040693This, or just wanted to sleep around a ton first.Probably both actually.
Has a girlfriend joining the campaign ever not resulted in an implosion of the group?
>>98038644>DM replaces perma-absent player with his GF>just broke up with her>next game is supposed to be tomorrowWish me luck anons, I may need it
>>98038644Was it worth spending the token to generate that?
my first time ever running DnD I fucked it up so bad that two players broke up over a puzzle I poorly described. basically imagine that digimon movie divorce post but i fucked up and didnt describe the puzzle right and thusly it had no solution. then she called him a fucking retard and he called her a fucking bitch and then the group took sides and he punched a hole in my wall and she called the cops and one of the players after it was all done patted me on the shoulder and said "i don't like to metagame but there's supposed to be a green gem in the second room that you slot into the picture puzzle man. this should could have been avoided." he walked away from me, stopped at my door, then went back to the fridge and took out his 48 case of cokes and said "i think i'm gonna want these back" and then walked out of my house.Anyway I'd like to say something funny like I fucked her or something but every time I've seen these people in public they glare at me and I found out I'm about 50% blamed for that for being a bad dm. I posted a local ad and they were dming people on facebook and telling people I am a bad DM who ruined a marriage
Either you're making that up or they're a bunch of niggers because that's deranged.>guy waits till after things explode to mention the missed detail>blamed you for an unfortunate accident when it was still ultimately the two of them exploding at each other>potentially still blames you to this day and tries to "warn" people about youMaybe the detail guy read the book after the fact or something but even then that's fucking wild unless you really were a shit dm in addition to that or this is bullshit.
>>98039140Exactly how many cocks did she ride during that time? And those kids aren't yours I assume?
When I ran my first game ever in middle school, all of my friends peer pressured me into letting two of my players engage in their weird rape fetish. That was the first and only fade to black I ever did. I regret it every day. I never mention this to players until after they've played with me at least once because I don't want to be known as the GM who let's the players rape each other.Two of the players from that get went gay, the girl is a whore, and I haven't spoken to the other three since then.
>>98040094nerds are completely powerless against pussy. Hypersexual female autists rip through nerd cliques like crack cocaine
>>98041869i have no idea how to control a group sue me
I've mostly played with all-male groups, but the one time we had a female player she dated (and later moved in with, and from what I heard eventually, after we'd moved to different cities, married) one of the male players, and it was fine. In retrospect I think it might've been fine specifically fine because she dated one of the other players, because even as a bunch of hormonal teenagers none of us would've tried anything with a friend's girlfriend. There were no sexual or romantic opportunities there, basically, so there was also no pressure, drama or other bullshit related to that.
>>98041623kekEither you're omitting a large amount of other shit you did, or they were fucking psychos and it's not your responsibility at all.No stable person is going to be triggered by a puzzle so badly they're compelled to insult their lover to the point of a breakup.
>>98041623If this is true then those two clearly were already having stuff going on in their personal lives that made something like that inevitable. You getting blamed for it is completely absurd both since nobody could possibly see something like that resulting from a minor mistake if they've kept their affairs private and they were probably itching for an excuse to start fighting and you were just unlucky enough to be the spark
>>98041166the most clearly handmade image ever and you think it's AI. you need to take your meds or become an hero. NOW.
>>98042218Like crack cocaine through a Detroit Ghetto, specifically.
>>98038644>Was my mistake involving women to begin with?Specifically, your mistake was involving single women.
>>98038644You might get lucky. I'm in a group with my wife and my ex, and to make it worse my ex was the one that introduced us back when we were still together. I got the okay from my ex and the rest of the group before inviting my wife to join but I acknowledge it was still high risk for drama.Fortunately it worked out (maybe because they've been friends since grade school) and our group's been going strong for ten years now.
>>98038644You’re fucked, I’m sorry anonYou only ever invite lesbians
>>98038739Why hasn’t an anime of this story been made yet?
>>98042188Cool story.
>>98041623Please be real
my group imploded after one of the guys died in a snowboarding accident :(
>>98042266I did sorta play them against each other but I didnt think it was relevant, saying "Oh, There IS a solution there..."
>>98043249Grim.
>>98038644Tell the guy about her history and just exactly what's going to happen. It won't save your campaign, but you can go "I told you so, you fucking retard" when it's over.
>>98042218Seen it happen enough times to confirm.
>>98038690Lol I was one of the players who fucked her, the game was shit (5E what do you expect) and I was just there to pump and dump that easy cunt. Mission accomplished lads
>>98044025Anon, reread the post. They've been friends for years and she's been telling the entire group her history. He knows.
>>98038644>be gm>be fucking one of my players>said player is the most involved/engaged/etc>if anything bad happens this shit is gonna be nuclear the campaign dissolving will only be the startgot the tiger by the tail etc
>>98038644>This group is gonna implode whenever they break up.Not if you prepare in advance for the fact that you're kicking the ho when she dumps the guy. No matter what. Doesn't matter who was in the group first, doesn't matter what the players think.You won't take this advice though because you'll be worried the other players will take her side and then leave the group as well.
>>98038697>If you're gonna play with a woman, make sure she was at least born a man.This is an even worse idea. Nothing is more toxic than a trangutan.
>>98041623>he walked away from me, stopped at my door, then went back to the fridge and took out his 48 case of cokes and said "i think i'm gonna want these back" and then walked out of my house.Villainy.
>>98044133the DM hasn't earned those cokes
>>98039140Yeah so at least one of the kids isn't yours
>>98044229People who take back gifts - which should be given in thanks or to express affection, not expectation of reciprocation - are worse than any other humans alive except *maybe* pedos. And even then only actual pedos who fuck actual children, gift-rescinders are definitely worse than like teachers who fuck their teen students. Literal subhumans.
>>98041623Based conflict resolution councillor. Fuck that other guy tho, those were your cokes. Should have had one with you and been like >Welp fuck. >Same time next week?
>You only ever invite lesbians/thread
>>98038644Last year around June I got in touch with an old friend who I hadn't seen in 8 years. We used to be really good friends irl, but life just drove us apart, that's normal. He introduced me to some other people and we ended up having a very nice group to play games together, not table games though but bear me with me. Eventually at some point we got used to play together almost everyday at night, scary games and stuff, it really was very fun specially for me cause I hadn't had people to play friendslop games with. But, as I'm a 20slate person now, I eventually realized this was gonna end at some point. I remember playing one night with them and saying it to myself, this is great and I'm really enjoying it, but sooner or later, it's just gonna be a memory like many others of my life, maybe this is going to end overnight one day, so I'll treasure it now" and well, some time later it did happen like that. One day the guy got insanely angry over a minor disagreement on political views with me, got completely enraged, I couldn't even talk with him about it like an adult and long friends we were, he decided to cast me out and alienate the entire group of people we played with to cast me out as well. It's okay, they were more friends with him than with me ofc.What I'm trynna say is, enjoy the present, nothing is bound to last forever, not all friendships are meant to be for the rest of your life either, and THAT'S OKAY. Treasure the moments, the experience and the people in your journey and just keep living. It may suck but that's life, your friend group will probably end at some point, may the girl be the cause or not one day it just be over, so don't stress about it because you can't control it, just enjoy the present while you have it.
>>98044357shut the fuck up troon
>>98044357How buddhist minded of you, anon.
>>98044133>>98044229>>98044327I can understand if the guy that gave away the cokes was expecting to be like an "investment" in making the future games fun for everybody else. If the game group is destroyed, then the shitty DM they all blame would get the cokes. Understandable, even if a bit cunty.
>>98044357>One day the guy got insanely angry over a minor disagreement on political views with me,was it really the political views?I'm certain an old friend of mine thinks I stopped talking to him because he was a trump voter, but it's actually because he became unbearable as a person. The MAGA zeitgeist encouraged him to turn into the worst version of himself.
>>98044357>i only said nigger one timemaybe you shouldnt have been a fat fucking chud
>>98044357>my entire friend group told me to pound sand over a very minor one time unspecified political argument that i wont elaborate ontrannies love telling you what happened to them but never tell you why
>98044389>98044562>98044611bot posts triggered by word flags
>>98038697What about a man who was born a woman?
>>98044072Wasn't a 5e game, but it's amazing that this is common enough for it to have happened more than once.
>>98038644Condolences anon. Ive seen it happen a few times. You might be lucky and they'll band together against the foid and she will leave.
>>98044558>I'm certain an old friend of mine thinks I stopped talking to him because he was a trump voter, but it's actually because he became unbearable as a person.This is the real reason behind 90% of "stopped talking because of politics" stories you hear. Shitty politics is one thing, but there's no coming back from being a shitty person.
>>98044558Or maybe you became the insufferable liberal douchebag they used to make fun of 25 yrs ago?
>>98044558The guy had turned politically radicalized. I have somewhat strong political opinions as well that just happen to be on the opposite side, borderline chuddy on some topics sure, but I'm tolerant of other's people's views in general, even if I consider your views extremely retarded, I wouldn't cast you aside unless you are literally planning to do something illegal or are extremely dense, plus I'm an adult and we can talk about it and just agree to disagree and be done with itI didn't mention what I argued about cause it wasn't the point of my post and the topic is very local and I'm not American, but if you're that curious is that in my local city there's been for years protests by a minor political party, in which they systematically block streets or highways specially during peak working hours to be a nuisance or sometimes even blocking train stations, basically fucking over workers and normal people. I said that I find it pleasurable to see the police disperse them and doing so in a violent way even pleased me, because that's what the new goverment was doing. It may sound chuddy, but it's a very normal opinion honestly and it's actually what the law says anyway. We were actually good friends up to that day, I never really had had a problem with him in those years of friendship, even that long hiatus we weren't hanging irl we would still drop a chat once or twice a year to see what's up. He just snapped that day when I told him that. But in hindsight, breaking out friendship and that group was for the best, there' more drama if you really want me to tell you but I'll cut this post here cause its too long already.
>>98044810you might just be oblivious to how you are perceived by others. everything in your post suggests you might be in a little too deep; most people don't even have the word "chuddy" in their vocabulary. >We were actually good friends up to that day, all relationships are good until they aren't. People act polite until they reach their breaking point
>>98042257no I'm saying you weren't in the wrong there even if its an unfortunately timed mistake its fucking wild to blame you for that.
>>98044887I don't speak English with my friends irl, and I literally said I'm very open minded politically, why are you trying to psyop me? Lmao. I'll give you this bit more context and just close the story.In that group we had, there was a girl who was this guy's friend, they used to fight all the time and when they did, he would say nasty stuff to her, like personal hurtful, then I had to meddle between them so they would make up n we could go back to play together and whatever, but she would tell me in private that it hurt her and the guy was being an ass to her. Later, when I had that argument with him myself, I wasn't really angry with him, but he started saying nasty stuff to me too and he had never ever done that to me. Like, non-political things out of the blue to just hurt me. He also got angry with the girl because she was trying to calm him down, and he insulted her just like me. I didn't remember him being like that in the past.After that, I ended up talking with a friend we had in common, another one I hadn't seen in years but we were in touch, and this guy told me that my friend had done the same to him in the past, got angry and said hurtful stuff to him, and they also had a group in common, and this guy made everyone cast him away. So that kinda pissed me off, cause it's one thing to have a problem with me, but to do that shit, go talk with others when I had never had a problem with anyone, no political bs or insults or anything. Yet he did that, and he succeeded mind you, remember that girl? She told me at first she didn't have a single problem with me, and she didn't because we never argued, then later she also unfriended me and kept him as a friend.There's more but this is just enough, in insight, to me it was a nice experience while it lasted, but he wasn't the same person I used to be friends with, and all these people were clearly not very good friends either, let alone people that I want to be surrounded with.
>>98044810>i don't care for evil the government is our isn't all I care about is not being inconvenienced in any way. if 1 billion browns in iran need to die so that I dont actually have to suffer the consequences of my shitty beliefs that's goodyour friend is based, you should have hid your power level to keep a good friend
>>98043160>maybe because they've been friends since grade schoolHave you asked your wife for threesome yet?
>>98045295>She told me at first she didn't have a single problem with me, and she didn't because we never argued, then later she also unfriended me and kept him as a friend.Because it's about social capital, not who's right. He's got network of people, while you are a 4chan so she'll stay friends with him.Him being shitty to her doesn't matter as long as he's got that advantage, but she'll remember it if he ever loses his standing.
>>98041623>that digimon movie divorce post?
>>98043178>>98044348The best way is to invite one lesbian and one hot straight single girl. Your group will still implode from the dudes competing to fuck the girl but the lesbian's impotent lust rage will be so funny that it'll be worth it.
