I'm colming my friends but they don't see to care. I used to be there in their worst times you know? fuck them.
>>221357698I feel like this guy more and more every year
>>221357721why?
>>221357698I've literally had zero(0) friends since leaving highschool (and we weren't even close). I genuinely don't know what I'm doing wrong. Whenever I meet new people I try to befriend them but there's something repelling about me i guess.The ONLY times another guy my age has returned my friendship it turned out they were gay and probably just wanted to buttfuck me because after it became clear I wasn't gay they stopped wanting to hang outI don't get it. I'm not autistic or retarded or cruel. I'm not deformed or foreign. I have eccentric interests and like to talk
>>221358453>I like to talk about my eccentric interestsThis turns most people off, stop talking so damn much about your interests
>>221358453God gave you a friend+fuckbuddy and you ditched themPay for a psychologist at this point, they are obligued to listen to your yappingBut remember that you could have that with a man, instead of paying with money you let them suck your dick or somethingWhy do you deserve a friend, if YOU are not going to do anything for the friendFriendship it's supposed to be a back and forth but you don't seem interested in the giving back part
>>221357698I'M GONNA COLM
Same, i had a friendgroup i was part off, but i always had the feeling i needed to invite myself. When i stopped doing it i found it nobody gave a fuck about me outside of one dude who still wanted to hang out with me. But then he got a girl, knocked her up and started a family with her, and his girl hated me so we almost never hang out anymore because she always finds reasons to stop it. We recently went to watch world cup match together and got some drinks and she called him to come home early and dont drink too much. thank god i still have my brothers who i have a good relationship with.
>>221358731Yeah, when their girls don't like you it's like putting the nail in the coffin. It sucks. I mean I have known this guy since childhood but know it's like I never existed. Fuck off.
>>221359036I noticed very fast that she hated my guts. In our first introduction she was already saying our jokes we made were not funny. I dont even remember what the jokes where, but they where tame as fuck.
I didn't even have to do that, I was disliked enough to be ditched, a few times over the course of my life too. We are who we are.
>>221358453I used to have friends when I was the guy who listened. When I finally decided it was my turn to talk, all my friends deserted me.
>>221359036>Always tried not to be """that gf""">Got along with basically every one of his friends >One though>One in particular was like having a hot knife slid up my nostril into my brain>He turned tranny and ended up trying to dox/cancel a bunch of the guys in the friends group>The rest he has repeatedly sexually propositionedAt least I feel vindicated
>>221358731>always had the feeling i needed to invite myself.wow here's a deepseated feeling of mine that I really didn't need put into such concise words right now
>>221360050Listening is the way to make friends and influence people. So you were doing it right until you decided to talk. Why’d you do that, you bastard?
>>221359133that sucks real bad.one of my two friends started dating a girl that was really against off-color humor for a while, i was worried it was going to turn my sometimes-whiny friend into more of a sensitive douche. but eventually i spouted a good one in her presence that made her laugh and other people flinch, and she basically stopped doing that concern trolling shit overnight. had my friend actually thank me for that one.
>>221360050Reminds me of a chick who tried to friendzone me.
What’s the secret to a lasting, meaningful friendship, anons? Or is that just a myth?
>be me>have some friends>getting quite tired to hangout with themThey are good fellas, but fuck I'm just tired of doing nothing/drinking. If I suggest something out of the box, it almost never fucking happens. Just sitting around in parks/pubs like some bums. How about hiking, travelling? Some new sport? Going out to some events? Nah, the same shit that we have done for many decades now.
>>221360287>What’s the secret to a lasting, meaningful friendship, anons?To be honest, down to earth, and equal. Colm drives his friend away because he's pretentious and he thinks he's too good for Padraic. At the same time, Padraic thinks he's the "niceguy" and too good for Colm. If they would just get over themselves, the friendship would survive.
>>221360562>Padraic thinks he's the "niceguy" and too good for ColmI did not come away with this impression.
>>221360287at this point I think it's just a myth
>>221358453I always had the opposite problem, people wanted to be friends and hang out with me but I was never really interested. I can just about tolerate my wife.
>>221360287To be there. Talk, do stuff together, call them and have a beer.Simply watching a movie together or having a beer and talk for 30 minutes is enough. Do stuff together, go fishing, take salvia, take a plane and do a 2 days holiday away from the missus just you and your buddies, build memories together. Small things like this are the gasoline of long lasting friendships.Most important, don't be afraid to propose to do new stuff and be the one that organize and asks the others to meet up
Things could be worse. I have a lump in my neck that's been there for almost a month along with a vague pain in my side that's been coming and going for even longer and now I've got a hemorrhoid too just from struggling to shit after the last round of antibiotics I tried. And on top of that my doctor stopped accepting my insurance in the middle of all this shit so I've gotta find a new one and bring them up to speed and probably do a bunch more painful tests and shit. I'm only 31 and feel like I'm dying and spend almost all my time alone. Enjoy what you've got while you have it.
>>221358453Pretty similar to my experience. I went to college, but thought frats were lame. Didn't really make any real friends at my school for whatever reason. Mostly gamed with my highschool buds online.I think it does get better over time. I made some good lifelong friends at work. Eventually joined a church and have a circle of acquaintances and friends there now too.One trick is to ask a lot of questions and listen. People will return the favor and be open to listening to whatever autistic shit you have to share after you've already listened to them.
>>221362466>Pretty similar to my experience>except it's not similar at all
>>221357819You know why
>>221360050Damn..
>buddy killed herself a decade ago>stopped feeling at all like keeping up with the rest of the gang>didn't call, text, message them>they haven't called, texted, or messaged me eitherI don't know, some weird part of me died with her.I used to be the one who hosted a lot of the parties.She was a theaterfag and filmfag, liked McDonaugh but felt like the scripts they picked up for movies weren't his best, weren't as representative of his body of work- like In Bruges is kind of bombastic/flamboyant for him. She would have liked Banshees.
>>221363328Friendships sure are hard to gain, but so easy to lose
>>221357698I've known my best friend for 7 years but I moved about 4 hours away from him about a year ago. I've gone to visit him twice since but he has bailed on visiting me over and over at the very last minute, most recently on my birthday after I took time off work for us to go camping. Now he's upset at me because I don't want to talk. I've never had another friend like him but I just don't know where to go with this anymore. I don't trust anyone anymore and I hate it here.
>>221364112Just don't hold it against him, man. That's how you maintain a life long friendship. I've known my best friend since 4th grade and we're both in our thirties now and live waaay far apart but we still talk and meet up at least once a year but he's upset me plenty of times and I'm sure I've upset him too and we just forget about it after a while. Little offenses are inevitable when you know someone long enough but they're nothing compared to having someone on your side when you need it. Life only gets harder as you get older.
