Don't want to break it off with my gf but it's not working so I have to turn to this guy and pretend I hate her so that I can get rid of her
>>223961326This always makes you feel like a total piece of shit. If it's not working why not just be honest with her?
>>223961368I tried but she won't accept it. I could just straight up say "I don't love you anymore" but it's so harsh. And I still want to believe I love her, it's just not working out. But maybe I can't accept it myself
>>223961475I realized 18 months in to an 8 year relationship that I didn't really love her. Break it off, now. It will suck for 6 months but you'll be glad you did.
>>223961368>If it's not working why not just be honest with her?my brother in law did this. they actually split for a short while before my sister guilt-tripped him into getting back together, except it's way worse than before
Here’s what you do:Step 1: Tell her the words “I’m breaking up with you”. Step 2: Sleep with another girlStep 3: let her find out you slept with another girlStep 4: you’re free Sure your ex gf will go around telling everyone you “cheated” even though you broke it off with her before you slept with someone else, but when it comes to super clingy women this is the only way they understand they need to go.
>>223961326... So just break up?
>>223961721My sweet summer child.
Are you at the making up things to fight about stage already?
>>223961606I idealize relationships, or have high standards for what I want in one. If it's just "good enough" and not "soulmate" level of connection then I'd rather not. But I still have a lot of feelings for her. I've also never had a relationship last much longer than the honeymoon phase (2+ years)I kind of want to do it for her because I'm tired of subjecting her to my BS. Its fucking with my head and making me act different
>>223961799Do you yearn?
>>223961786Yeah, that's part of it. I think the core issue is I just kind of hate myself and am turning bitter as I get older. I don't see myself as being a suitable partner because I don't see why anyone would love me. >>223961877Yeah, I'm yearning to go back to the beginning of our relationship and be more open and appreciative of her. I also just yearn in general, like all the time lmao. I think me being neurotic kind of killed the relationship on arrival
>>223961326don't do it. she'll kill herself and you'll be to blame.
>>223961326>and pretend I hate her so that I can get rid of herAnon, I...Doing that only makes women want you more.
Relationships aren't happy being happy. They are aboutt producing children and building up generational wealth. Your "happiness" and "soulmate" are not only not the most important things that exist they don't even appear on the list. Grow the fuck up.
>>223961326At least you're not making Al Bundy threads anymore
Why are so many normies infesting the board lately
>>223961977I'm not having kids probably so for me they are
Have you tried being drunk a lot?
>>223962068The atomized individual strikes again. People like you are why society is ngmi
>>223962138Give it a rest, wannabreeder.
>>223962138I don't want to pass on my genetics that are predisposed do mental distress to another person. If I was more normal I would probably have kids
>>223962094I got high for the three weeks on kratom extracts, but it started to get boring
>>223961926You sound like you don't love yourself.
this is the problem with modern menthey're weak and so quick to just give up
>>223961326Lawyer up. She's going to claim rape and steal half your shit.
>>223963623I don't. I have doubts is possible to have a healthy relationship when you don't love yourself. In the beginning she made that feeling soften alot, but eventually you have to come back down to earth
>>223964282You have to force better habits, otherwise you are letting yourself to the effects of entropy. Whether it's about exercising and your body's health, learning something new and your mind's health, picking up the phone first to call your friends and your social health, all of the above combined and the relationship you have with yourself. If you let things go where they go by default, you will see everything turn to dust around you, your body's health, your mind's health, your social circles. You have to force them, because you won't do them on auto pilot, if that was the case, you would have done them a long time ago. I despise exercising, for example, yet I force myself to lift weights twice a week. I don't like cooking that much, yet I try to learn a new recipe every once in a while. You don't have to like them at first, you don't have to like them at all. All you have to like is the results. You never heard anyone say that they cook omelettes because they like cleaning the iron pan. They cook the omelettes because they like eating them, and they simply tolerate the chore of cleaning up.
