Looking for some books that deal with trauma as inspiration for my writing (it's shit, before you ask). Preferably ones that are relatively challenging rather than the mass-market books with the fancy covers.
>>1560173The best way to deal with trauma is to ignore it, and focus on building positive habits and doing stuff your enjoy.if you keep focusing on trauma your brain will try to find more of it, and keep you thinking about it.But when you ignore it and learn that its part of life, and FOCUS on other stuff, your brain will naturally forget it, and replace it.Just Don’t make trauma your personality. Also don’t talk down on yourself, as your brain needs constant confidence to improve.(lol just realized what you’re actually asking, it still a good thing to know what I said, anyways good luck with the writings)
>>1560175Err, thanks I guess lol? Seems very contrary from what I've read though. CBT is often used to treat PTSD for example by directly addressing past traumas and creating methods for dealing with them, at least from my understanding. A problem with trauma is that you can't forget it; it always stays with you. It's not like a video game addiction where you can substitute more productive hobbies.
>>1560177You make a good point, I just didn’t word it right and in-depthLets say you have a trauma from someone breaking into your house, and you’re in constant fear.All I’ll do is to learn how to protect my house from a break-in, reach confidant skills then forget about it, and move with occupying my brain with positive things everyday that feels like building thy self, instead of replaying the bad memories and dwelling on them.That is genuinely what I do.Kinda like CBT but its designed to make you escape the mental loop, because the brain does and can 100% make you forget, its that just each time you replay the memories you create the memo from scratch again.(I literally have so many embarrassing moments, but i can barely remember them, since I didn't dwell) So for me its about addressing triggers, than digging to find "childhood traumas", just to not keep trying to find problems that aren’t there.And the next time I get a trigger, i can just say, "I can protect my house", and continue with what I was doing. Just part of the strategy should be to make it feel finalized and forget it.But many are also physical like Mast cell activation syndrome, toxins that can cause anxiety, and nutritional deficiencies Because Its both the mind and the body, that why training is important, getting sun, removing toxins and getting sufficient nutrients ect...But a part of me also feels like some people just want to be seen and recognized, that why they make sure to diagnose themselves with something, and that desire is absolutely fine, but it shouldn't be about turning a trauma into your identity to make you feel unique (you are unique by default lol), Its just better to use methods like focusing on being positive, building mental habits, helping others, and escaping the bad thought as quick as possible.So you are right, but forgetting is possible.... I just realized CBT also had another meaning (•‿•) lmao.
>>1560182https://untools.co/
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>>1560173the drama of the gifted child by alice miller is pretty good
>>1560175Spoken like someone who's never dealt with any trauma!
>>1560536Thanks, will check it out
>>1560173The problem is “trauma” keyword has been taken over by CPTSD nutjobs. They almost exclusively deal with shitty childhood/parents. Even if your trauma is about something else, they will try to blame your parents somehow. The weirdest fad ever. Nevertheless all of the popular books about “trauma” you can find on the internet will be CPTSD books.
>>1560899Good to know, I suppose. I'm moreso looking for fiction books rather than psychology books though.
>>1560900>moreso looking for fiction booksThe works of Pat Conroy, who depicted the same monstrous father figure so well across several novels that they were actually used by his mother's attorneys in the divorce proceedings. You can't shit on The Lords of Discipline or The Great Santini. Russell Banks' Affliction which was made into a movie with Nick Nolte as the traumatized cop investigating a murder who's intimidating enough himself – except when his larger than life, abusive father (James Coburn) is nearby. If men with legitimate daddy issues isn't your thing, Dennis Lehane's Shutter Island (pretend the movie doesn't exist).Narrative is concerned mostly with protagonists able to "solve" their traumas by confronting what created them or an analogue in the presenSHAAUUUUNNNNNN because that wraps everything up neatly in the final act even if it's a tragedy.
>>1560900>looking for fictionLiterally the first time you mentioned this. What a retard.
>>1560948Sounds like somebody has trauma with nuances!
I don't know about changeling but I think I remember reading this for either late high school or early university:https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/3002476
>>1560900>looking for fiction books rather than psychology booksbooks:The Old Man and the Sea by Ernest Hemmingway - physicalKafka - mental Thomas Covenant The Unbeliever - leprosy, fantasy worldgraphic novels:Black Is the Color by Julia Gfrörer 2013, also wrote Laid Waste - medievalBlast! by Manu Larcenet - police investigation of a murder suspectBrodeck's Report by Philippe Claudel, and the comic adaptation by Manu Larcenet - post-wartimeRosalie Lightning 2016 graphic memoirSome works by Jason (John Arne Sæterøy) like Hey Wait... and If You StealWrinkles by Paco Roca, Alzheimer's
