how does one break a habit
no shortcuts, just do it
>>31526012What is the habit?
>>31526164porn watching and masturbation>>31526123im currently "just doing it", im 6 days into not watching porn/masturbating (i used to do it 1-2 times a day) but i feel like my willpower is wearing thin idk if i can do it for much longer
>>31526012https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uEEfeSuD_Po
>>31526276>im currently "just doing it", im 6 days into not watching porn/masturbating (i used to do it 1-2 times a day)nice, looks like you know how to do it and are doing it> but i feel like my willpower is wearing thin idk if i can do it for much longerthis is all in your head and is not real. ignore it. think less. stay busy.
>>31526012if you're using it as an emotional crutch it's going to be hard. lol... crutch.
>>31526012Read atomic habits. Literally life changing and only about 200 pages.
>>31526282if i understand this video well i should do it in moderation until i fix my life/learn to meditate?>>31526451i don't know what i use it for at this point, all i know is that i started when i was 10 or 11 and pretty much never stopped since>>31526608i'll give it a read thanks>>31526300>looks like you know how to do itnot reallyi just willpower through it but the temptation gets greater each day and my willpower is finite and lower than the average person (due to mental illness stuff)
>>31526012Habits are time + consistency. The more you do something, anything, the longer you do it, the more habitual it becomes, until it's a natural part of your life. Bad habits and good habits form in the same way. Replace bad habits with good habits. Suffer, for a time. Growth hurts, in the same way that a healing wound hurts, not because of the injury but the healing process. Accept the pain, ignore the voices in your head that scream for you to do what they want, ignore your body's reactions to it, ignore everything that is telling you to stop and reconsider. Make a choice, and be stubborn to that choice. Pick a direction, decide to go down it, and refuse to stop for anything that tells you to quit. If you keep that up for a month, the worst of your growing pains will be over. In 6 months, it will be a fading memory, and your new way of life, routines, habits, will be solidifying, becoming more natural. In a year you will hardly remember what it was like before, and you'll be chugging along in your new habits steadily. Growth doesn't come from some epiphany or revelation, so words won't get you there. It doesn't come from wanting to do it either; in fact, in most things worth doing, you won't want to do it, physically or mentally. You just do it, because spiritually, logically, you know you should, and so despite your body and mind saying "no" and justifying inaction with any number of excuses, you tell them "no" right back, and keep going. 6 years smoke free this August. Just one bad habit I've broken. You may slip backwards, you may falter, you may fuckup, but giving up is just a choice, the same as moving on. Choose, stick to that choice, and you will see the other side, no matter what it is.
>>31526012Try to participate in No Fap, get serious about it, and continue it into the next months(s). Also, pray for a spouse. God understands your need to FUCK. But you gotta ask Him for the perfect person for you. And that they'll be worthy of desiring so that you'll never grow bored of them or cheat on them. Rushing into relationships yourself may end up ruining your own life. Especially if the other person reveals an ugly side to themselves later on down the line that you weren't even expecting. Pray and say "Lord, if I complete 3 months of No Fap (and read my holy bible everyday), then will you plz send me a lover who will commit themselves to me?". You never know how God would end up honoring such a petition. But it's all up to your own faith and level of belief that only good can come of this. You live your life, not me. Your lack of faith and lack of miracles has no affect on my life; only your own.
>>31528460>You live your life, not me. Your lack of faith and lack of miracles has no affect on my life; only your own.It's why you gotta believe in verses like pic related. And that God will satisfy that thing that I long for so much. Different people have different desires. My desires might not be like yours. We all long for different things in this life.
