What do I do if I'm afraid of talking to women?I can talk to dudes just fine, but whenever I see a girl my age my instinct is to hide or go on my phone so they can't talk to me. I'm 18 M.
>>31533831just dont talk to them?
>>31533842>just don't talk to 50% of the population bronot possible, and I want a gf at some point
>>31533857ok but you're scared sooo... what are you going to do about it?
>>31533831It’s over just start dating really feminine twinks
>>31533863why do you think I made this thread, retard?>>31533865I'm not a homo
>>31533831Treat them like a dude, literally. Just see them as another guy and be cool with them. Also try to get the ideas out of your mind about dating them. The way I found most of my gfs was just thinking "I will not date her, she doesn't want to date me, I expect nothing" and that took the pressure off the situation. I was never worried about impressing them, or attracting them, I was able to just be myself around them because I didn't worry about it and already considered it a forgone conclusion that we would be friends at best. Then we did become friends, got to know each other, and went from them. If you treat them just like any other person, not a special category of person you want to fuck or impress or attract, then you'll do better, and you'll also act with more self-respect, because you won't accept behavior from them that you wouldn't accept from a guy. Giving up and choosing not to try and date them is what lead to success for me. Before that I lamented and pined and all that shit, then I stopped caring about relationships and started caring about me.
>>31533870well if you're scared, you can't talk to them right?nothing much can be done about that
>>31533873I guess I can give that a go
>>31533831Nofap helps with confidence, have you tried that?I was awkward around girls as a teenager, but I quit porn and fapping and it became easy.Also this anon is right >>31533873Talk to them like you would talk to a guy. They're honestly not that different.
>>31533941I did a 2 week nofap streak and it just made me even more awkward. right now I'm trying to cut porn out of my life but I'm not going to stop fapping.
>>315339522 weeks isn't enough, you're still going through withdrawals at 2 weeks.You need to do at least 4 weeks for things to really turn around, and around 60-100 days is when your brain completely resets and breaks the addiction.I WISH I started taking nofap seriously at your age. Around age 18-22 is when you'll really start to notice the negative effects of being a coomer.don't be this guy:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hv-ODnbbP7U
>>31533952NTA I just don't see the benefit of nofap unless you're a serious coomer and it's effecting your life. Noporn is a different story, get rid of that shit forever, but having a want a few times a week or month and getting that energy out of your system helps you not make retarded decisions or put pussy on a pedestal. Porn is the main issue I think.
>>31533928It's worth it in many many ways brother. It helps you treat yourself with more respect. Putting women on a pedestal is just as bad as thinking less of them. They're just normal people. Treat them like any other person and expect nothing with or from them that you wouldn't expect from or with a guy.
