I feel like my peers had some unspoken knowledge of how dating works and how they start. I feel so awkward messaging or talking to someone with romantic intent.. like its something I shouldnt really be doing? Its hard to describe. I feel phoney. Recently my sister was shocked when she asked if I was asexual and I said no.. I want a relationship, but feel so stunted and awkward pursuing one. I feel I can't be all that genuine with a potential partner, i feel like I have to put on a persona of what they want to hear or see. Basically, I probably have autism. I was also raised catholic so the shame angle is likely present. But what do I do about it?
>>31536122It's unlikely you have autism.It seems far more likely you have loser mentality - a refusal to be comfortable with doing things while incompetent.Because that is the solution. You make incompetent attempts until they are competent.
>>31536149That sounds plausible. I have narcissistic parents who over time have drilled into me that I'm a loser (was told that outright haha) and that I wouldn't be able to find a partner. Thank you for your comment. That's what I've been hearing as I've tried to navigate this- I just have to try. But it's scary! I'm curious- what makes you think it isn't autism?
>>31536157>what makes you think it isn't autism?Autism: "I'm doing things in the way most obvious to me and other people don't like it, what the fuck is their problem?"Not Autism: "I'm not doing things in the way other people expect, what the fuck is my problem?"
>>31536122I'm sorry I just wanted to say, this pic goes hard.
