> Be me, in my 20s, Belgium.> In a relationship since 2016> We discover dad taking drugs> I start acting as a dad since I have smaller brothers> 7 months into dad's recuperation> I go to psychology to get through it> I start thinking things about my gf (I might want kids)> Talk to therapist and she tells me to open up to my gf> I open to her being on 7-8 month depression cuz of dad, as my therapist said> As soon as I tell her about kids, she starts crying and says she doesn't want any and it might be better to break up> I'm not strong enough to argue and I tell her that it would break my soul if she couldn't accomplish her dreams because of me> We break up> After some months, I text her> Discover she was mad at me not for the family part but because she understood that "It would break my soul if she accomplished her dreams"> I feel stupid that we broke up because of a misunderstanding> At least she called and I explained that I meant that it would break my soul if she couldn't accomplish her dreams because of me> Also tell her that I think it was possible to be together, that I don't care about family if it's not with her> She told me not to talk to her again> Now just waiting for her to talk since I won't write to her again since I don't want to hurt her.> Am i dumb for thinking she'll come back since I helped her through her depression phase?
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>>31540507One person wanting kids and the other not wanting any isn't really something you can just work through. It's a core incompatibility and one person will have to sacrifice something huge. In my opinion it's better to just go seperate ways, focus on yourself for now.
