Should I tell my therapist I have sexual thoughts about her? This is a serious question.We're currently working on my porn addiction + other impulsive behavior.I think this is a pattern. I feel she's attracted to me (doesn't matter if it's true or not), and somehow I'm attracted back to her. That leads to intrusive sexual thoughts and then masturbation. And it's happened many, many times before.She could find that offensive and break the contract, but on the other hand I feel I just have to tell her that.
Given the subject of your therapy, this is something that should be fine to disclose if your therapist is worth a shit and knows how to compartmentalize. Could even lead to a breakthrough.
>>31673227What do you hope to come out of it?
>>31673244Thank you for your input.>>31673245Honestly, I don't know. Sometimes I feel there are two people in my head, the first is rational and the other wants to fuck everything that moves.Rationally I just want to get rid of this pattern because it's destroying me, my relationship, my work life. But the lizard brain wants to fuck her for no reason.
>>31673279Your therapist has 100% dealt with clients who want to -- and perhaps have even TRIED to fuck her in the office. Your admission probably pales in comparison to some of the shit she has to treat on a regular basis, and from what you said in that last little paragraph seems like it could be helpful to you. If you tell her exactly the way you told us, I foresee very little issue.
>>31673227Brendan is that you?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jhSRcTuv2lg
>>31673336Thank you, I'll make sure to tell her in a neutral manner.>>31673385It's not about catching feelings out of thin air, I'm basically a man slut, I want women to use me for their own pleasure.
>>31673227Get a male therapist.
>>31673508I asked my psychiatrist for recommendations, but got no male therapists.I also have trust issues towards men. In the past, I went to a male therapist, and I just couldn't "connect".
Is that her in the image ?
>>31673227From a texxtbook:"Transference is a phenomenon within psychotherapy in which repetitions of old feelings, attitudes, desires, or fantasies that someone displaces are subconsciously projected onto a here-and-now person. Traditionally, it had solely concerned feelings from a primary relationship during childhood."Having sexual or romantic feelings for your therapist is so very common that it is considered a useful step in the therapy process. Tell her what you feel, and she will use the open discussion of that feeling as a bridge to other self-discoveries.
>>31674606No - similar vibes, but while that girl is 9/10, my therapist is 6/10.>>31674709Interesting, but I hope this won't backfire somehow. I'm currently in a relationship that I really want to maintain.I don't want to trust myself on this since I'm obviously biased but sometimes I felt she reciprocates the feeling. Eg. glancing at my chest (I had a loose button-down shirt), or playing with her hair when discussing certain topics.
>>31673227Here's the deal anon: your therapist is a charlatan and you should never speak to her again. Porn addiction isn't real, you cannot be compelled to watch porn or to masturbate. I recommend you check out the linked channel for more information on this , this guy knows his stuff and provides life changing knowledge if you have an open mind.https://www.youtube.com/@Jay-Quit-PMO/videos
>>31676382>you cannot be compelled to watch porn or to masturbateWeird, because that's exactly what's happening to me. Along with other impulsive behaviors I experience, porn consumption is only one of several I have.Sorry but if you're going to just throw crazy sentences like "my addiction isn't real", and link to a random youtube channel instead of elaborating, then you seem like a charlatan yourself.
I'm going to bed now but if anyone has thoughts on this or similar experiences feel free to share. Thanks everyone
