I'm in a serious relationship and like my GF very much. But she has a BDSM fetish.When we started dating, she was completely normal. But when she understood that I want a serious relationship with her and marry her, she got relaxed and explained that she has a BDSM fetish.She likes being handcuffed and being fucked in her mouth, while standing on her knees. I don't know how this stuff is called, but she likes having this stuff in her mouth that makes impossible to close her mouth.First I thought that she just liked having fun sex. But after a while I have noticed that she wants doing this quite often. She said that she is a real BDSM pervert.I need suggestions about this situation, because I have feelings for her and can't think logically.If you had relationships with BDSM people, is it safe to marry her, or is it a red flag?P.S. When we don't have sex, she is completely normal and very intelligent.
So did she do this with her previous hookups or are you the first she opened up to about this fetish of hers?
>>31673744Homie, just be greatful. You get to go hard as you'd like, and also as gingerly and vanilla as you'd like. You have options.
>>31673744OP you're kind of lucky, freak in the bed kinda girls are hit or miss. Either will be serious on everyday life and a fucking porno in the bed and loyal or she will cheat the hell out of you when you stopping having much sex or simply cheat. It's a 50-50.
>>31673771As far as I know, only her first BF knows this. She left him because he started abusing alcohol and drugs, basically become a loser. She opened up with me because I clearly said that I would marry her as soon as possible.
Bro you are in such a lucky situation, I'd love to be in it to (though I'm a BDSM fan). A woman who can be normal in public and a freak in bed is hard to find.Embrace it as best you can, it makes the relationship feel even deeper. If you are willing to do it but can't get into it, you will need to talk to her about how often you want normal sex vs. BDSM play, hopefully she will understand. She might want it every time right now but as time passes she might be OK with doing it less frequently
>>31673744My friend, you are suffering from success.Go throatfuck your cock hungry gf, pull her hair, cuff her hands behind her back, bend her over and fuck her good, then call her a your perfect little slut.Go pull her hair
>>31673744Something is a "fetish" only if it is the only way one can enjoy sex. Otherwise it is an "interest" or a "choice" or even a "preference."If she can be happy with BDSM sometimes and vanilla sometimes, and you can stretch to the same mix, then it's just a matter of finding the balance you both like.If she can ONLY enjoy it that way and you can ONLY be comfortable the other, then you'd both eventually be unhappy with any mix.
>>31673744Bdsm can be a fun way to spice up the relationship. Me ad my bf have started doing bdsm after two years of vanlia sex and it started becoming boring
>>31673744>BDSM fetishWeirdly enough it seems to have no correlation with behavior outside of sex. If you like everything else about her, I wouldn't worry about it.
