Some background >be me>in love with this girl>she has issues stemming from childhood/early adulthood trauma>had issues with self esteem>that led to her not wanting to commit>like this for 2 years or so>she ends up distancing herself>kinda got in contact for a couple months again about a year after she distanced herself>went ghost on me for almost two years right after>got over her, moved on, life’s too short>happy and content Now, flash forward to the other day. >at work>get a message out of nowhere from this girl>it’s a Taylor Swift song, “Back to December”, she tells me to read the lyrics>read the lyrics>tells me I was great to her and that she’s sorry for messing things up>says she’s worked herself out and dealt with her issues and is happy and stable now>wants to catch up and fill each other in about our livesI’d be lying if I said I didn’t still love her. However, I was at peace. My anxiety and stress levels rose as soon as I saw that message. Idk what to do. She hurt me, yeah, but I don’t want to hurt her. I’m not going to just ghost her. What should I do. I’ll post the lyrics to the song in the next post.
>>32006092Invite her for a coffee date. Something casual. Chat about your lives. Go from there. If you still see the same girl, run to the hills. At least give it a try so you won't regret anything.
>>32006092I'm so glad you made time to see meHow's life? Tell me, how's your family?I haven't seen them in a whileYou've been good, busier than everWe small talk, work and the weatherYour guard is up and I know whyBecause the last time you saw meIs still burned in the back of your mindYou gave me roses and I left them there to dieSo this is me swallowin' my prideStandin' in front of you sayin' I'm sorry for that nightAnd I go back to December all the timeIt turns out freedom ain't nothin' but missin' youWishin' I'd realized what I had when you were mineI'd go back to December, turn around and make it alrightI go back to December all the timeThese days, I haven't been sleepin'Stayin' up playin' back myself leavin'When your birthday passed and I didn't callThen I think about summer, all the beautiful timesI watched you laughin' from the passenger's sideAnd realized I loved you in the fallAnd then the cold came, the dark daysWhen fear crept into my mindYou gave me all your love and all I gave you was goodbyeSo this is me swallowin' my prideStandin' in front of you sayin' I'm sorry for that nightAnd I go back to December all the timeIt turns out freedom ain't nothin' but missin' youWishin' I'd realized what I had when you were mineI'd go back to December, turn around and change my own mindI go back to December all the timeI miss your tan skin, your sweet smileSo good to me, so rightAnd how you held me in your arms that September nightThe first time you ever saw me cryMaybe this is wishful thinkin'Probably mindless dreamin'But if we loved again, I swear I'd love you rightI'd go back in time and change it, but I can'tSo if the chain is on your door, I understand
>>32006119What’s weird is the lyrics fit our situation pretty accurately, even down to the part about her not wishing me a happy birthday the one year. That’s how I knew she really went ghost. Even during that time I sent quick happy birthday messages to her, not knowing if she ever even saw them, but she never sent me anything. Idk
>>32006092revenge timepretend to be interestedhave sex (repeat a bunch of times if she's any good)> I’m not going to just ghost her.you're right, do the slow fade, it drives them even crazier
>>32006117That would probably be the best thing to do. It would just be awkward and kinda uncomfortable for me. I still haven’t even responded to her message because I don’t even know what to say lol
>>32006133Based
