How do you get over someone you realistically didn't want to break up with? I've done it before. Do I just wait? That seemed to work before. I feel like at my age a lot of doors are closing because I likely won't have kids til I'm 40 if I even do, so mathematically I'll never really know my grandkids as people very much now if I have them. I'm having a lot of thoughts like that. Also I miss her, and feel sad about the idea of starting with someone new and think I need time to heal anyway, but I just don't feel like I have time.
>>32010857>How do you get over someone you realistically didn't want to break up with?You find joy in other things while you do small work at getting over it.>mathematically I'll never really know my grandkidsMy grandma was born in 1926 and my dad in 1959. I was born in 1999. She lived til I was almost 11. My grandpa lived until I was 21, having been born in 1933.>Also I miss her, and feel sad about the idea of starting with someone newYou'll feel that way for a while. It's best to spend time with friends and family, just pets even, for now. Take your time.
>>32011106>You find joy in other things while you do small work at getting over it.I am>GrandparentsBut you didn't really know her very well. She only got an inkling of you.>Friends and FamilyI don't have much at all of either anymore but am trying
>>32011123I spent basically every day with her. My most vivid childhood memories are with her. It isn't about how long they know you, it's about the impact.
>>32011132Well if I had your parent at 40 you would have only been 4 when I died
>>32011139Then take care of your health as best you can without becoming obsessive. Had my paternal grandfather been alive when I was born in 1999, he'd have been 83. Despite never meeting, the impact remains through my dad.
>>32011160Perhaps my perspective is different with regard to the whole dying early in the life of your grandchildren thing. I don't restrict my influence to family lines, as I adopt a sort of view of things from my undergrad study of Chinese philosophy. I would be content to have influenced only a few to love learning, to act cautiously, yet authoritatively, and to be benevolent in their dealings and disposition.
>>32011204Chinese philosophy talks of bloodlines a lot. That's why there is so many fucking Chinese.>>32011160I'm trying
>>32010857Are you me? It's been 9 months and I still sob on a weekly basis about her ffs
>>32012646No, I am me.
Time can heal, and distractions can help. Focus on what brings you happiness. If you didn't want the breakup, what's holding you back from trying to mend the relationship?
