My girlfriend left me two months ago "because of my politics", despite me going out of my way to never mention anything political, and so "she could focus on her career", despite the fact she literally just quit her job and I see her constantly playing games on steam, and it's ruined my life. I can't get anything done and I have little will to do anything anymore. I recently got addicted to a shitty mmo last week to pass the time because I'm just swiping on apps min-maxing them otherwise, both of which I realize is very unhealthy. I've been going on dates with random dating app women pretty frequently but it's always empty and hollow. Every single woman I meet doesn't spark any joy. I thought it was a me thing considering the break up probably changing my perspective but I recently saw my childhood girlfriend for the first time in almost ten years out of happenstance and her mannerisms made me happy, if not a little melancholic, meaning that it's just other women being uninteresting whores, or at least it's an issue with the one's I'm managing to get dates with. Life has lost a lot of it's meaning for me and my short and long term goals both feel significantly harder and pointless now. I don't know what to do.
>>32229751Young idiot women do this often OP. They look for excuses to pin the breakup reason(s) on like>”Your politics”>”I need to focus on (insert thing that can focused on with a relationship but for some reason the girl needs to be ‘single’ for the thing to work)”>”I need to find myself”They give petty reasons because they suck at owning or admitting to feelings that they know would be met with confrontation. Women are passive and non-confrontational default. So what she really means is:>”I stopped feeling my limerence for you.” (insert cliche parroted ‘I love you I’m just not IN love with you’ phrase).>”So I met someone who restarted that limerence. Someone else is now making my coochie and belly tingle.”>”And I can’t be assed working through things or reigniting passions, oh and I also want none of the blame. Here is (insert the petty reasons) it’s your fault.”And then they go monkeybranch and fuck the other guy. That’s how it rolls, OP. Not every woman does this, but I’d wager to say over half of them do. Learn from the shit experience, and if you see a girl in the future who has similar perosnality traits, avoid like the plague so as not to fall for the same red flags.You’ll live, brother.
>>32229788She told me she didn't want to have kids and despite having "baby fever" she'd "regret it" or something like that. That night was a blur. Everything was a blindside. I just got back from a trip seeing a dying family member and I bought her some small gifts and she dropped that on me. She was crying more than I was because I was so shocked. I saw her a few times since then but she's been extremely cold and completely out of character. All I learned is that if I had more money and put a baby in her like I wanted, but was scared to due to finances, she wouldn't have left me. She'll have no consequences because she has well off parents and that really bums me out man. I feel like I can't win at all with anything. Literally this relationship was the first thing in my life where I felt I actually made it and won. Everything else before and after is constantly downhill.
>>32229808>All I learned is that if I had more money and put a baby in her like I wanted, but was scared to due to finances, she wouldn't have left me.Bullshit. She would have always left. The reasons you hang yourself with doesn’t change that. It only changes when she’d leave, not if. She was always going to leave, and whatever she blurted out during the emotional ending was just her venting grievances she had. She’d have still left. Don’t betray yourself by blaming yourself. You don’t need to blame her if you dont wanna. Blame doesnt change shit is what im trynna say, it’ll only sabotage your self esteem.
>>32229826>Blame doesnt change shit is what im trynna say, it’ll only sabotage your self esteem.I guess the issue here is that my self esteem is in the gutter and my drive to do anything is crushed. I blame myself for not being good enough and failing the people I want to be around. I can fake it when needed, I do pretty well on the dates I have been going on, but everything is so hollow now.
>>32229853Yeah, that’s okay bud. It’d be weird if you didn’t feel crushed and gutted. The hollowness is the normal response, it sucks because it’s supposed to suck. Let it suck, homie. That’s part of the healing process. Treat it like a physical injury like breaking a leg. When you break a leg the process is to say >’owe fuck shit my leg broke fuck my ass. Damn guess i cant move for a while, gotta rest up, jesus this sucks. Guess i accept it and let it suck until it stops sucking’Same’s true for even this moment in life, believe it or not.
>>32229947That makes sense. I just want things to be normal again, or at least not this normal I've known since before I met her. But I can't really fix it in a quick timeframe so I just have to deal with it. Just sucks I guess.
you're lying, its not possible to meet anyone off apps because of basic mathematicsthere's billions of men on them and only handfull of women and those women never swipe on anyone but supermodelsits not possible to meet anyone there, you just had a dumb daydream for drama. come up with a different one and you'll feel better
>>32230461schooler? is that you?
>>32230461I'm actually attractive retard and I'm alright at working apps. The week I got back on them I had 5 dates lined up almost immediately for the next two weeks. Unfortunately the quality of woman on them are dogshit or have insanely high standards even after you get your foot in the door. Even if you thought my situation is fake you should at least play into it a little.
>>32230837No because your scenario is too unrealistic to play along. Suggesting that anyone could meet anyone there is bullshit, especially with nonsense like 5 in a week when its scientifically mathematically proven it cannot happen. You might as well have made a thread about winning 5 lotteries in a row. It's not possible.
She was bored/cheating on you and told you politics.
>>32230872There's literally videos online of attractive people getting matches and going on dates on youtube RIGHT NOW that prove you wrong. Hell, even if you think they're all actors the whole chadfishing concept directly proves women can be interested in men on dating apps. Unironically go take your meds.
>>32231014yeah and none of them are on 4chan, if you were a supermodel or actor then you wouldn't be here meaning you're lyingchadfishing just directly proves that it is impossible for an average person to ever even have their account seen by a woman, not even talking about being allowed to send them messeges
>>32231031Yeah nobody on 4chan has never gotten laid off of a dating app that's a silly statement. You need to stop projecting so much man.
>>32229751You're an idiot. Stop trying to date right now, man up and realise it's going to take some time to get over your previous relationship. 8 weeks isn't enough. It might take you 6 months to a year to get over it. That's normal, healthy and perfectly ok. Trying to rebound isn't healthy and doesn't respect the person you're trying to rebound with. >> addicted to an mmoDo you work? Like a real job not flipping burgers or some other shit meant for teenagers.No? Maybe put your energy into getting a job then. Yes? Maybe put the time into your job like a real man. Put in the overtime and extra work to progress your career while you process the end of your relationship >> politics All of life is politics. She just outgrew you my friend. >> ruined my lifeNo it didn't, stop being melodramatic.
