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Anonymous

Why do girls stalk 10/29/24(Tue)17:14:12 No.32230801

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Why do girls stalk Anonymous 10/29/24(Tue)17:14:12 No.32230801 Archived

I genuine want to know the thought process of going out of your way to change your daily routine just to see somebody you used to talk to

I broke things off with this girl two years ago and starting the weekend after the breakup, I see her when I go to the gym at least once a week

I’ve seen her drive past my house, I’ve seen her around town, the crazy thing is there has to be times where I don’t see her, but she’s still there, meaning she is investing significant time JUST TO SEE ME. But I don’t understand what the point of this is? Why not just communicate and if you hear something you don’t like, you’re free. You can move on. You can let go and get closure.

What does this type of watching behavior accomplish? Any thoughts would be appreciated

Anonymous
10/29/24(Tue)17:27:54 No.32230882

Anonymous 10/29/24(Tue)17:27:54 No.32230882

>>32230801
Did you ask her?

Probably it's not particularly rational. Was it a bad breakup?

Anonymous
10/29/24(Tue)17:31:19 No.32230898

Anonymous 10/29/24(Tue)17:31:19 No.32230898

>>32230882

Yeah she called out of work a week after it ended. She also has social anxiety and attachment issues

I tried my best to accommodate, but she just wasn’t expressing how she felt about me (very strongly) in a positive or healthy manner. I was hoping she’d reach out and realize what she did wrong (I made it clear in the past) but instead she rather stalk and watch me from afar for two years…

Anonymous
10/29/24(Tue)18:16:35 No.32231148

Anonymous 10/29/24(Tue)18:16:35 No.32231148

>>32230898
>>32230801
Maybe she just wants you to to try to go talk to her in person instead? Dunno.
Change to a different gym asap/immediately op.

Anonymous
10/29/24(Tue)19:14:19 No.32231461

Anonymous 10/29/24(Tue)19:14:19 No.32231461

go to the police

Anonymous
10/29/24(Tue)19:36:12 No.32231538

Anonymous 10/29/24(Tue)19:36:12 No.32231538

>>32230801
I don't stalk this guy I have a crush on who rejected me but I do accidentally run into him a decent amount. We live in the same town and go to the same school. Sometimes I wonder if he thinks I'm stalking him, though I'm not, I don't follow him on social media or text him. Is she working out at the gym or is she "just there"? If you both live in the same area it may be more coincidental than you think.

Anonymous
10/30/24(Wed)08:47:59 No.32233930

Anonymous 10/30/24(Wed)08:47:59 No.32233930

>>32230801
You may not be the main character in her story if you live in a small enough area. Even super urban areas are sometimes small if everyone in the entire neighborhood has to go to the same grocery store or the only local gym, even if there's 10 million people miles away they also have their own grocery store or whatever that you'll never visit.