Title is pretty much main question, background:I'm 24m she's 28f I do love her obviously but main things I am concerned about are our differences:1. She's more liberal than me and I'm conservative generally (I don't like politics but I pretty much think zionists do control the world and shes german so she does not like that i think the holocaust could be fake ) she also doesn't really care too much aside from things like hating Trump because he's mean to women or whatever2. I guess I kind of have a more callous and harsh view of the world while she is nicer, this is sometimes a detriment because she is too self sacrificing and also gives people benefit of the doubt even though I tend to be meaner, like if I say X job is shit she tells me not to look down on people and shit like that 3. We recently moved to a new country together, she likes it because she's asian and she likes the safety compared to America even though I get analed in taxes (I don't mind living here but I take care of us both and I hate paying that much to a goverment) she doesn't want to go back because she doesn't feel safe in america and doesn't like it there4. She has mild ocd that makes it annoying to live withA lot of our differences come down to 1) where we were raised (I was born in america while she was born in germany) and political differences + different worldviews. I do want to make it work with her because I do love her and aside from these things life is generally perfect (I take care of her she cooks cleans fucks well and loves me, I trust her a lot and she helps me out with a bunch of shit, we have good vibes) I am just wondering how the future will end up because we both want kids and raising them with someone who is different is pretty hard. Personally I think the pros outweigh the cons but curious what anons would think Also ignore and sage incel replies
>>32234031>sage and ignore incels for real advice>Literally no one repliesLmfao
>>32234031yeah why not, you two probably are anyways wrong in the general views, try to learn more, after all me and many axis friends I had are both angry and the general world views of normies, and that's coming from a clown like me
>>32234031>shes german>she's asian 0/10. Get your facts straight next time.
you marry the person you date. by which I mean, these problems won't go away when you get married. you both need to be responsible to consider whether you can actually live together despite having different perspectives on these things. keep in mind you will have to make a choice on whose values to inculcate your children with.
>>32234031yeah...do her a favor and leave her. she deserves much much better.>sage incel repliesbuddy, you ARE the incel.
>>32234916>ethnically asian but born and raised in Germany>ethnically indian but born and raised in americaCan you walk and talk at the same time?
>>32235767Yeah that's something I noticed which is that we keep talking about these things sometimes and I still worry even though we generally come to a resolution, I guess the only way to make it work is to try As for the kids I'm pretty sure we are decent enough people to teach them the basics (don't be a faggot, think critically, don't be a rude asshole etc) personally I don't really care about teaching my kids "it was the jooos" I'm okay with whatever conclusion they come to as long as they provide adequate justification for it and are not able to be retardedly influenced by other people's opinions We both want them to get a good education, I would like to homeschool but it's illegal in my country and my gf isn't a fan due to the costs and time constraints especially when we both have career goals we want to hit
>>32235782> has sex>is an incelDo you know what a contradiction is or are you being a faggot for fun?
>>32234031I think if she makes you happy and you think the relationship can last and you don't desperately want to fuck other women you should.
>>32234031You're basically a closet leftist. You might not be on board with everything they do, but you're vehemently opposed to anyone or anything which would actually stop them. So I don't think the difference in worldviews is that stark in practice. Keep in mind that marrying her will lead to your kids generally following their mother's attitudes (same thing applies to religion--the moms tend to be much more influential). Might not sound like a big deal to you now, but tons of boomer dads end up disgruntled, isolated, and patronized by their families for exactly that attitude. And it is a cliche among dudes who marry Asians.>>32236170>ethnically asian but born and raised in GermanySo, not German.
>>32236225I am pretty sure she won't divorce me if we get married, this is our first relationship and I don't really want to fuck around because I'm pretty sure it's a waste of time, also she supports me in a lot of ways and saves time so I can grind at my jobI pretty much agree fwiw I think she makes me happy and if these are the only things to worry about it's probably not too bad considering we communicate decently despite being different
>>322362541) I don't see how I'm a closest leftist but I suppose your latter point makes sense, personally I am more Christian and she is more Buddhist but neither of us believe that much. Maybe my kids are closer to the asian side of their family but that's probably due to spending more time with their mom growing upYou are probably a polcel who larps as having 100% Aryan ancestors back to the first hominid but growing up in a place essentially makes you adopt the mindset and identity of said place, this will probably go over your head so you can just go back to 2moreweeks posting
>>32236300Maybe tell her that Chuds don't hate everyone; they just don't love everyone either. Chuds look at those around them that can't thrive in the system that they love and they say "It's okay I'll take care of you". I think this is why leftist kids with rich chud parents start becoming chuds, and leftist kids with poor chud parents seethe. Godspeed anon.
>>32236311I'm not that liberal I can't tell if you're shitposting but I pretty much only want to take care of my family and her family I genuinely believe if you are in a first world country and are not mentally disabled you have the ability to make itI donate some of my money to actual poor people and fund their education since I believe it is the fastest way to lift them out of a shitty environment
>>32234031>She's more liberal than meDoesn't matter unless either of you are aggressively political>I have a more callous and harsh view of the world while she is nicerIncredibly common and doesn't matter>She has mild ocdExtremely easy to get over>I'm 24m she's 28fHuge red flag. Basically doomed.
>>32236339I think you misunderstood. I was defending Chudism. I'm joking a little. I like calling the divide Chuds v. S..... o.... y.... Sorry I spelt it weird. You can't type that word on here. I know what you mean, I think.
>>32236359Why, we're going to have kids in the next 2 yearsShe went to college and was in the same year as me because she had to wait 3 years when moving to America
>>32236359Also for the ocd it is just annoying when she always asks if I've washed my hands etc when sucking me she has to make sure my dick is clean and she won't suck me after I've fucked her, I can only cum on her tits and mouth but not her face which is annoying
>>32236365I believe in horseshoe theory so I think both are faggotsI only care about being happy taking care of my family and making good money to support us
>>32236309> growing up in a place essentially makes you adopt the mindset and identity of said placeThis is a very American mindset, and it's downstream of a particular cosmopolitan culture.
>>32236202incelism is a mindset above all else. it's not a requirement to have sex to not be one anymore. OP has incel-adjacent views so he is one. simple as
>>32236464Not wrong but it exacerbates my point lol, I'm an immigrant to America yet I have an American mindset despite my parents chagrin
>>32236497I know (or hope) you are being a retard on purpose but I'll pretend it's actually in good faith, how exactly am I an incel? What are these incel adjacent views?
>>32236422I think that's most people deep down. The teams are just there as a union to support your families economic and social interests.
>>32236532>What are these incel adjacent views?you think the holocaust was faked. the only people that think that are invariably hateful incel types. you can seethe over the jews all you want (which also makes you an incel btw) but to think an historical event with the wealth of evidence that the holocaust has was faked is textbook brainlet behavior.
>>322369136 million jews died4 hours to cremate a body24 million hours = 1 million days1 million days /365 days/yr = 2700 years
>>32236913Oh how many people did pol pot kill or how many people died in the cultural revolution btw
>>32236913Any other genocide = debatable and no one gives a shit This one is a hate crime to question LOL
>>32237000That's the fucking problem. The wealthiest and most powerful group of people per capita is treated as a special class. I don't care about Palestinians but they are literally being genocided.
Also what about all the fucking other people killed in the Holocaust? Yet you really only hear about Jews. Fucking coincidence isn't it?
>>32236526> it exacerbates my point No, they're independent things. Thinking that only culture matters to identity, let alone to a national or ethnic one, is a particular ideological position. But one's belief about identity doesn't change what one actually is, only how one acts.>>32236913That has nothing to do with incels. Brainlet behavior is the intellectual laziness of trying to link anything you don't like to the same label you've decided to be a priori "bad", like calling anyone with opinions you don't approve of an incel.
>>32237190My point is that I have American beliefs because I grew up in america which is evidence to the fact that where you grow up influences your beliefs. I'm sure if I grew up in the Balkans or some shit I would not consider my self one of themFwiw I don't think it's completely mutually exclusive but I think there is enough factual evidence that the opinions and ideology of the society you grow up in shapes who you are Then again the question of what one is is a fairly pointless and retarded question because there is no non reductive answer
>>32234031The only real concerns you have listed are 3 and 4. The other shit doesn't really matter that much unless you let it. >3.if you're taking care of her and paying for everything, you should decide where you guys live. If she wants to have a say in the matter she needs to contribute financially, especially when you're paying so much in taxes all bc she wants to live there. Trust me you're going to start to resent her and where you live eventually because of the tax situation. Also some key advice to you is don't let your girl make the important decisions in the relationship. Women are much more selfish and can't think logically so letting her decide shit like where to live will ruin your relationship. If you know something is a bad choice you have to steer away from it and if she's the right one for you she will respect your judgement and follow your lead. >4.Are you annoyed by her all the time? Her ocd will only get worse over time btw. Cultural differences are very hard to overcome if both people aren't willing to understand each other and compromise but you sound like you want someone who shares all your views. If that is so important to you then you shouldn't consider marriage.
>>32237585It's not really important and in a weird way I kind of admire her for sticking to her guns although it is annoying to have her disagree sometimes (i enjoy the time we spend together for the most part anyway)For 3 I feel like I rugpulled her because it was both of our goal to move to this country. She also has a dream to make music and I personally think she's talented enough to do it, so since I can take care of her why not encourage it? I guess I'm just homesick and miss america, but this place isn't that bad either desu, we moved 4 months ago so it'll probably take a while to adjustThe taxes here are similar enough to what I pay in america but I just hate taxes lolFor the most part she listens to my plans and I do my best to incorporate things that she cares about and likesI also told her to quit her job so she could focus on her goal because I make a lot of money and any job she gets pales in comparison, so it makes for her to stay at home and cook/clean/handle bills/investments etc than for her to get a job. Even though she has a degree her language skills are not good enough to do the same thing she did in school (chemistry) plus I don't want her working with chemicalsAlso curious why you say ocd will get worse when we have kids and she has to change diapers I'm sure she won't care as much
>>32234031So, to sum it up, she's sane and you aren't.
