I have this amazing conversational chemistry with a girl , I can tell she wants more and wants to proceed, but the challenge is - I kinda built it on a lie. I made myself seem smarter (doing a hard major - eng vs the actual arts tier shit I am in - biosci). I told her I have two jobs while I am actually unemployed (to be fair I want 2 jobs but I live in a country that sold out all middling jobs that one would grind with to foreigners). And that's basically it. She's an absolute rockstar on track for XYZ scholarship and this and that timeline to finishing for grad or med school or whatever. I think she's under the impression I am just as hard of a worker as her and am intelligent (based on the major) But I simultaneously feel, its fucking college and I'm overthinking it and should just focus on the vibe - sometimes a guy just has to say what he needs to say to get in those pants and the girls should low-key already know it. It breaks my damn heart that I can't build a life with her or date her proper but I'm just not the elite performer she thinks I am.
>>322369221. Don't lie about who you are2. In a relationship all lies are discovered eventually3. Most of the time the truth is good enough and lying is completely unnecessary and the real problems arise from the broken trust while whatever you lied about would have been a non-issue if you were just honest from the start
Be real. Stop doing this. You ruined a relationship before it started
>>32237117i dont know why I do it , I've been a pathological liar since I was a kid. I always feel lesser than others so I have to "keep up" with some lies just to get on an even playing field.
