I'm moving overseas next year in February so that I can 'start a new life', it'll be the first time I moving abroad in my life (permanently anyway).The main reason is because my family thinks it will be best for me overall and I can probably help my family out when I've settled in with money.Everyone believes life will be better for me in the country due to better infrastructure and better job opportunities (I know how that sounds but my country isn't getting better any time soon).Some Context:>24 years old>Finished college>Spent most of this year looking for work with very little luck>Spent some time working online before being 'dismissed', it wasn't that good of a job but it was my first real experience so whatever>My dad offered to help me move overseas so I can get a career started in a first world country>I have a hard time taking care of myself and being responsible, so it'll be a big adjustment>My relationship with my dad is okay mostly, family drama makes things weird but I manage fine>My germaphobia and weird habits make it hard for me to be normal around people>Worried that I'll do something stupid and end up getting kicked out by my dad, then end up homeless in another country (paranoid I know but it's hard to shake off)Any advice for how I can start behaving less like a manchild and learn how to take care of myself?How can I protect myself so I don't end up worse off than I am in my current country?If you need any further context I can provide it, sorry for rambling a bit, I haven't been sleeping to well lately.
>>32306366Dont worry its going to be fine, i dont it twice and it always worked out.>How can I protect myself so I don't end up worse off than I am in my current country?Save some money as a safety buffer, thats will be importent if you need to bail back home or have a gap in employment.Frome where to where anon? i feel like thats very importent context.If you are in a 3rd world country going to a first world your biggest issues are going to be visa. And if you do any education abroad it might be hard too seemlessly switch between student visas and work visas
>>32307157>Dont worry its going to be fine, i dont it twice and it always worked out.Thank you, I'm glad it worked out for you.>How can I protect myself so I don't end up worse off than I am in my current country?>Save some money as a safety buffer, thats will be importent if you need to bail back home or have a gap in employment.Understood, I will see what I can do from here with the time I have.>Frome where to where anon? i feel like thats very importent context.I am moving from South Africa to Australia.>If you are in a 3rd world country going to a first world your biggest issues are going to be visa. And if you do any education abroad it might be hard too seemlessly switch between student visas and work visasOkay I see, I'll have to do more research on that then.But I have been informed my Visa has been setup, so I think I will manage okay.
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>>32308106wat?
>>32307656yeah more research would be a smart move
>>32307656Great, you already know the language. Make sure to try to make money and friends. Socialise way more than you usally would, even if you normaily are a loner. You can't live somewhere long term without knowing anyone, Clubs, activities, beachparties. Whatever someone does in australia in your age group. Is the job going to be well payed?If not try to get a better one over time and as i said SAVE MONEY, in that case it does not matter if your dad kicks you out eventually, you will have a buffer to live on in hard times. IDK about Australia in a business setting but People always disrespect poor immigrants so try to get a good job eventually.Also try to shake the germaphobia, i get it that it seems hard but it worth it to not limit your life.A fresh start in a new place is a beautiful thing, i believe in you anon.
>>32312074agreed
>>32306366Hello Ranpooshej.
>>32313919Who?
what country are you from and what country are you going to? Are you going to school or working? How will you support yourself? Will you have any kind of social safety net, like friends or family that can help you if you face setbacks? If you're entirely on your own you will absolutely want to fix that by getting involved with expatriate societies from your home country, because you will need friends. Loners in a foreign land with no family to help them don't tend to do well.
>>32312753>Great, you already know the language. Make sure to try to make money and friends. Socialise way more than you usally would, even if you normaily are a loner. You can't live somewhere long term without knowing anyone, Clubs, activities, beachparties. Whatever someone does in australia in your age group. Yeah, I have to start learning to be normal if I want to survive in this world.Won't be easy.>Is the job going to be well payed? If not try to get a better one over time and as i said SAVE MONEY, in that case it does not matter if your dad kicks you out eventually, you will have a buffer to live on in hard times.I don't have a job lined up yet, my dad mentioned finding a job is easier there and more stable than here.If traditional means don't work, I can try for online work again but I'm eager to get some IT jobs so I can get myself aclimated and build my independence.I don't/can't rely on my family forever, especially the way life is going.>IDK about Australia in a business setting but People always disrespect poor immigrants so try to get a good job eventually.Will do, that's my main goal.>Also try to shake the germaphobia, i get it that it seems hard but it worth it to not limit your life.I'll try my best, it's a tough adjustment but I'll try.I just really hate being dirty in anyway, have since age 10.>A fresh start in a new place is a beautiful thing, i believe in you anon.Thank you, man.I appreciate that a lot, really.
>>32306366Maybe bad things will happen but it won't be as bad as you think, Anon
>>32315174That's fair, I just have a lot on my mind and want to be prepared for the worst possible scenario.
>>32307656You'll be fine, south Africans sound Australian half the time anyway
>>32315526Haha, you're dead one with that, I was surprised when I traveled there the first time.
>>32314715>what country are you from and what country are you going to? From South Africa to Australia.>Are you going to school or working? How will you support yourself? I will be looking for work, office or IT or admin work is possible.>Will you have any kind of social safety net, like friends or family that can help you if you face setbacks? Mainly my further but my mom and grandmother did say they'd come fetch me if things go very very badly.
>>32314715>If you're entirely on your own you will absolutely want to fix that by getting involved with expatriate societies from your home country, because you will need friends. Loners in a foreign land with no family to help them don't tend to do well.Understood, I will find a way to build up connections as soon as possible.
>>32315526You're not wrong, it's pretty surprising.
>>32315174possibly true
I hope you all had a good weekend
>>32329078you too
>>32307157>Dont worry its going to be fine, i dont it twice and it always worked outIf you don't mind me asking, what was your experience like?Is there anything specific you recommend I look out for or be careful of?
>>32306366Relax, I moved abroad early this year and was scared shitless too, even cried from nervousness the night before. You'll be fine, once the realization of new opportunities and a new life kicks in when you get there you'll be fine. Also you'll inevitably meet new people and have new experiences, it'll be awesome.>>32306366>Any advice for how I can start behaving less like a manchild and learn how to take care of myself?Practice. Also YouTube, I learned a lot from it, cleaning my toilet for example lol. Just look for tutorials on anything you dont know and keep trying.>>32306366>How can I protect myself so I don't end up worse off than I am in my current country?Dont do drugs, dont get involved with the wrong people, dont go to dangerous places at night and you'll be fine. Keep focused on your objective of changing your life and you'll do fine. Just focus and dont look back.Good luck, great things await you, you're about to embark on the most wonderful journey of your life.
>>32332118thanks
>>32306366>scared SHITLESSThat's actually fortunate, because foreign toilets are disgusting
>>32334609>Relax, I moved abroad early this year and was scared shitless too, even cried from nervousness the night before. You'll be fine, once the realization of new opportunities and a new life kicks in when you get there you'll be fine. Also you'll inevitably meet new people and have new experiences, it'll be awesome.Thank you, I supposed it's best to think about things as positively as possible give how much of an adjustment it will be.I think starting from scratch might be the best move for me at this stage as well, so I'll learn to socialize again as quick as possible.>Practice. Also YouTube, I learned a lot from it, cleaning my toilet for example lol. Just look for tutorials on anything you dont know and keep trying.Okay, should I just think about anything I may struggle with, search that and then go from there?Or are there some important things you think I need to look out for?
>>32334609>Dont do drugs, dont get involved with the wrong people, dont go to dangerous places at night and you'll be fine. Keep focused on your objective of changing your life and you'll do fine. Just focus and dont look backOkay great, that all seems pretty practical to me.Thank you for clearly laying it all out for me.
>>32334964You're welcome.
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