How am I supposed to make friends if I got bullied at school to the point of breaking down and becoming a hermit for the rest of hs? I didnt make a single friend in college and now I'm seriously contemplating suicide, I feel like I never had a chance and that I will never fix this and live a normal fulfilling lifeI sometimes think I was destined to eventually kill myself, I see everyone with normal lives and I feel so worthless with no redeeming qualities, I'm not exaggertwing when I say I havent been happy since I was a child or that I hadn't smiled (as in not laughing from a joke) since I was 12 or soThe worst is that my own parents dont care, they knew there was something going on in school and even suspected I was being bullied but never did anything, they even seem to think that I'm "just like that" and that I enjoy being lonely
>>32312533Do a hobby. Something with other weirdos that you can empathise with. Like Dnd or warhammer or some shit like that.
>>32312579I liked how you called me a weirdo and assumed I must like that stuff
>>32312596what about music or sports. Im just suggesting /tg/ because thats the hobby that I think you will find the highest percentage of people who had similair experiences to you. Angsty music like metal or punk probably has that kind of people as well.
Get a job. Be social with your colleagues.Ask them about their weekends. Show interest. Remember stuff they tell you and ask about it later.Join any kind of social activity that happens at or after work.Look for opportunities in conversation to make plans or get invited to things. Say things like "would you recommend trying it?", "that sounds fun", "maybe I should try that sometime", "I've been meaning to go there", etc. to steer the conversation in that direction. Or just flat out ask if they want to grab dinner/drinks or something after work.Just build it up slowly.
>>32312533>used to cold approach when i was fat>on my best nights, i was propositioned sex, made out with women out of my league within 30 seconds, one night stand, etc.i'm not proud of my escapades but if someone says cold approach doesn't work it means they sucked at it. don't talk to the people who tried to learn the guitar and said "this doesn't work." talk to the guys who can play any guitar they pick up
>>32312711"but wah wah i didn't get instant results with this method, so i'll just accept the little burst of bhappy chemicals that comes with me coping"
>>32312711Why do you think I'm a NEET?I have a job, I talk to my colleages and we have luch from time to time, they talk about their weekends but they have no interest in inviting each other
>>32312768it always goes:>anon offers advice>other anon counters with why this specific advice won't work in this specific instanceuse your free will and cognition and find out similar small steps you can take, don't make anons do your homework for you
>>32312768Because you mentioned school and college in past tense but nothing about work.You can take the initiative for small steps in that direction.Or try the same approach in any other recurring situation where you meet the same people repeatedly. A class pass at the gym, a running club, any group sport, board game nights at a local pub or game shop, expat meetups (you don't have to be a foreigner; they just like to make friends), cooking class, or any other hobby-based meetups.
That pic is so wrong though. If anything, as a black pilled (I am) guy you should just cold approach because fuck it, we can't do much to change our luck. But I'll still be an advocate of plastic surgery / bimax to increase your aesthetics therefore increase your chances of success, therefore elevating your confidence.
Stop overthinking. Maybe you're a bit of a weirdo or whatever but if you try you can find friends.>I see everyone else with normal lives and I feel so worthless>I hadn't smiled since I was 12You have to be genuinely interested in the other person though. It sounds like you're so focused on yourself and your misery that you can't enjoy other people's company.
>>32312533>picIt's funny to cold approach, I've done it hundreds of times to make my friends laugh, the worst response I've ever gotten is an immediate "I have a boyfriend/husband" in response to me saying hi, in nearly all cases people respond like I'm part of the party and "feel it out", one rejection is nothing in a crowded bar, it's an opportunity to take the rejection over to a guy I've never met and say "that girl over there rejected me", or say "I said hi and she immediately said she has a boyfriend", or I start with that guy instead and say "that girl over there is pretty cute right" and follow with "want me to introduce you?", "you should go talk to her!", etc because it's even funnier to encourage this chaos with complete strangers, or go to a girl I've never met and say "my friend think's you're cute" and point to him without telling him I was going to do it, I have so many stories of getting caught up in a group of strangers for a night because I troll the guys and flirt with the girls and intermingle them with each other, sometimes I'll interview people about local events that I'll never go to, or ask about careers that I don't care about, or ask about their thoughts on random topics, or suggest stupid ideas, I've taken group photos with strangers, I've made commitments that clearly weren't commitments, I've gotten tons of numbers and never called or texted, I've done all of this entirely because it's fun.All this being said: the "warm approach" is probably the only way people will find love, because most people aren't confident (or dumb) enough to do the cold approach. Meanwhile, you could get friends, go play darts or do karaoke with them at a bar, get a little tipsy, start conversations with random people, and carry those stories for the rest of your life (and, maybe meet some interesting people, or a nice lady)!
>>32312533>he doesn't enjoy lonelinessholy normalnig i guess being a schizoid has its perks, keeps me from making gay self loathing posts kek
>>32312711>Get a job. Be social with your colleagues.HAHAHAHHA
>>32312533Why fulfill norms that you didnt wish for?Normalcy does not exist it is only a phenomenon to the eye of the beholder.
>>32314536Global Rule 3
>>32312533Therapy to help you understand that what-you-were is not necessarily who-you-are-now and certainly not who-you-can-be
Go to college againThere's no other way to speak to women outside of people you already knowMake some money, quit your job and go to college again and this time focus just on socializing>>32312579No one knows your hobby. All things you listed are done either completely alone or with people you already know. OP can sit in his room playing warhammer forever and will never speak to anyone. >>32312613Again all of these are done alone in your room or generally by yourself. Every day you pass by hundreds/thousands of people with earphones on, all of them like music, you cannot speak to any of them and never will unless you are in school together. >>32312732No you retardCold approach is something no one ever does. Doing it itself means you suck at socializingHuman beings are fundamentally unable to speak to strangers. There are no words in language that make it OK. Dont talk to people who dont know what a guitar is. Talk to guys who play any guitar they pick up, in this instance they will all tell you no one does cold approach. Cold approach is term invented by autistic incels who have no clue how people have sex or build relationships. No normal ever sues this term. It's only used by autistic incels. I dare you to find me one actor or athlete or politician talking about cold approach. You wont find one. But you will find clips of them telling how they've met their wives in schools or through people they knew. You will only find autistic incels in their PUA cults bringing it up. >>32312895You also could bash your head against a wallYou can just give me all your moneyYou can cut your writstsFuck it, we cant do much to change our luckIts the same reasoning and just like cold approach none of it will let you speak to women>>32312935it doesnt matter how interested you are because no one knows it. People just pass you by without knowing you are genuinly interested in any of them.
>>32315335It doesnt matteryou can do therapy all on your own, its literelly just asking yourself questions or thinking about lifeevery human being can self therapy and everyone can learn why they are like that on their own and it doesnt change shitno one even knows you've gone to therapy or personally know why you are like that if you want to be who you want to be you need to do things that can make you that person, not think why you arentyou can be 80 years old and going to therapy and it wont change shitunderstanding doesnt change anything, actions matter, speaking matters, communicating verbally mattersand to do all of these, you need to be in schoolwomen will pass you by without speaking no matter how many times you go to therapy or how well you understand yourself, they will never know it about youyou will spend your whole life passing them by without speaking just as if you didnt understand yourselfthe key is understanding how other people speak to others, and they speak to them inside of schools and then through people they already know
>>32313027>>32313027you havent done any of it which is why you have to bring up that someone introduced you to themthere's nothing you can do to actually talk to someone you arent linked to socially outside of schoolsno fun, no talking, no sex, nothingYou literelly cannot get any friends or start conversations with random people which is why all posts about cold approach boil down to 2 posts1) worship of PUA (youre here) without ever bringing up any specifics or words that could be said out loud 2) attacking anyone who doesnt worship PUA religion, throwing insults and slurs and projecting your own character flawsYou can read through entire history of mankind, every book watch every movie and no one has ever cold approached people or spoke to randoms. Its a fantasy that is only brought up on autistic incel subreddits and /adv/ by people who have no clue what real world is like. There are no stories involving actual speech involving cold approaches because everyone knows that if a man just walks into a bar there are no possible words he can say to meet a "nice lady!" you can read through every book in history of mankind, such dialogue has never will written because it biologically cannot take place and you cannot even imagine what that man would say to people inside of bars where all women sit in meat cubes with their boyfriends. You have never gone outside in your life, all you did is spend all your life reading autistic incel reddit posts about things they have no idea about, that why you didnt write out dialogues, why you didnt post words that would come out of your mouth, why you didn't write any phrases or vocabulary that would lead to ripping women away from their meat walls or conversation or anything specificEveryone can make generic posts like yours. I have build nuclear reactors and slain dragons and destroyed cities and invented cures for cancer and intergalactic travel and I can describe in as much detail as you can your lies.
>>32315197Because I hate being lonely?>>32315335I've wasted so much time and momey om therapy and pills
>>32315414>y-you haven't done thatyou're pathetic
>>32315600>y-y-you're pathetic!!!kek keep crying bitch
>>32315639it seems we've reached an impasse
>>32313027>I've taken group photos with strangersthis was fun to read but i couldn't help but think, where have i seen this before
>>32315728I've posted on /adv/ about it a few times... I just get a lil squirrely when I have a few drinks out in public, in another life I'd probably be that weird homeless guy that pesters everyone, or the taxi driver that says the wildest shit... I just happen to value having a great job and not doing drugs.
>>32312533>I'm seriously contemplating suicidelong term solution for short term problems.I had lots of friends in college but when I left we scattered to the 4 corners of the globe and not heard or seen them since.got married to a good woman I met on a blind date. no children, retired. you are as miserable as you want to be.until you stop trying to be happy, and just get on with life, you will never be happy.
>>32312533>>32312711>>32312579>>32313027Nobody fucking makes friends that way. People have friends because they just exist in a social flow ever since school, their neighborhood etc. and make more and more friends through friends. They will tell you to go to fucking bars or parks and talk to strangers but no one makes friends that way.He'll, they would tell me that bullshit intentionally just to tell me to fuck off. I used to have "friends" where I was a third wheel, extremely one sided where I essentially had to beg them for interaction. No wonder it all fell apart.
>>32316297>Nobody fucking makes friends that way.Stop calling me nobody.You're terrible at making friends, yet somehow you're the authority on it?
>>32312533I have friends but they've never allowed me to meet new girls. Single girls, I meanOne time a friend of my friend's girlfriend was single and looking for cock, so they set up a "date". It felt very forced and didn't go anywhere
>>32316789Shut the fuck up foid, it's easy for you to make friends because you are a fucking woman.
>>32316952I understand that you and reality are not having a great relationship.It's up to you to change that. Trying to be a crab and dragging other people down is only entertaining to a point, I would guess.
>>32312732Can you tell me how you did it?
>>32312533>How am I supposed to make friends if I got bullied at school to the point of breaking down and becoming a hermit for the rest of hs? I didnt make a single friend in college and now I'm seriously contemplating suicideHere's the harsh reality OP: you're oversensitive. Everyone gets bullied at some point in life (especially as kids), but it shouldn't be so debilitating that you're unable to make friends for the rest of your life unless you have serious unresolved trauma issues from it.And if you DO have trauma issues, you should get help and get those fixed, and arguably probably should have a long time ago.
>>32316830>I have friends but they've never allowed me to meet new girls. Single girls, I meanWhat do you mean they never "allowed" you?Did you need their permission? Did you think it was their job to introduce you to girls?
>>32320610he won't because he's LARPing>dude I totally made out with women within 30 seconds of meeting them bro>give one at least slightly believable example? uhhh no hahah just go out and do it bro!
>>32315391>>32315407>>32315414fucking BASED schooler
>>32312533Become a sociopath. You'll thank me later.
