>>32315602
>The other seems to differ from you in some of her values and beliefs
Not that one.

>>32315602
the emotional connection sounds like the better long term choice

>>32315733
>>32315703
Even if the feelings and attraction towards the second one are much stronger?

>>32315602
Play them against each other to see who will make the bigger move to get you.

Go out, as friends, with one of them. Have it be absolutely crystal clear that it is only as platonic friends. Don't try to make a move. Don't flirt. Don't touch. No sexy nothing. Have the absolute most fun you possibly can. Do all her favourite stuff, in the friendliest way it is safe to do so in.

Then several days or next week take the other one out. Same plan. No touchy. No grabby. No kissy. Do not make a move. Have the absolute best time you can, but spend a little bit more money. Buy her something nice, but in a friend way. Be friendly, be calm, be nice, just do everything you can to make it as obvious as possible that it's just as friends.

At the end of the night, say something very very very very very low key catty towards the first girl, it doesn't matter what, but it has to be so inignificantly small that it doesn't rise to the level of insult. Something like "you wear that sweater better than X" or "those shoes look comfier than Y's" or "you made me laugh so hard, Z never made me do that".

Then days later, or the next week, all of you go out together, as friends. Preferably in a much bigger group. You need a wingman to drop a tiny detail or make a passing comment like "my guy had more fun with you" or "the other girl didn't smell as nice as you" or "my guy won't stop talking about you".

Then the group has to acknowledge that you had a friend day with both. Let the girls compare notes. As soon as one knows you spent more money on the other girl, or one girl learns she looks nicer than the other, or one of them gets the nicer hint from the wingman dropping a comment, the show starts.

Then it's no longer about you, directly. The two girls, egos pumped and vanity starting to rise to the surface - in an effort to either "win" or "save face" among the group, they will compete FOR YOU. They will both try to *get* you.

Play the long game. Win.

>>32315769
>finds fault with two answers
Sounds like you already know which one you want. Why are you asking us?

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>>32315769
>attraction

>>32315865
I feel stronger about one of them, but I'm not sure if that's the right choice. I have had a crush on her for a year. But I don't wanna hurt her by dating and then realising it was surface level attraction.

I know more or less what I feel but I still don't know what I should do.

>>32315905
seriously, it sounds like you're talking yourself into the hot one, which is the classic mistake. at least if you're thinking long term. for a wife you want a woman who will connect with your values

>>32315909
I know and I admit I kinda am doing that. But it's not as black and white as you're probably reading it (or I emphasised my doubts so much I made the first girl the obvious choice).
The first girls has her flaws and differences to me as well. And I'm not really close with either of them. I don't know them as well as I could. Maybe it wouldn't do any harm to just go out with the second, get to know her better, and see if it's possible. Also, I know this probably sounds bad, but why should I be thinking about this all that seriously? Honestly, I'm 22 and I've never had a girlfriend. She doesn't have to end up being my wife.

>>32315884
How should I be expected to maintain a relationship with someone I'm not all that attracted to?

>>32315988
you said you were catching feelings for her, is pretty in her own right, and you have an emotional connection with her.

>>32315994
Well she is sorta pretty. Goddammit, all my female friends are.

Am I catching feelings for her? When she's around, I think I am.

And about the emotional connection... Well I did say that. And ibln a way it's definitely true. Tho it's more of a feeling I get than something tangible that connects us.

I'm actually not sure i have any real common interests with either of them.
Maybe I just fall in love too easily.

>>32315988
Again, it seems like your mind already made up.

>>32316072
Emotionally mind's kinda made up, but I'm not sure I'm thinking right. Like I said. I'm giving you arguments why I want to go through with what I feel, but if I'm talkingvnonsense, please convince me otherwise.

>>32316086
Nothing YOU want will matter if it isn't what THEY want.

That's why you HAVE to make THEM pick YOU.

Another factor that might be making me doubt might be that lately I've been seeing the first girl way more often than the second.

We're all friends from uni and we take different classes this semester

>>32316089
If you're the guy who wrote the long reply about making them kinda compete for me, I don't think it's a very good idea.
And the first girl is friendly to me, but the second one, I think straight up is into me

>>32316100
The point is, you don't KNOW.

Either they compete for you, low-level as it may be, or one drops out instantly and you have a definitive answer. Or neither like you and you are wasting everyone's time.

there's a great saying from "the way of the superior man" which is to choose the woman who chooses you

>>32315602
>You feel more of an emotional connection with her but she's hard to talk to because she's as introverted as you are.
Hm, 5/10
>The other seems to differ from you in some of her values and beliefs, but you still feel a connection with her. She's also objectively really hot and you find her super cute.
Hm, also 5/10
Tough question

>And you're pretty sure she likes you back.
Wait.
you're catching feelings and you didn't go talk to them to see which ones like you and want you?
Go do that first. That's what I do when I find myself getting attracted to people I spend time with.

>>32316138
Well I've wanted to ask the second girl out for a beer just to talk 1 on 1. I figured that would be a good way to get to know her a little better, but I haven't had an opportunity yet. I've seen her once in the last 4 weeks. But I've had a strong feeling she doesn't like me. It's small things like the way she glimpses at me, smiles to me when we're with the bigger group, the jokingly flirting.
It's a long story but I already tried asking her out through texts last year, and she initially said yes, but I learned she had a boyfriend and she didn't have time.

>>32315602
The one with the bigger tits.
The only objective measure

>>32315602
You're treating them like you don't know which car to buy when you don't know if you even have a chance with either of them. Honestly, if you actually cared about either one of them, you probably wouldn't have "feelings" for both at the same time.
>Honestly, I'm 22 and I've never had a girlfriend.
You don't know what you're doing, you shouldn't assume you even have a choice.

>>32316117
>>32316199
Good answers.

>>32316199
I think I love one of them, but I don't know ow either one of them very well. Definitely not well enough to be sure if I have a chance with them, that's true. I should've phrased it better. I originally posted it on b so it's a bit cynical with the "which one would you pick".

But you're wrong in assuming I don't care about either one. If I didn't,I'd just try immediately with the hotter one. I don't wanna hurt either one of them. I know I'm talking about just TRYING to be with one of them and it's not certain at all, buy that's when I have the choice still, right? If I ask the second girl out and it goes well, we start dating and then I realise she thinks differently than I, and that I was all just physical attraction, I'd be a dick.
If I ask the first girl out and we start dating, and the feeling I had about the other girl was right and she liked me, I'd be hurting her too. Honestly the only good outcome is if they both don't want to be with me, and I just end up lonely again but they both are okay. Also, I can't shake the feeling that if I was with the first girl, it'd partly be because I couldn't be with the second.

It sucks for everyone to like 2 women at the same time. I think I just started considering the first one more when I didn't see the second for a long time.

>>32316251
>I think I love one of them, but I don't know ow either one of them very well
No, you don't. You don't "think" you love someone, and if it was love for "one of them", you wouldn't be debating between two girls in the first place. You have no idea what you're talking about and you're better off dropping the idea of trying to get with either of them. I know you said you've never had a girlfriend, but you seem way too inexperienced and naiive to be trying to get with one of your friends.

Op, something to consider; when you start having sex with someone and you have strong emotional connection it can deepen your physical attraction to them.
I think both men and women are like that, women certainly are.

As long as you have some level of genuine attraction to the first girl, then you can develop a deeper attraction with time.

>>32316400
Don’t listen to this op, you are young and it’s your right to fuck around and make mistakes. You’re learning. It’s not that deep

>>32316251
It’s honestly sounds like you should go for the second one.

Listen, I was in a relationship with someone who wasn’t as attracted to me as he should’ve been and it became a major source of insecurity in my life. It lasted past the end of the relationship.

If you’re not as attracted to the other girl don’t risk hurting her like that. It’s really really hard for men to hide the fact that they aren’t that attracted to you, trust me. You guys aren’t good at that.
It’s better for everyone if you just choose someone you’re really attracted to.

>>32318012
>It’s not that deep
Yeah, it's only people's lives. Fucking retard.

>>32315602
Go with the hot one. She likes you more apparently, you’re clearly attracted to her and you’re 22. Just enjoy it. Not everyone gets the kind of opportunities you have.

>>32318751
And don’t listen to idiots like this.

>>32319666
Listen to anyone but this stupid fuck.

>>32318023
This is correct. It sounds as though if you were in a relationship with the first one, you'd still be making eyes at the second. And the other way around would not be the case. Act accordingly

>>32315602
The first one—no question.

>>32319795
No, he’s right. You’re the stupid fuck here.

>>32315602
The one who likes me back.

>>32322221
You missed your get. That's how much of a stupid fucking moron you are.