I’ve been doing an internship for a company since September, and sometimes in the morning, on my way to work, I see a really cute girl in the metro.Until now, I’ve never dared to approach her because I don’t know her, it’s in the metro, and there are always people around.Last week, I told myself that I’d talk to her no matter what, but I didn’t saw her.I was planning to start with something like, “Would you ever go through your boyfriend’s phone to check if he’s cheating? Because my friend did that, blah blah…” (I know it’s lame, but after thinking about it for so long, I couldn’t come up with anything better.)The thing is, last week, I was so set on talking to her that I felt super anxious on my way to the metro. My heart was racing. It worries me because I think this anxiety might hold me back. In any case, I really feel like approaching her next week if I see her.I’m posting this thread to get your advice on this situation.Do you have any tips on how to make flirting go smoother in the metro?Do you know how I can “deal with this anxiety”? I’ve even thought about drinking beforehand to calm my nerves, but obviously, showing up to work tipsy isn’t ideal.If you have any better ideas for an opening line, I’m all ears.P.S.: I’ve been thinking about something else—last time I saw her in the metro, I didn’t talk to her. But I noticed that she stood right in front of me on the platform, maybe to be in the same train car as me? Also, that day, she sat near me and took out a book—first time I’ve ever seen her reading since September, and I saw her on the metro lot of days. For context, I always have a book in my hands in the metro. Maybe it's a sign, I don't know
>>32316216"That's a very nice dress/ring/hairdo/whatever. Oh, please don't be startled. Since we take the same trian each day I noticed that your dress/ring/hairdo was different and had to tell you how well it becomes you."
>>32316489This is the way to go OP>>32316216Your gay shit about "oh is your boyfriend cheating on you" is super weird and autistic don't do thatYou only know each other insofar as you know what you both look like. Stick to appearances and escalate to deeper topics from thereMy own personal example, I wasn't exactly flirting with this girl but I noticed a short-haired cutie about my age (early-mid 30s) looking over at me across the car while riding the rail last week. We got off at the same stop, I went to a different part of the city for a little while, and when I went back to that stop I saw the same woman again.I approached her and joked if she was my handler from the CIA, then admitted I just remembered what she looked like and complimented her look. We had a quick, polite convo but I didn't feel the vibe so I said bye and have a good day and went to the other end of the rail car. The point of that story is that it's totally possible to approach and talk to random women in public without coming off like a creep - you just have to not be a creep.
>>32316216You sound obsessed, which is step one to complete failureJust stop thinking about her for a while. Once you've gotten it out of your system, it will be easier
>>32316489lol no it's not 1951 anymore if you tell a woman you have been watching her IT'S OVER
>>32316216Don't stress it too much dude, what the anon said before about complimenting a feature sounds good. But if you're anxious and overthinking, just make it simple. Tell her you think she's pretty and ask if she'd like to get a coffee some evening. If she's noticed you and/or likes the look of you, she'll say yes. If not, no. You don't need to blow your head out looking for signs she likes you or not, her response will be clear enough. Its scary, but you just gotta ask that one simple question and the rest is completely outta your hands, you've taken your shot and can be proud of that, whatever else happens. Then you can celebrate or come back here to lick your wounds and move on.
"Hi im anon where you headed?" or maybe ask about a stopnot saying this works but this is what i'd do and i'd at least be talking to her
>>32316216>I was planning to start with something like, “Would you ever go through your boyfriend’s phone to check if he’s cheating? Because my friend did that, blah blah…” (I know it’s lame, but after thinking about it for so long, I couldn’t come up with anything better.)That is genuinely one of the most retarded and off putting things I have ever heard as a cold opener.How in the ever living fuck could you EVER think that is even remotely acceptable?!
>>32316594I like your idea about cia stuff, I'll use it thanks dude>>32318285I know it's shitty that's one of the reasons I made this thread kek
>>32322086Personal problems are generally unattractive, OP. Everybody has them but if you want to succeed, leave your baggage at home and don't open up on it to people until they explicitly ask. Otherwise, assume they don't want to know, it will save you a lot of time and trouble.That said, the key to talking to people is the same in all fields - realizing that you have the right to speak, and there's absolutely nothing creepy or harmful in using your words. If the other person doesn't like you or what you have to say, they'll let you know, and you can drop it and move on. Its super simple. Without knowing anything about that person, going with an opener that has to do with what you can see about them with their eyes is a good start. Hobbies and interests are a better way to keep a conversation going but you have to start one in the first place to learn what those are from them.
>>32316216>"hey, look honestly I see you here sometimes and you are the cutest woman I've ever seen, and I just wanted to say hey. how's life with you?read "The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give it to Them">your mindset should be curious: "I wonder what she's like?"
>>32316489you’re a psycho
>>32316216Dont.Just dont.Just really dont.
