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I'm early 30s diagnosed autistic with fairly severe anxiety in England. I had to quit my working from home job of 18 months because my employer was demanding I start going into the office which I previously tried but couldn't handle. Been unemployed a year now and struggling to find any other jobs I could feasibly do - nearly every single one requires being a social butterfly providing 10/10 customer service bullshit or some other criteria I just can't meet.

The government has consistently been antagonistic against my PIP claims, and I lost a 2-year appeal to the upper tribunal.

I'm stuck living in a tiny bedroom at my mother's house. She asks me for money constantly and I was recently pressured into giving her all of my remaining savings to go towards my grandmother's care. I feel like I have no future and want to kill myself, but don't want to upset my family. What the fuck do I do?
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Unfortunately Anon, the larger part of life is mostly things we don't want to or can't do, that we have to do anyway so we can afford to do the things that we want to do. I can tell you from personal experience as a mid-30s diagnosed autistic that the fear and revulsion at working with the public does slowly disappear through exposure. Five years working behind a front desk at a retail job cured me of that, I've seen the best and worst of humanity. But the fact is that the reason people are paid to do customer service is because its unpleasant - that is why people pay you to do it because it would be hard to compel someone to do it without pay.

Jobs with no interaction are highly sought after and very few - its hard to sell products or create value in the modern economy without engaging people. The days of pulling resources out of the ground (Primary Economy) or using resources to create finished goods (Secondary Economy) are long behind us - we're a service industry now, largely because the value of services is so speculative and the only sort of trade that can keep up with the rising costs.

In short, if you want money, you're going to have to get a job that you can hold down and you'll probably have to physically go there like the most of man, because as a disabled individual you're probably not in the running for the highly-desired jobs working in the back of a shop or in a lone cubicle or corner office somewhere, where you don't have to talk to people. Especially with the rise of these exact sorts of autism and neuroses - everyone who has one of those jobs to give is going to funnel their ADHD/Aspie family or friend into it.

You can always try the trades though - people mostly leave you alone, but you still have to leave the house and actually get things done. Because its a real job, the stress is not in dealing with people but the responsibility of infrastructure failing and getting people hurt when you don't do your job properly.
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Thanks, appreciate your response. And I do realise that's more or less the score. It's just hard to believe that there's really no adequate safety net in the UK for people in this kind of situation. Living in an economically deceased city doesn't help much either. I guess I'll just keep looking for jobs and hope for the best.



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