There's a girl I like who I know likes me back; but aside from mutual interest in a relationship... I don't think about her sexually, or even too romantically at all for that matter. I'm not asexual or aromantic or whatever the fuck, I know that well. I just want to *be* with her, and only being friends doesn't cut it. I want her to be Mine. For me that thought usually comes with massive gooner brainrot bullshit behind it though, but with her it just never comes. What is this? Am I actually in love at all or is my brain so destroyed by wanting to have a relationship I can't have a normal friendship with a woman? I first posted this on r9k without knowing it was against the rules, sorry. Also before anyone tries to troll and give this as a reason for why I'm not thinking with my dick, no she isn't trans. But yeah, what is this? Need some genuine advice please don't be mean.
>>32327560You should grow up and ask her out on a date. You don't love someone unless you've shared some experiences and had sex consistently for a few weeks. And really true love takes years to develop after that. You sound like a grade schooler buddy
>>32327560congratulations op it sounds like you aren’t thinking with hour dick. You are thinking with brain. this sounds like an actual opportunity for a deep loving relationship don’t fuck it up
>>32327587I'm only 19 and a khv. Never had interest in relationships before so I have zero idea how to go about it ofc. But okay I'll do it>>32327613I'll try my best anon, it's a little scary
>>32327680Ask her to get sushi with you.
>>32327560Wow, you described exactly the way I thought about my (now) girlfriend when I was first falling for her. I wouldn't go too far as to call it a kind of modern-day "fin'amors", but i felt it as something deeper than a mere physical attraction. I actually wanted her as you described, get to know her, what was her personality like? What did she think about? What made her laugh? Etc.Now, it may seem kind of cheesy, but after I dared to approach it seemed as if the process of a "communion of souls" was beginning, and indeed it eventually developed into a relationship.I'd advise you to not worry about not thinking sexually about her just yet. Maybe when you have a more developed connection with her you'll see her that way? And when the time comes, it will feel different, magical even, because you have thought about her going beyond sex, and it will be just as much a strong statement of love as it will be physically pleasurable.I'm sure this sounds cringy as fuck, but it's as far as my poor abilities of expression can go when it comes to painting and conveying such a strong feeling.Also, if you haven't approached her yet, remember the words of Ovid: Venus and Fortune favours the bold.
>>32327725love isnt cringe and anyone thinking so is seethingly jealous
>>32327737Indeed, friend. It's just that the way I expressed it may make it seem so. My English is broken and my writing skills are poor, so I may have missed the mark when it came to expressing what I actually wanted to say, producing a laughable picture of this sublime feeling.
>>32327719Is there any specific reason for sushi? I've never had it>>32327725Assuming "approach" isn't some slang I don't know, we've known each other for half a year and hang out/talk daily. To the point I get pretty jealous when she hangs out with her other friends instead.>>32327737I've never seen anyone call it cringe so that's really weird for those people to think
>>32327783>Assuming "approach" isn't some slang I don't know, we've known each other for half a year and hang out/talk daily. Yes, I was basically referring to actually talking to her, which apparently you've been doing for quite a while. That's really great, as it could serve as a foundation for a relationship, if you both want to go for it. If you haven't expressed your interest in being something more than friends, may I ask why? Of course you can and should take your time, i'm just curious.
>>32327725I envy you, bro. I deeply desire to have the connection you describe, but I rarely meet women who have that affect on me. I hope that one day I'll have one of those life changing moments where I meet that someone in the most mundane of circumstances.
>>32327847Don't despair, man. When I met her I had basically "given up on love", being cynical and making fun of people who I thought was naïve about it.But life proved me wrong. I could not give you good advice because I didn't do anything for it, it was almost a gift of God, destiny, or whatever force moves our lives. As you said, it can happen in the most mundane of circumstances. Just don't consciously try to feel that kind of connection, as such things can hardly be forced. Be patient, focus on your life, and be open to whatever awaits you.Best of luck, and have a good life.
>>32327842Though I was never too interested in relationships before this year I've always been a firm believer of the "friends to lovers" narrative so that definitely changes how I view this whole thing. Aside from the fact I'm generally slow to pick up on my own feelings and find the thought of trying to confess super embarrassing, she's really hyper. In a... most likely mentally ill sort of way (I am as well), so it gets hard to understand what she's trying to convey with what she does sometimes, I really needed to be 100% sure before trying to do anything so I didn't embarrass myself for nothing.
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