How do I talk with my gf that I need some time to myself, im a loner and always was for 25 years until I meet her so I like having some time to myself to drink, listen music or play vidya whatever it is I like doing alone from time to time.Im a wage slave I only have little free time, sometimes I even sell my day offs to make a bit extra, usually my only free time is at night when I clock out until I go sleep at dawn and almost every day I spend it with my gf chatting online or in long calls, it's fair that she want to spend time with me and I only have little free time so she calls me almost everyday but I need a bit of time to myself am I being egoistic? I don't like to lie to her and say I'm going to sleep and do something else but I've done ~2 times when I really needed time to myself to relax (my job can be very stressful at times and I just want to cool off alone when I get home). Please tell me am I being wrong for wanting that?
>>32327640Imagine being a dumb wagie in 2024 and having to deal with these possessed normies (ticker: WAGIES)Even driving to work becomes a nightmare as the roads are filled with roadrage wagies ready to fight you for the lane mad max style.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z3fwCssFiAM
>>32327640Just say that.
>>32327703Not a problem for me I live near my job I can go there walking in 5 minutes >>32327710It's awkward to suddenly bring it up and she might think I don't want to spend time with her/ I don't like her anymore
>>32327759>It's awkward to suddenly bring it up and she might think I don't want to spend time with her/ I don't like her anymoreJust say that. You are allowed to just say stuff and not meticulously craft it.
>>32327759could you get a hobby that allots you a certain amount of alone time, hiking or something
>>32327780I already have and I mentioned in the op: gaming and listening music
>>32327800but you can do both of those while on a call, the goal is to manage your alone time without letting her think you dont enjoy your time with heror again you could just say that in those words
>>32327807That looks like I'm trying to distance myself from her and that's not what I want, I'll have to talk with her I just don't know how yet and I hope she doesn't think of it as a redflag specially the part that I like drinking alone (she doesn't drink herself) and got any weird ideas
>>32327640This is why I don't want to get a gf.
is she 12? cause i only feel the way you say she might when I was being groomed at 13 so many years ago. literally don't get with a girl who would be insecure about you wanting free time to literally just play video games, any decent (and hopefully adult) female would be completely fine with you wanting free time
>>32327870She never said anything like I have to spend time with her it just happens that we start talking when I come home from work and from there sometimes I called her for a call sometimes she did but now it happens almost everyday and she never protested about it so if I don't invite her/refuse her invite I feel like I could be hurting her.>>32327856Maybe it's my gf that is too needy and the fact I have almost no free time, you can be fine with a gf if you have good amount of free time and she's not needy
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>>32329922when I was 15 I made him create a word document with everything he did while he didn't want to call. when he didn't do that, I looked through his google history at everything he did. your girl hopefully isn't as retarded as I was but you will definitely come to resent her if you don't just tell her how you just wanna be alone. you two will get in an argument at some point or another and it'll come out "I never have any time to myself you're always wanting to call!!!" I've heard it all. matthew I was only 14 you were old enough to know I was so deranged. I've finally gotten better but I still think about how much pain I caused you solely because I was so young and too immature.
