He thinks its a trap. Men are taught women have to have an orgasm too or they are one of those awful selfish men who don't care about women's experience.

Tell him that, genuinely, his satisfaction makes you feel really good too, as good as orgasm, and for women, having an orgasm is not always the ultimate goal of sex. Assure him that if you ever feel like he's being selfish in bed and leaving you unsatisfied, you will say so.

>>32328344
thank you for this, I'll push it tonight that him feeling good makes me feel really happy, I just don't want him to feel forced cause he can get so uncomfortable after I make him cum but I dont...like he genuinely gets really sad and keeps asking why I didn't want to and if I'm ok, it's not cause he's insecure he just feels really guilty like you said in the beginning like he hates being selfish

bump for second opinion mayhaps

>>32328245
you gotta tell him these things. i didn’t like when my wife would ask me if i want to have sex. i told her just start doing things to me instead. i want to make her cum every time we fuck but i know that isn’t possible. she isnt always in the mindset for it. and i want to fuck way more than her and she knows it. so a lot of times she just wants me to cum. i doubt he understands any of this

he probably has a low sex drive if he’s turning down sex (or gay) but you should explain why you can’t cum every time you fuck. and how sometimes you just want him to fuck you and cum and you’ll still enjoy it. he’s probably never heard this before

>>32328245
Tell him it’s a marathon and not a race. Make sure when he finishes that you guys stay nude and keep messing around until he’s ready to go again. He will get you there on round two or three for sure and it will build up his confidence. Also try new positions and keep talking and laughing and having fun so he knows he can’t fail.