https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hWlccMhJ3LwI think I've consumed every video on how to get over an ex. 2:35 especially. I will NEVER, EVER, meet someone like her again, and I think that goes for a lot of people as well. Is there a point to psyopping people like this? Is it just to keep the mice spinning in their wheels? What's the purpose behind this? It's not like they're trying to sell you something (typically), but they are giving a false sense of unwarranted hope to keep you as a working cog in the machine.
>>32330533It's been less than a month, hasn't it?
>>32330533Hey, I've been thinking about my ex a lot recently too. It is legitimately the most painful experience of my life. The only cope I have is that I'm changing my career to make more money, and also the fact that despite how great I though my ex was, she still left me, and in a really disrespectful way at that. Someone who is actually worthy of all this mental energy wouldn't backstab me like that. You know I won't find someone with her exact qualities, which does suck because I loved them so much, but also I wouldn't want to recreate the relationship. I can learn to love another person with their own set of strengths and quirks. But for now I'm just depressed and coping. I'm planning to try dating slowly in 2025 and if nothing happens next year to actually start really searching for girlfriend in 2026. Idk what your story is, but I went 26 years with no sex or gf, so if I can do it once I figure i can do it twice. And next time I'll have more knowledge and money
>> boohoo my girlfriend left meYou'll get over it. Stop making a dickhead of yourself online in the mean time. You won't find answers online, only in self reflection and time.
>>32330533Hey OP, I'm closing in on a year after my ex-fiancee dumped me. We spent over eight years together.I tell myself every single fucking day that I deserve better than her, remind myself that she didn't respect me, that she preferred going to work and getting male attention from her coworkers (one of whom she left me for). That she treated me like I was her son, not her future husband, that she wasn't affectionate and that she was overbearing.None of that matters though because there's not going to be a next one for me. I've been searching for months for a new girlfriend, and nothing. A few shitty first dates but that's it. I'm on tinder and bumble but my profile might as well not exist. And the worst part is I still keep thinking about her. Haven't even seen her in months, we're strict no contact, she has no social media so I can't stalk it, I even deleted her number from my phone. In spite of all that she's still living in my head rent free every day.I'm convinced the people who say "just get over it and fuck another bitch bro!" are just macho posers who have never even been in a relationship.>Is it just to keep the mice spinning in their wheels? What's the purpose behind this? It's not like they're trying to sell you something (typically), but they are giving a false sense of unwarranted hope to keep you as a working cog in the machine.Sadly I think so. That's why they say stuff like "oh just keep working on yourself" or "it'll come when you're not looking for it!" It's to just get you to shut up and put your head back down and leave them alone. They know the truth, that you're gonna die alone, but they'd feel bad for saying it so they give you the comforting lie. They give you the sugar instead of the bitter medicine. I will say that video is right about is getting back to the hobbies you enjoyed before your relationship. My ex HATED me cosplaying and going to cons even though it's something I did for years, feels good to be able to do that again.
>>32330646>I'm convinced the people who say "just get over it and fuck another bitch bro!" are just macho posers who have never even been in a relationship.I feel like people are just better liars to themselves than I am. How do people gaslight themselves into thinking like that? Sure if you got burned really bad like a cheater, but IDK otherwise.>It's to just get you to shut up and put your head back down and leave them alone. Definitely on a person to person level, which is why I don't tell anyone about my ex anymore because I get the same useless advice IRL as well as online.
>>32330533To be absolutely honest a broken heart is hell. Hell. But you simply have to believe this provable fact: unlike Hell, it is not eternal. Any day now, you will surprise yourself by going a whole hour without thinking of her. And then two, and then half a day, and then..... When you do think of her it will hurt - only not quite as much and not quite as often. And that's how it goes
>>32332356It's been two years and I still spiral into thoughts about her. I hear her voice in my head, her verbal tics. I wonder sometimes about the things we'd be doing if she were here. It's made even worse when I feel like an unwanted ghost in society and I really can't move on, because in a way, even if she isn't there, she's still my rock against the cold and cruelty of the world, even if thinking of her still makes me cry sometimes.
>>32334076Have you tried finding new wamman?
>>32334089The last woman I talked to (who was also the first woman to ever ask me for my number), was so dumb, it made me spiral hard thinking I'll never meet someone like my ex again.
>>32334178Yes, but your ex also had a worse quality than being dumb, which was getting to know you and ultimately rejecting you. How long did you guys date and what happened?
