>Finland>Conscription coming>Always been fat, lazy, unfit, depressed>Conscription closing in>Look at "elite" units, that's sick, though I can't pass the entrance exam.>Lose 32kg, & get fit-ish now 19>Conscription in ~2 months>Regret not getting fit sooner>Want to join "elite" units>Can't even try without delaying service for a whole year>Could have tried if I wasn't such a fat lazy fuck>What if? What if? What if?>Hate myself, can't stop thinking about it, every time I think about it I feel a tightness in my chest & get anxious.>Might of or might of not gotten in, selections are pretty tough.How does one get over regret / stop thinking about the past?
>>32330854Think about the past and feel "ok"EzIf I feel regret about something, I just decide I've already learnt from it, so further regret is useless. And since it's useless I just don't do it. And if it happens to me anyway without me trying to, I just tell my emotions "ok boomer" and get back to what I was doing.
>>32330854As someone who is a bit older, ho was very motivated about the military when I was your age, I have to say you really don't want to be in these elite units. You should be trying to get a job that will have you be as far away from the front lines as possible, not trying to be in the unit that will be sent on the most dangerous missions. If there's a war with Russia you should do what you can to survive it, not be a hero.As for your feelings of regret, there's no helping it now. Obviously you can't dispel the feelings of self-anger because this kind of regret is deeply ingrained in our biology (ever notice how you will sometimes randomly remember something embarrassing you did years ago and get extremely upset at yourself? I think this is a holdover from caveman times when being outcast from your tribe basically meant death, so we have a biological response to make us think about and hate times we acted in ways we should not have). But all that aside, all you can do is just continue to train, go where your country needs you, and be ready for what comes.
>>32330890>Obviously you can't dispel the feelings of self-anger because this kind of regret is deeply ingrained in our biology (ever notice how you will sometimes randomly remember something embarrassing you did years ago and get extremely upset at yourself?I'm the first replier.I unlearned those responses.Deeply ingrained in our biology my ass, regret is a habit and a habit is a choice.Ofc I still feel self-anger when I make a fuck up, or I passively permit a fuck up in myself. Inspires me to sort that shit out. But once I've sorted that shit out I stop feeling about it.
>>32330854Find a new difficult stretch goal. Hot chick, crazy job, something like that.
