All the women close in my life have admitted, in one way or another, that I'm a pussy. At one point, an ex-girlfriend of mine has told me that she wanted me to be more manlier and assertive. My own mother has even mocked me for my apparent lack of masculinity.The problem is that I have intense social anxiety and self-hatred for myself so much so that I don't know how to be a confident and assertive man without coming off as too aggressive. Basically whenever I try to be more assertive, it comes off as extremely uncomfortable and wrong to me that I feel intense anxiety and shame afterwards. But sometimes I feel like I didn't do enough, that I was wronged, and I start having intrusive violent thoughts as if being violent would solve anything but my ego is sadly *that* fragile. For context, I was abused at home when I was younger, and my dad was a deadbeat who was dependent on my mom to do everything for him, so I never really had a father figure in my life to teach me these things. I'm a pretty skinny guy too at around 180 cm and 72 kg. I'm not frail, but there are plenty of other guys who can probably take me in a fight.I'm 23 years old, and I still feel like a little kid in some respects. Like I try to be respectful and considerate of other's feelings, but that's just not what I see from other guys my age.
>>32333341go to a psychologist.>I'm a pretty skinny guy too at around 180 cm and 72 kg.mental illness. go to a psychologist.
>>32333341Will you consider counselling/therapy? If not, can you ar least commit to a self-help program or book?
>>32333445Why a psychologist specifically? There aren't many people with PsyD in my area, and the few that are around aren't accepting clients or have waiting lists.>>32333468I've been seeing a counselor for two weeks now. She's friendly enough but kinda awkward, which makes it hard to open up. I'm very apprehensive about it all but I don't know if I want to go through the process of finding someone else.
>>32333341If you need to ask, there’s nothing you can do. Bad genetics being selected out. Go enjoy life.
>>32333341Accept solitude.
>>32333341you have to fuck around. that's how you find out.https://www.bitchute.com/video/HwFFGtGh0FxR
What you’re actually seeking is confidence and self-worth. “Masculinity” is just a placeholder term being imposed upon that by both yourself and by others in your life. You need to be *doing* things OP. Lifting, a martial art, a toastmasters club to work on public speaking, volunteer work. As you step outside of your comfort zone and challenge yourself to learn new things, you grow. When you grow you become proud of yourself. When you become proud of yourself you become more confident. This confidence will, as a result, make you a better man and thus more “masculine.” Less thinking. Less ruminating. More doing. You don’t like who you are. You will continue to not like who you are until you start becoming somebody that you like. In order to become somebody that you like, you need to make changes. DO. STOP THINKING. DO.
>>32334014That's epigenetics here, dunning-kruger faggot retard
>>32334084>confidence and self-worth.This guy is right. I'm fat, I have no money, yet, I get to be the fancy guy that gets to choose.How? (Follow up soon)
>>32334084nta but I feel self-confident but still not masculine more like an animal than man
>>32333341do you have a big dick OP?i get pushed around sometimes too but i just take it, if its not too bad because i know deep down my small 5 inch grower makes me probably inferior to that guy saying it, specially if its at the gym in the locker room. just wondering if you're the same
>>32334111Whatever the fuck that means
bump
>>32334105... it's charisma. That is what I have over you.
>>32333341you are already being pushed into being more masculine, the actual masculine thing to do would be disregard what they say, paradoxically
well dont see yourself as weak maybe firstly
Hit the gymMaybe go to some sort of in-person coaching programBuild an inherent level of self-respect that stays there regardless of what you look or act like. A self-esteem that's independent from other peoples' judgements basically
