Need advice bros. Been dating this girl from dance class (we both do bachata/salsa) for 10 months. Everything was good until shit hit the fan recently.Main issue - I'm still friends with my ex from 3 years ago. Nothing weird, ex has a boyfriend, we barely talk (just about mutual friends' weddings and basic shit). Current gf got super paranoid about it, even demanded to see our messages (which were completely normal btw).I also fucked up by never saying "I love you" during these 10 months. I took care of her and helped her with everything but just couldn't say these words (probably some emotional damage from past relationships idk). She never said it either.She admits she got a "revenge friend" from dance class. Says they've been talking and calling each other. Claims nothing happened but "everything was possible". Found out she's been secretly preparing for breakup - taking different dance classes, making solo holiday plans etc.We had a big fight few days ago where we both finally opened up emotionally. I fucking hate myself for not doing this earlier. We cut contact for 2 days, then today she calls me asking "so what?". I tell her I'm willing to give us another chance and try again, but she starts bringing up the same shit about how I didn't do this for months.My head is a complete mess now. Waiting for my therapist appointment to get professional perspective, that's why I'm asking you bros.The worst part is that no-contact isn't even an option if we break up. We're in the same social circle, do the same type of dancing, will see each other at parties and events anyway. Inb4:- yes, I know I'm emotionally retarded- yes, I should've handled the ex situation better- but she's not innocent either with this revenge shitWhat do you think bros? Should I try to fix this or just move on? Anyone dealt with similar emotional shitstorm?
>>32333641Your current GF sounds extremely manipulative, and a massive red flag. The reason why she shit herself that you still had contact with your ex, is because she was convinced you’ll cheat. And she is convinced you will cheat because – wait for it – >She admits she got a "revenge friend" from dance class. Says they've been talking and calling each other. Claims nothing happened but "everything was possible".She fucking KNOWS she is a cheater herself. That’s why she was paranoid and jealous, she has it in her to cheat, and projected this proclivity onto (you).And she fucking proved it to your face by taunting you out of spite to make your squirm, admitting she has a ‘revenge friend’ aka, a guy she can and will fuck if you piss her off. She’s already trying to exert control over you via emotional manipulation, she isn’t even fuckin’ subtle about it either. >yes, I know I’m emotionally retardedNaive as fuck, son. How and why did you pick a psycho chick like this? Could you not see the signs?Don’t you go back to her brother, she is mentally and emotionally dangerous to be around. This isn’t normal shit at all, this is unhinged, abnormal, toxic and if you try to keep things going with her then what happens next will ruin you most likely.
>>32333641You talk like any of this is remotely normal or acceptable. And you do implicitly and explicitly accept this by having it in your life. My advice, this isn’t supposed to be normal, this is disgusting smelly trash and feces. You should not have any of this in your life. Raise your standards.
>>32333686>>32333703thank you guys, good to see other perspective
>>32333641you did fuck up by not saying i love you but yeah the other anons are right in the regard she's manipulative and weird. take this as a learning opportunity and just drop her. she's trying to get you to chase her, so don't reward her. she'll grow bored of the "revenge friend" real fast since that relationship was based off of spite. once you're out of the picture, there's not going to be anything fueling her motivation for what she has going on with her revenge friend. don't take her back if she does come crawling back. she ruined it with all of this manipulative bullshit. stay in therapy OP because you still need to work out shit if you're not able to tell a girlfriend you love them within ten months, you're obviously not over some past issues
>>32334161No problem, but don’t chock it down to ‘other perspective’, this isn’t a matter of opinion, this is objective fact. You are dating a crazy manipulative chick who just threatened to cheat on you.
bump maybe
you have the prime opportunity to dodge a bullet
