I'm a former hikkineet that's been on a self-improvement arc this whole year. I've since lost weight, got a retail job, and pay my share of rent and do all my chores myself. Still no college or car but working on it. So far, I've had a few "romantic" encounters this year (which I never expected to happen). I got approached on the bus by a girl, we talked for a bit and I got her number, turned out she already had a boyfriend. She seemed like bad news so I ghosted her (that's a start, I guess?). Another was a girl at work who pursued me aggressively but non-verbally (she struck me as shy but had no problems talking to others). Tried pursuing her back but ultimately didn't lead to anywhere because of some dumb miscommunication issues. I still like this girl and I think she still has feelings but we rarely see each other now because she mostly works at a different department. I'm losing hope it'll lead to anywhere. Also had a different girl at work who was new that I caught staring at me a few times. I wanted to try talking to her but she disappeared after 3 daysI've never had a relationship before but these encounters make me think I actually have a shot at finding love. I've never made a dating profile so I'm not sure what to put on my bio. I don't have a lot of hobbies I'm into besides the typical guy ones (exercising and gaming). I used to livestream as a hobby (which is how I got the social skills to land a job in the first place) and even made an effort to learn Japanese (which is still pretty mediocre desu). Besides that I don't really do anything interesting. Without a car it takes a long time to navigate my city by bus so I don't go out much either. Not sure what to put down desu.
>>32335554It doesn't sound like you're ready for a serious relationship yet. You sound very boring because you haven't started doing much yet after dragging yourself out of your hikki state. You should be applauded for doing that, and I hope you recognize how well you did. But you definitely still need to spend some time on yourself before you try to "officially" put yourself out there for dating on a site or app.You need to spend time doing different things to cultivate some hobbies and interests. You need to do this to also get a better sense of who you are. It sounds like you still don't really know who you are yet, and that's understandable considering the kind of lifestyle you were living until recently. But if you don't really know who you are, what you like, and what you can offer to someone in a relationship, I don't think you're quite ready for that relationship just yet.However, while I don't advise you to put yourself on a dating site or app just yet, I do advise you to always be open to opportunities. The more you go out and do different things and meet different people, the more chances you have to make friends, some that might even turn into dating. But to be clear, dating shouldn't be your main aim right now.Well done again for escaping your hikki lifestyle, and I wish you all the best.
>>32336242>You sound very boring because you haven't started doing much yet after dragging yourself out of your hikki stateI don’t think someone that says this actually goes outside and observes how many hobbies the average person has besides browsing Instagram reels and watching Marvel movies
>>32336968>I don’t think someone that says this actually goes outside and observes how many hobbies the average person has besides browsing Instagram reels and watching Marvel moviesJust because it's common doesn't mean it's not boring. I would encourage everyone to broaden there horizons and not rely on their phone to choose for them what to mindlessly stare at.
>>32337232>Just because it's common doesn't mean it's not boringI think you're severely overestimating how much having an "interesting hobby" actually matters to finding a partner. All of my coworkers are swamped with work and responsibilities to have time to cultivate a hobby. And yet all these people have partners anyway, with similarly boring people. And that's okay, because your love of lifting weights, cars, sports, or whatever isn't what's gonna determine the longevity of your relationship lmfao>don't really know who you are, what you like, and what you can offer to someone in a relationship, I don't think you're quite ready for that relationship just yetYour average airheaded broccoli zoomer has a girlfriend
