>Dated a girl from hinge>she's 22, Im 26>lives 1.5 hours away>She makes a lot less money than I do (important later)>Date 1>meet halfway>She gets really excited>she talks about marriage and having lots of kids>sticks around for a long time>I pay for all the drinks>we decide to meet the very next day>Date 2>I drive to her>a bit tired, so not quite as energetic>But she is plenty>Go by the water>she is again happy>I feel like she's too into me, very physical>Get dinner>I clumsily ask if she wants to maybe split the dinner>she says yeah>Drive her home, she's still excitable>she talks about seeing me again like i will see her>Make out in her drive way and drive away>Afterwards>Barely messages me>asks if she wants to do axe throwing>she says she doesn't have money right now>Feel bad for asking to split the check>I tell her don't worry about the money i can pay>she doesn't respond from this point>realize she was trying to reject me by saying thatI'm not surprised, I have been in this situation many times. Still, makes me a bit mad though. Was this my fault when I asked her about splitting the check? Or was she just never gonna be into me? Or, even worse, did she just want me to fuck her? I didn't have sex with her all i did was grab her breasts. I feel bad that I asked her to split the check. I don't want to pay for everything but she doesn't make good money at all, she works at a gas station.I even told her I had aspergers and she can't be literal with me. Maybe that was why she was not interested any longer
>>32337862>I don't want to pay for everything but she doesn't make good money at all, she works at a gas station.This is your problem. If you don't want to pay for everything then only date women who make more money than you or just as much as you do.
>>32337897My ex insisted on splitting bills. I still paid 60/40 or 70/30 just because. But even so, she could have told me. Unless that is too much to expect a girl to do? She even took the time to say something like "yes of course we can split the bill, that is great" Typical
>>32337897Do you think that's what caused the 180? I just don't know why she couldn't tell me it was an issue. Is dating really supposed to be this game where you fail even if you do 99% the right thing, and 1% is the wrong thing? even though she could just tell me she disagrees? I don't get it
>>32337941>I just don't know why she couldn't tell me it was an issue.a woman on the first date is gonna avoid confrontation like that if she can. many such cases
>>32337953Dating is very frustrating for me. I always seem to make a stupid mistake like this. Am I supposed to always pay? I never know what to do
>>32337972eh, just chalk it up to learning and develop a way of preventing this problem in the future. you live you learn. wait 5 days then ask her out again, saying "My treat"
>>32337991I don't think she's interested in me anymore. I think I should take a break, I've wasted so much time failing at dating this year
>>32338011nope stop the vicious cycle thinking immediately. okay, let her not be interested, absorb the lesson from it (poor women gonna not wanna pay on dates), and keep going. adapt, you just got stronger. keep at it anon
>>32337941>Is dating really supposed to be this game where you fail even if you do 99% the right thing, and 1% is the wrong thing?yeah it kinda isbut were you having text conversations that have stopped as well?you havent said anything that would indicate the ick so hopefully she is worried about money or some other shit, and will be happy when the next date you invite her on is dinner at home and a movie (sex)
>>32338027i would just tap the brakes for a little bit (maybe even 1-3 days) and ask her out again with the "my treat" offer. then OP will know whether it's the money or something else
>>32338027>>32338033no fellas it's over she left me on read yesterday and hasn't responded despite the text being a question. she was texting me instantly even at work until all of a sudden
>>32338033my treat comes with obligation to repay the giftmuch better to lower stakes and make her comfortable>Am I supposed to always pay?might as well stick with traditionI make a joke of it and get her to pay with my card
>>32338053you leaving out some information or what?
>>32338066I can send the texts in a few hours if you want (busy at the moment) but basically it's lined out in the op. not sure what else plays into it
