I'm in college and there is a girl in two of my history classes. I talk to her every day and I'm pretty interested in her. The only thing is that most of the conversations I have with her are surface level stuff about classes and music. How do I bring the conversations to a more personal level so I can move toward asking her out at some point or at least see she isn't interested?
>>32338825You don't talk to people on a personal level. That's for people in much closer relationships. If you haven't already asked her out on a date you've missed your window.
Bro if you have to solve this girl like trying to solve a CIA cryptic message from the dark web, she's not your type. The interaction should feel natural and brought about like it would with your friends.If she is a great person but doesn't like you just give her the benefit of the doubt and focus on your own life okay.
You’re over analyzing this. Sounds like your interactions with her thus far have been organic, which is good. Don’t start treating this like some science experiment. It will influence the way you communicate with her whether you realize it or not and women are generally much more adept at picking up on things like that. In conversation with her you can just explore a bit. Perhaps it’s a Monday and you mention what you did over the weekend, then you ask her what she did. If she did something you find interesting, ask her if she does it often. If she replies enthusiastically, test the waters a bit. Reply with something like “wow next time I’d like to tag along, that sounds really fun.” If she is receptive, there is a great sign for you to continue exploring. Etc.
>>32338977OP here. Best reply I've heard so far. I've only known her for a couple months I've jus been nervous to push it to far. I guess I have been thinking of it like that and not realizing it. I'll see where it goes if I try that. Thank you, anon!
>>32339647NTA but the best way to test the waters is to push but give her an out. Instead of saying "Hey, can I come with you next time?" and cornering her into a yes or no say something like "Yeah that sounds fun, hit me up if you wanna go together sometime". If she responds positively that could give you an indication to maybe escalate things in the future in which you're inviting her out to do things. Pursuing women is a delicate interplay between active and passive communication. You don't want them to feel put on the spot and cornered into giving an immediate answer to everything but you also don't want to play passive and force her to initiate everything. If you're just getting to no somebody then the passive approach works. You give her your number and say "Hey, text me sometime". If she texts and initiates a conversation first then that's a good sign that she's willing to put conscious effort into interacting with you and you can escalate further.
>>32339671It would be good if both of us weren't Christians
