I've been in the dating scene for a year now and it seems that women care more about sexual compatibility than anything else. I was hoping to save myself for my future wife as the thought of cheating on her breaks my heart, but getting the women I date off with just my mouth and fingers don't seem to be enough for them. Even when they tell me how amazing I am at it. My desire to sleep with them only exists after getting to know them well, but even after adding hard limits of a month of dating they still want to sleep with me and leave after I ask if we can wait longer.I have been getting into pornography trying to teach myself how to become more lustful, but my drive is very low and forcing myself to masturbate to pornography more than once a week is exhausting and quite humiliating to be frank. I respect myself too much to consider becoming a cuckold, but after touching myself to pornography I am envious of the ones that are.I have tried dating sexual abuse victims, but the ones I found all had degenerate kinks and wanted to sleep with me on the first date. I'm trying to find asexual women to date, but it's hard as many of them are also aromantic and I could not be in a relationship without romance.I am just tired of being lonely and fantasizing about doing romantic things with a woman. My patience is running out and I am desperately considering becoming a full-blown sociopath. Sleeping with them and fulfilling their degenerate kinks until one sticks might be the only way of finding my wife.Would value any advice.
>>32453108From my perspective I don't want to put in the effort and get invested if the sex is going to suck or if he has a legit micro dick
>>32453108You can't finesse your way out of low test. Raise test and you will be good.
>>32453108I'm a female virgin who wants to get married and sex only afterwards. Women like me still exist
>>32453125I'm slightly above average in both length and girth. They told me my cone shape is really good too. I've proven myself to women that have had many partners before and had no issues helping them reach climax. Are there really no assurances that can be made to wait until marriage? Assuming we would marry after a year of dating.>>32453172I scored around 1200 ng/dL. I just desire a deep connection with them, that's all. It's also about the fear of them leaving me afterwards and me having to live with myself.>>32453298Are you looking at all, what apps do you use (if any) and how do you evaluate the men you date? It's also difficult finding women that want to start families on the apps, so I've been trying to approach more in public spaces.
>>32453590Yes I'm looking, but not on dating apps. I don't mind short guys or guys with low income. I want a loyal loving guy who knows how to take care of a family
I am in a similar situation. Pretty sure I'm ace. I've definitely had more sex than most of the retards on here, always had positive feedback, and high test. I am now dating a girl I met on Acespace. I've only met her a couple of times, but if this works out it'd be ideal for me. Otherwise I'll probably just go back to having sex and pretending to be normal. Also, most of the people on that site are so fucking ugly I'm not sure if they're ace or too disgusting for anyone to fuck. There is a total of like 10 pretty girls on there and I think I might be the only attractive guy, so be warned.
>>32453599Are you approaching yourself or just meeting people through friends and events?Also, I'm 5'11 and make close to 6 figures. I have considered lying about my height and wealth on apps to filter out women who care for those things, but I'm afraid they might think I'd lie about other things too. How would you feel about that?>I want a loyal loving guy who knows how to take care of a familyLiterally me lol. Been taking care of a sick family member for a few years now.>>32453830Glad to hear I'm not the only one.>I've definitely had more sex than most of the retards on here.I have found it very difficult to relate to anyone here either. Soc seems to be a den full of degenerates too.>I am now dating a girl I met on Acespace.I hope it works out for you anon. Thank you for bringing the site to my attention, I will have a look at it.>most of the people on that site are so fucking uglyOh.. I don't mind ugly as I tend to like women who are considered not as beautiful to have amazing personalities. It's just hard for me to date them as they can't comprehend why and attractive man like myself would ever date them and when I tell them my life story and reasons they often think I'm lying just to sleep with them. Ironic isn't it?
>>32453125I have the same perspective, as a guy. When you're actually in the dating scene this is incredibly important.
>>32453108Well yeah, sex is important. I found a nice girl but she just insisted on riding me with no foreplay, she felt bone dry, I don't know what in God's name she thought she was doing. She seemed to enjoy It somehow, but for me it was awful and didn't have the heart to tell her. I wouldn't stay with ANYONE if the sex was like that.
>>32453590>It's also difficult finding women that want to start families on the apps, so I've been trying to approach more in public spacesHow? I see no young people outside
>>32454020>>32454071The way I see it, as a virgin, is that foreplay is 90% of the work and focusing on her body to gauge responses or simply a desire to make the other person feel good is what matters. If you're unwilling to learn what makes the other person tick it won't be enjoyable for anyone. There is no singular best way of having sex that is applicable to everyone you encounter as everyone is different right? We all enjoy different things, as long as you and your partner are willing to put in effort.>>32454085I meet a lot of people through work, traveling and my social circle. I'm friends with a few women too and they've tried to set me up with friends a few times, but it didn't work out.
>>32454345>foreplay is 90% of the workYou're exactly right, which is why I couldn't keep seeing her. She wanted to skip it and just ride me out of nowhere every time
>>32454345>they've tried to set me up with friendsnta but is that common? I've never actually had that happen. It was always either parties or cold approach
>>32454071This is why you have sex before marriage. Sexual compatibility is important. But this anon did it wrong. He should have spoken to her and see if maybe she was a little too inexperienced and help her out. Maybe she was told that's how it's done. She could have been a winner with a little help.
>>32453590Is hinge that bad?
>>32455069They all are
>>32454351I had a few ex's that were like that too and I actually had to teach them foreplay and to lower their libido. It obviously didn't work out. I hope to find someone that is fine with a once per week as we build up tension during it.>>32454461At first I was too oblivious to notice when I was being "set up", so they had to tell me. It feels weird to me; not only because I don't want my dirty laundry getting back to my friends, but also for me needing their help in the first place.>>32455069I like Hinge the most out of them all, but they are all awful. I'd like to try out a few niche ones like the MBTI or Gaming ones, but I haven't touched a videogame in years and those apps are probably full of psycho's.
>>32455163>It feels weird to me; not only because I don't want my dirty laundry getting back to my friendsYeah no this is the correct response to your friends trying to set you up IMO to be fair. If your test is really that how but your libido still that low then you might legitimately be on the asexual spectrum.
>>32453108>save myself for my future wifeNGL you are pathetic
>>32453590>Are there really no assurancesUnfortunately no
>>32455614not pathetic but naive
>>32453918Yes I've been approaching myself, but I didn't have luck yet. 5'11 is probably in the "way too tall for me" category, but I wouldn't mind dating a 5'11 guy if we were compatible. I don't like liars.6 figures is a lot, I'm not asking for it, I have my own money and I can pay for myself on dates. I just want a hard working guy.
>>32454512She was the opposite of inexperienced, she spent much of the "talking phase" hyping herself up. That's why. I'd she was inexperienced then of course, I would have tried. But she'd been with a lot of guys and that's just what she liked. I couldn't do it.
>>32453108What you find depends entirely on where you look
>>32455470I just took an online test and it said there is a strong Indication of asexuality, I've always considered myself demi as there needs to be a connection for me. I worry now that this will decrease my chances in finding someone even more, but it's good to know. I'll be doing more research on the matter.>>32455732I grew up being the parent of my parents, so I had to learn everything about life by myself. I can definitely relate to being naive, it's the biggest flaw that comes with being an optimist.>>32457450I know dating is more difficult than it used to be, but maybe we can learn something from each other. If you'd be willing to talk more, my email is roaminghusk@proton.me.>>32457474I understand what you're trying to say, but I'm not desperate to find anyone and am content with being by myself too. There's more to life than starting a family and I can get purpose and satisfaction in my work or helping my friends.
>>32459826>I can definitely relate to being naive, it's the biggest flaw that comes with being an optimist.I'm the guy that you replied to, but I kinda miss being a naive optimist. The world seems a bit more gray without that
Real love means fucking me, you dicklesscell.
>>32455732No, you're miserably inadequate; of very low standard.
>>32461126>The world seems a bit more gray without that.We choose the reality we live in. The world tends to not be as awful if you don't watch the news or use the internet and instead focus on your immediate surroundings.>>32461129I would fuck the shit out of you, but I don't know who you are.
>>32461148>The world tends to not be as awful if you don't watch the news or use the internetI know where you're coming from, but it's not that. It's moreso interpersonal dynamics, and I've seen how the ideal is just self sabotage. For example>saving myself for my future wifeIs romantic and cute. It sounds great, but that's about as realistic as a house that's larger in the inside than the outside. I never kissed a girl or held her hand until my mid twenties after which I went all pua. Those cute ideals just didn't hold up after that
>>32453108Is a good sex life after marriage important to you? The reality is that people do have specific tastes, and if one or both partners don't know what those tastes are ahead of time, they can't screen for if their partner can meet them. That's why for many people, refusing sex is a red flag.
