i moved out of my last apartment a few months ago and left a handwritten note telling my neighbor i had a crush on her and left her my number if she felt the same we could meet again. i really thought she would too at least to reach out, she was always so friendly and happy to see me when we talked in some other part of the building. also made a song about her. how big a fool am I?
>>32562300you're not a food but a lovefoolwe've all been therelearn and growthink back to when you two spoke and try to remember if she was just kind of she showed real interest in youif it was real interest try to think if it looked like real interest in a man from a woman or just friendly bondinganyways if you had a crush on her and she only saw you as a friend of course she's not going to get in contact again, he doesn't want to give you any ideas.
>>32562300You took a shot and it didn't work out. Nothing foolish about it. That's life. The only foolish thing you could possibly do is dwell on this and not move on.
>>32562318>>32562386well, i mean, i dwell on it that im still thinking about it sort of. not all the time and i keep trying to move onward, but today i woke up thinking how better life could be if she had reached out and was with me. and i have the song i made that i like and want to finish and release one day, but now the real girl its about is gone and i guess i could just treat it as a fictional character but still, it will remind me of this failure every time i listen to it when it used to make me happy and hopeful for fun times. it was always a longshot though, shes a hot single female lawyer and im a sort-of incel broke musician. im not too obsessed with her but rather the whole thing, and combined with a past love that cheated, that i'll never find real love or even gf in my situation at this rate and im getting old
>>32562300You fucked up. Women don't like to be placed in the situation where they need to take the initiative, which is what you did. You indicated your interest in a very passive way. Women subconsciously see that as the trait of a weak man and it turns them off. Instead, you should have just asked her out directly.
>>32562300The truth is, brother, women prefer schizophrenic maniacs with no filter to guys that try to be subtle.
never ever send a text or leave a message etc. you will ALWAYS have a higher chance of rejection. don't leave points on the table
>>32562300What she's thinking is that you weren't brave enough to at least tell her to her face, so why would she like you if she's perceiving you as less of man for asking like a girl
>>32562300FemanonHonestly the handwritten note is pretty cute. However a full on confession sometimes catches us off guard. Typically if you keep things kinda ambiguous we won’t ghost. Something like “dear blank, I moved out. I’m gonna miss our talks. Text me -anon” would’ve made your chances higher
>>32562300At least you gave it a try, a shame it didn't work out but you are definitely not a fool. Dont loose any sleep over it.
>>32562300Make money off of the song, even if she rejects you tons of other girls will love it lol
>>32562300Your chances would be far higher if you just asked her out in person.
>>32562300Let us hear.
>>32563315>>32564296to all saying i should've asked her in person, I thought it'd be too awkward if she said no/got creeped out and then we'd have to keep seeing eachother again and again in the hall or elevator anyway. seems like that would've been what'd happen>>32565140ehh its not ready needs more work. maybe i'll put it on /mu/ for feedback later
>>32562300cowardnext time grow a pair and make a move instead of leaving a pathetic note and letting her do the work
>>32567614well thats part of the gameWho wants a man that is too coward to do that cuz maybe later things will get "awkard" and weird and he wouldnt feel secure.and btw is not too awkard, maybe the first few times but later she will actually respect you more as a man
>>32567614>I thought it'd be too awkward if she said no/got creeped out and then we'd have to keep seeing eachother again and again in the hall or elevatorSee, that's where you are wrong. If she said no, what you ought to have done is smile, shrug, and say something like "Oh, well. If you change your mind let me know.". Then, when you see her again you would act totally cool as if it doesn't bother you, and like you've got better things to do than deal with her. Say hi, or whatever, but let her be the one that feels awkward. If you do it right, she'll wonder if there was something wrong with her that you were so blasie about brushing off her rejection. Then you've got to feed it a bit, and keep her emotions on the hook. Example: Leave your apartment dressed well with flowers and wine (as if you are going on a date). Time it so you're leaving your apartment at the moment you normally pass her in the hallway. Do other things like this on a psuedo-routine basis. It makes her feel as if you are a sought after man by women and makes her wonder if she is actually missing out, getting passed up. (Her woman brain goes like this: "looks like her id desired by other women", "that means he is a really catch", "maybe I should get him before another woman does", etc.) Again, if you do it right, she'll eventually approach you, or ther may come a moment when you feel it is the right time to act. If that happens, don'tinvite her directly. Instead invite her to something as if it is a total after thought. This keeps her intrigue elevated. Obviously, this is fairly complex, but women are complex, what can I say.Of course, if she says no, you could also just accept it and move on. The above only applies if you are really trying to "conquer" her.
>>32562547I think maybe she did like you but the class issue stood in the way of her fully accepting you as a partner.Probably she was expecting you pick her up in person to get her.Probably it wouldnt have lasted.And maybe now that there is increased distance in the equation, she has subconsciously already written you off as being too difficult to meet with.Yeah, it always sucks looking back at these situations thinking what could have been.As a dude I would be happy with just a memory of a one night stand but there's definitely drawbacks to even that, since you get closer with someone just to let them go suddenly.
>>32562300You expect her to chase you. You are the man. Its your job to chase.
>>32564302Stop lyin.
>>32563315This.
>> be op>> neighbour is a generally smiley happy person>> find that attractive >> neighbour says hi>> decide she must want to get marriedThese threads are always so fucking retarded. Why didn't your dad teach you about women?
