I've been abstaining from porn/fapping for 7 months straight. I'm unemployed, no opportunity of meeting real grills where I live, and I've been feeling down for a month of so.No drive for projects, working out on time, like I used to have etc.I used to jack it to extreme stuff and the temptation is still here (literally one click away on /gif/). Sometimes I wanna check out that one website that had new stuff regularly and I just imagine what I've missed.It wasn't always like that, at some point I had healthy fantasies again and even stashed a lot of images in the "Playboy" style to reeducate my dick, but now if I actually relapse I'm worried I'll go straight to the extreme stuff again.How do I release the tension around this? It's draining me.I know I'll feel guilty and just start a goon cycle if I relapse, all my efforts will have been for naught
What do you think nofap is really doing for you? Sounds like you're pretty miserableThere's such a thing as sexual frustration you know.Just don't be a retard and start a "goon cycle", fap every couple days and learn moderation. It will always have this power over you until you do.
>>32565460Before I answer it's worth saying I am not a member of the whole nofap(r) thing over on reddit. When I wrote nofap I just meant abstinence. I don't interact with those guys. I also don't really want to discuss the nofap movement or whatever it is. I did this because it served me well for the first few months.Got me more motivated (a lot), gave me time and motivation to do stuff, made me feel "cleaner" and put an end to the constant brain fog (being a neet I spent hours looking at porn on some days). I'm worried I'll lose this if I cave in. Especially since I've been through phases of feeling down before on nofap (but they lasted much less).I've also had a few problems with ED because of my "addiction", so it helps.>Just don't be a retard and start a "goon cycle"Yeah, that's my problem. I can do long streaks abstaining from that but once I give in, all hell breaks loose.Worried that I may just start jacking off once or twice a day and then go back to my old habits.
>>32565433>all my efforts will have been for naughtBullshit. 7 months is still impressive, and it doesn’t erase the achievement. Even if you did relapse, the relapse is called a relapse because you went back to fapping after a 7 month streak. It proves the success itself. Nothing takes that away bro. That isnt to convince you to relapse, just to remind you that your mindset should focus on the success, not the failure.
>>32565433>7moYou won, bro. Maintain this for life. If you're having a strong urge, take a cold shower. Freedom from the fap demon is the best thing a man can have. Never look back.
>>32565433Your brain is already reset. You can coom without looking at porn and it would be fine.
>>32565537No, he'll go back.Retain for life, OP.
>>32565526>>32565533>>32565537Thanks. Sometimes the urge really turns my day to shit though (and makes me feel guilty). I know I shouldn't think like that.To clarify, my goal in case of a "relapse" was to actually look at softcore and stop any hard stuff. For a while my mind and fantasies had reset to this. But right now it feels like I want to go back to the hardcore fetishes I had a while back, as I said that coincides with a period of feeling like shit. I get these "flashes", it's like my mind tries to remember everything it's forgotten. It takes much more than a cold shower to make this go away. I can go for a workout session, come back, and it'll end up haunting me again, although less than before. Repeat the next day.>>32565541I'm always tempted to do this (my longest "streak" before was 4 months but I ended up returning to porn). I write a lot and I like to read, and having a mind free of internet porn and a few other things like doomscrolling on 4chan makes me a much better writer and a much better appreciator of things. The downside is having to cope with times like now, and this has been going on for weeks.
>>32565433Masturbation is healthy.You should stop following movements started by inbred rightwing grifters (coming from an far righter)
>>32565582In moderation ofc, once or twice a week. Three times is pushing it but still, healthy. 4 or more is not good
>>32565433>caring about not jerking offretard, fuck off with that shit its not even normal
>>32565582>how do you do follow kids the post
>>32565582I already told you I'm not affiliated with that movement. I know nofap for a normal guy is useless.>>32565586>once or twice a weekMy problem was bigger than that. I'd do it sometimes up to six times a day with porn always playing on some of fifty tabs. I was a serious addict.
>>32565433Have a fap.
>>32565496That is fair. I would say you are on step one of a process of addiction recovery. Not fapping should not be your end goal, your end goal should be being able to jack off now and then without it ruining you. Now that you know you can stop it is time to learn moderation, jack off again and resist the urge to do it again for a couple days. You can do it.
